【正文】 它成了一種真實(shí)的存在，使一個人的精神像圣人那樣光彩四溢。雖然我們會抱怨、發(fā)牢騷，我們終會感受到自己的成長。我們會經(jīng)歷自己并不贊同的社會現(xiàn)象，經(jīng)歷那些奪走我們所摯愛的人和財(cái)物的錯綜交織的自然及人為災(zāi)難， 經(jīng)歷不良的時尚和幻想。t agree with, through interwoven natural and unnatural disasters that take our loved ones and possessions, through fads and fancies that are often unhealthy. From each event, we learn, we stretch, we sometimes fracture, we process the emotional oute, and we move on. These life events are the soul39。我們一起勤奮努力，患難與共，盡力完善自我，和家人及朋友緊密相處，努力用我們的個人道德和志向去照亮世界。愛情促使我的精神成長并煥發(fā)光彩，親情激發(fā)了我對永恒的感受，因此我學(xué)會了接受他人的真實(shí)本色。6 The only way I know to develop my soul is through feelings. Witnessing natural phenomena — the starlit galaxy, a centuriesold redwood, the symphony of birds39。t going to make their lives, their bodies, or their mental state much better. In fact, they often hamper happiness by distracting from the things that lead to real inner beauty. Life is not about maintaining some young and stylish outward costume to hide behind. It39。由于無法獲得大屏幕上所看到的那種生活，他們感到力不從心、絕望無助，并因嫉妒而陷于沮喪。re naked), that the effort of maintaining their images is an exhausting, fulltime job. The beautiful people in the media are under enormous pressure to maintain their looks, and for some reason, my clients don39。我花了37年時間才找到他，我決不會因?yàn)樗^的“審美標(biāo)準(zhǔn)上的完美”而另尋他人。盡管我們的生活不如虛幻的電影故事中描述的愛情生活那樣，它卻很美好。m not about to replace him with the socalled esthetic perfection.能有幸每天愛著理查德，我感到很高興。3 Every day, I have the delight and privilege of loving Richard, my husband, a real, human, emotionally accessible man. We39。s an emotional and spiritual walk, and it requires faith fueled with liberal doses of loving kindness.最大限度地實(shí)現(xiàn)你自己的美并不是指要讓自己在社交時漂亮或在生理上完美，況且這些也不是通過技術(shù)就能實(shí)現(xiàn)的。2 Attaining the highest degree of your beauty is not about looking good during social interaction, or physiological perfection, and you can39。t usually fulfill their promise. Besides, beautiful people are not automatically happy people.當(dāng)今，過度追求相貌修整的風(fēng)氣無比盛行，太多的人沉迷于肉毒桿菌注射的宣講會和真人秀，整容手術(shù)也日趨流行。她已經(jīng)花費(fèi)了無數(shù)個小時發(fā)愁自己的容貌不能和辛迪s. Also, she suspects that you39。t say she looks bad without receiving immediate and welldeserved outrage. But you also can39。10 By participating in this system of extreme conformity, women are actually opening themselves up to the scrutiny of other women, the only ones qualified to judge their efforts. What is the real benefit of working this hard to appease men who don39。s flawless pink polish is exactly as invisible as another39。皮特的指導(dǎo)下把化妝品敷到自己臉上，期望自己能看起來更像布拉德。re not going to get a group of middleaged men to plaster cosmetics to themselves under the instruction of Brad Pitt in hopes of looking more like him. Men don39?？墒菍θ魏我粋€理智的旁觀者來說，無論她們?nèi)绾握J(rèn)真地使用這些產(chǎn)品，她們都不可能擁有辛迪那樣的面容或膚色。我曾經(jīng)看過一期《奧普拉脫口秀》，在節(jié)目中，超級名模辛迪你肯定無法想象他會問別人說：“這個配飾的紫羅蘭色和這件外套配不配呢？”7 But women grow up thinking they need to look like Barbie dolls or girls on magazine covers, which for most women is impossible. Nonetheless, the multibilliondollar beauty industry, plete with its own aisle in the grocery store, is devoted to constant warfare on female selfesteem, convincing women that they must buy all the newest moisturizing creams, bronzing powders and appliances that promise to stimulate and restore their skin. I once saw an Oprah Show in which supermodel Cindy Crawford dispensed makeup tips to the studio audience. Cindy had all these middleaged women apply clay masks and other wrinkleremoving products to their faces。