【正文】 we’ll just have to deal with the imperfect 如果不行的話我們就只 能面對(duì)不完美了 scenario, but that’s OK. I think it must be something 但那沒有關(guān)系 我想這是潛意識(shí)的問題 subconscious, because it’s too much of a coincidence that every 因?yàn)檫@也太巧合了 time something happens, walk the talk. So where were we last 每次都發(fā)生這些事情 的確是這樣 那 么我們上次講到哪了呢 time? Last time we talked about how you learned how to walk. 上次我們講到了你們是怎么學(xué)會(huì)走路的 We learned about how you learned to draw circles. And all 我們講到了你們是怎么學(xué)會(huì)畫圓圈的 都是通過 through failure. As Thomas Edison said, “I learned my way…I 不斷的失敗 正如愛迪生所說 我通過不斷的失敗以 failed my way to success,” and we saw it with top athletes, 至成功 我們從那些頂尖的運(yùn)動(dòng)員身上 whether it was Babe Ruth or Michael Jordan. We saw it with top 看到 不管是 Babe Ruth 還是 Michael Jordan 我們從那些最 business people, whether it was Thomas Watson, IBM or Anita 頂尖的商人身上看到 不管是 IBM的創(chuàng)始人 Thomas Watson Riddick, founder of the, of Body Shop, we see it with artist and Anita Riddick 美體小鋪的創(chuàng)始人 我們從藝術(shù)家和科學(xué)家 scientist, the most successful ones are also the ones who failed 身上看到 那些最成功的同樣也是失敗最多的人 the most, and these are the ones who understand the value and 而他們就是那些深刻明白失敗的價(jià)值與重要性的人 the importance of failure. I guarantee you then none of them 我向你保證 他們沒人喜歡失敗 enjoy failing. Failing hurts。 I 我也希望能做到 我希望我不必經(jīng)歷失敗 didn’t enjoy falling down many times and losing in squash, I 我不喜歡不斷的失敗與打壁球輸?shù)? certainly don’t enjoy disagreements with my wife. However, I 我當(dāng)然也不會(huì)喜歡和我妻子意見不合 also would rather not have the law of gravity and be able to fly 我甚至寧愿沒有萬有引力定律 然后我就可以 everywhere or float everywhere. This is. This is a fantasy. And 到處飛或者飄 這就是現(xiàn)實(shí) 而這就是幻想 when we have this schema in our mind, we are putting ourselves, 當(dāng)我們心中存在著這樣的基膜的時(shí)候 我們就在讓自己反抗 fighting nature, and just like we would lead an unhappy and 自然定律 就如我們?nèi)绻唤邮苋f有引力定律的話 frustrating life, if we did not accept the of gravity, we live and so 我們的生活就會(huì)充滿不快與沮喪 many people live so many people at Harvard not just at Harvard, 我們活著 那么多人活著 哈佛有不少人 不只是哈佛 everywhere are frustrated constantly, because in their minds, 所有地方都有 市場(chǎng)沮喪 因?yàn)樵谒麄冃睦? they have this schema. And again, this does not mean that we 他們一直有這樣的基膜 再說一遍 這并不是說我們?cè)? enjoy failure. But when we have this schema, in addition to not 享受失敗 但當(dāng)我們有這樣的基膜的時(shí)候 同時(shí)又不享受 enjoying failure, we have the frustration of not accepting reality. 失敗 我們就會(huì)因?yàn)殡y以接受事實(shí)而沮喪 Now there are consequences to having this schema. I want to 擁有這樣的基膜也會(huì)有后果 我想討論下 discuss some of there consequences and some of the 這樣的后果 懷有擁有這樣的基膜 characteristics of a person who holds this schema. Now there is 的人的一些特征 根本就沒有完美主義者 no perfect perfertionist. As I said, we all exist somewhere along 就如我說的 我們都存在于一個(gè) the continuum. And there are many people, again, many people 閉區(qū)間內(nèi) 確實(shí)有些人 確實(shí)有很多人 here were closer to this end of the continuum. The 接近這個(gè)區(qū)間的這端 characteristics that I’d like to share with you are all ones that are 我想和你們分享的這些特征 都是那些 documented in literature. There are many people who have them. 已經(jīng)被記載于文學(xué)作品之內(nèi) 的 有很多人擁有這樣的特征 You will identify with some of the characteristics, not with 你們大家或多或少都具有一些這樣的特征 而不是別的特征 others, that’s fine. All the characteristics in addition to being 這些都沒關(guān)系 所有的這些特征 除了都被心理學(xué)著作 well documented in the psychological literature are also ones 詳述意外 我也都有過體會(huì) that I experienced, or still experie