哈佛大學(xué)幸福課第15課中英文雙語(yǔ)筆記(編輯修改稿)
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【文章內(nèi)容簡(jiǎn)介】 able to make the 書(shū)里寫(xiě)道的那些人 和一般人的不同之處在于他們能夠好好 best of what happens. They see it as an opportunity, a learning 利用已經(jīng)發(fā)生的事 他們將這些事情看成機(jī)遇 experience, stepping stone. The importance of failure for 一種學(xué)習(xí)經(jīng)歷 一塊墊腳石 這就是失敗對(duì)于適應(yīng)力與完善 resilience, for well being as well. So let me move on and define 人格的作用 我們繼續(xù)談下完美主義 what we mean by perfectionism. Because there are many 因?yàn)楝F(xiàn)在有很多定義 definitions and we throw that word around constantly. But what 我們經(jīng)常談到這個(gè)詞 但是 do I actually mean by perfectionism? I define it as。 an 什么是我們所說(shuō)的完美主義 我的定義是 incapacitating fear of failure that permeates our livers, especially 一種充斥在我們生活中的對(duì)失敗的失能性恐懼 尤其是在 those areas that we care about most. Note the word 我們最在意的方面 注意 incapacitating, it is not just a fear of failure. OK I don’t know a “失能性 ”這個(gè)詞 不是只對(duì)失敗的恐懼 好吧我也不認(rèn)識(shí) person who is not afraid of failure, who is not embarrassed by it 哪怕一個(gè)不害怕失敗的 也不會(huì)因?yàn)槭「械綄擂? or feels frustrated by it. So that’s natural. That’s human whether 或者沮喪的人 這是很自然的 這就是人性 we like it or not. But an incaoacitating fear of failure is the 不管我們喜不喜歡 但對(duì)于失敗的失能性畏懼是 failure that is debilitating us, that stops us, that prevents us from 一種讓我們面對(duì)問(wèn)題的時(shí)候 裹足不前的畏懼 coping, from trying, from putting ourselves on the line. And the 而我 other part other part that I want to highlight in this definition is 要在這個(gè)定義里強(qiáng)調(diào)的另一點(diǎn)就是 that “especially those areas that we care about that we care about “尤其是我們最在意的方面 ” most”. You know, I am not a perfectionsit when it es to 你們也明白 我在玩大富翁的時(shí)候可不是完美主義 playing monopoly, it is petitive, but it’s not that important 這的確有競(jìng)爭(zhēng)性 但對(duì)于我來(lái) for me if I win or loss. But perfectionism was a central part of 說(shuō)勝敗并不重要 但是完美主義確是我生活的重心 my life when it came to as I mentioned earlier, squash which 就如同我提到過(guò)的 壁球?qū)ξ? was very meaningful to me academics which is very meaningful 而言非常重要 學(xué)術(shù)對(duì)我來(lái)說(shuō)非常重要 to me, and relationships which was and is a very important part 和別人的關(guān)系對(duì)我來(lái)說(shuō)非常重要 of my life. So in these areas, that’s where I experienced 在這方面 我體會(huì)倒了完美主義 perfectionism, and that’s where I needed to do the work and still 也是在這些方面 我必須并且一直在努力 the work. It’s in those areas. Let me elaborate on this definition. 在這些方面 讓我詳細(xì)說(shuō)明一下 It is an approach, a cognitive and emotional schema, that we hold toward the journey of our lives, toward the process of 這是我們?cè)诿鎸?duì)人生旅途的時(shí)候也就是我們從 A 點(diǎn)到 B 點(diǎn)的過(guò)程中 采取一種方式 一種認(rèn)知與情感的基礎(chǔ) getting from point A to point B. the emphasis here is on journey. 重點(diǎn)是在旅途上面 A person mitted to excellence can still be as ambitious and 一個(gè)追求卓越的人仍可能和完美主義者一樣 或者 more ambitious than a perfectionist. The difference between the 比完美主義更有野心 兩者之間的不同 two is just their approach toward the journey. Let me illustrate. 在于他們面對(duì)旅途時(shí)的方式 我來(lái)舉個(gè)例子 So let’s first take the perfectionist. The perfectionist is currently 首先是一個(gè)完美主義者 他正站在 A 點(diǎn) at point A, wants to get to the point B. what’s the perfect, most 想到 B點(diǎn)去 什么是最完美有效的 efficient path between the two points? Straight line! This is the 方式呢 就是直的路線 就是 path this is the cognitive and emotional schema that the perfectionist 這條路線 這就是完美主義者在面對(duì) has when he or she looks at the journey. How they want to get 旅途的時(shí)候抱有的認(rèn)知與感情的基膜 from where they are now to where they want to get to. A person 怎么從起點(diǎn)到終點(diǎn) mitted to , to excellence as
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