要達(dá)到這樣的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)是很荒唐的，尤其是當(dāng)我們想想那種洋娃娃的腰圍尺寸，就知道其相對尺寸對任何一個活人來說都是不可企及的。6 Why do women consider their looks so deficient? This chronic insecurity isn39。如果非要我猜測大多數(shù)女性對自己的相貌是如何評價的話，那肯定是：“還不夠好。他們的打扮方式主要就是刮刮胡子，就像打理自家草坪一樣。s done all he can.我相信，大多數(shù)男性都不會對自己的相貌感到過分自傲。t bother them。re irresistibly desirable, and they refuse to change this opinion even when they grow bald and their faces visibly wrinkle as they age.其原因是，男性和女性對外表的看法截然不同。最好的對策就是給一個誠實(shí)但又謹(jǐn)慎的回答，然后借口有急事馬上脫身。14 While there are still more biases, the key to avoiding them remains the same: When a decision matters, it is best to rely on watertight logic and a careful examination of the evidence and to remain aware that what seems like good intuition is always subject to errors of judgment.盡管還有其他更多的偏差，避免這些偏差的關(guān)鍵其實(shí)都一樣：當(dāng)涉及重要決策時，最好是依靠嚴(yán)密的邏輯并仔細(xì)審查證據(jù)；同時，要保持警惕，那些看上去良好的直覺總是很容易導(dǎo)致判斷失誤。如果他們多次連續(xù)拉動拉桿而沒有一次成功，他們可能會決定最好還是繼續(xù)把錢投入老虎機(jī)，否則他們之前投入的成本就悉數(shù)浪費(fèi)了。如果人們外出只有百萬分之一的幾率遭到人身侵犯，那么夜晚出行也就仍是安全的。9 In action this bias might lead someone to cancel a trip to, for example, the Canary Islands because of a report that the biggest plane crash in history happened there. Likewise some people might stop going out at night for fear of assault or rape.在具體行為中，這種偏差可能會使某人取消比如前往加那利群島的行程，因?yàn)橛袌?bào)道說，史上最慘重的空難就發(fā)生在那里。光靠自信是無法進(jìn)行準(zhǔn)確預(yù)測的，只有在切實(shí)證據(jù)的基礎(chǔ)上，自信才能發(fā)揮最大的作用。在一個理想的世界，當(dāng)我們百分之百地確信某件事時，我們就百分之百地正確；當(dāng)我們百分之八十地確信某件事時，我們就百分之八十地正確，以此類推。每一方都會把自己的觀點(diǎn)隔離出來，認(rèn)為其在邏輯上無懈可擊，并聲稱他們的對手忽略了某些要點(diǎn)。5 Confirmation bias is sometimes found together with fundamental attribution error. This one has two parts. First, we tend to gather and rely upon information that only confirms our existing views. Second, we avoid or veto things that refute our preexisting hypotheses.“確定性偏差”有時會和“基本歸因錯誤”一并出現(xiàn)?！蓖瑯?，這種偏差也會讓我們將自己的成功歸功于自身素質(zhì)而不是運(yùn)氣，而將別人的成功僅僅看作是運(yùn)氣使然。 I lost mine because of the recession. It also leads us to attribute our own success to our qualifications, discounting luck, while seeing others39。不管智力水平如何，這些認(rèn)知偏差都會引導(dǎo)人們作出錯誤的決定，不論他們是專家還是門外漢。ve learned, will formulate better decisions. Often this is true. Yet psychologists who study human decisionmaking processes have uncovered cognitive biases mon to all people, regardless of intelligence, that can lead to poor decisions in experts and laymen alike.傳統(tǒng)觀念將智力和思維的縝密性看作現(xiàn)代大學(xué)領(lǐng)域和科技產(chǎn)業(yè)工作的重要素質(zhì)。再看看羅伯，一個肌肉發(fā)達(dá)的蠢材，一個有了上頓沒下頓的家伙。41 I39。你知道，學(xué)校里學(xué)的東西和實(shí)際生活根本沒有什么聯(lián)系。36 You certainly can discern a fallacy when you see it, I said, my hopes starting to crumble. But don39。ll go out with me. I39。d learned her lessons too well. A few more false steps would be my doom. I decided to change tactics and try flattery instead.我又笑了笑，不過不覺得那么有趣了，同時還不能表露出我害怕她學(xué)得太好了。re a boy.“錯誤類比，”波莉立即回應(yīng)。s good.我被逗得笑了起來，她功課還真學(xué)得不錯，大大超過了我的預(yù)期。s a