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【正文】 們把靜靜地聽理解為根本沒有注意聽。語言學(xué)家萊內(nèi)特?赫希曼發(fā)現(xiàn)，女性比男性發(fā)出更多的傾聽者的聲音，如“對”，“嗯嗯”，“是”等來表示“我理解”。t listen. Linguist Lynette Hirschman found that women make more listenernoise, such as mhm,uhuh,and yeah,to show I39。There are even simpler reasons for women39。女性的回答暗示：“你不應(yīng)該感到難過，因為我也有過類似的經(jīng)歷，”從而彼此安慰。t so bad. 女性把這種回答看作是輕視她們的問題和不支持她們。ve had similar experiences,men do so by implying,You shouldn39。”Women perceived such responses as belittling and the boys seemed satisfied with women reassure each by implying,You shouldn39。例如，托德安慰理查德說他飲酒“不是什么大問題”。s problems. Tldd assured Richard that his drinking was no big problem.And when Todd said he felt left out,Richard responded,Why should you?You know more people than me. 我對10年級的孩子所進行的研究發(fā)現(xiàn)，當(dāng)女孩對朋友傾訴煩惱時，對方總是刨根問底，并且表示同意和理解。在我的研究中，女孩往往就一個話題談得很詳細，而男孩傾向于不斷改變話題。t listening especially if they swich to a topic about themselves. The girls in my study tended to talk at length about one topic,but the boys tended to jump from topic to topic. 轉(zhuǎn)移話題是男人的另一種習(xí)慣，這種習(xí)慣也給女人一個印象：他們沒有在聽。而躺在地上，蒙住眼睛會使他專心致志聽女友說話。而他則堅持說他在非常認(rèn)真地傾聽。一個年輕的女大學(xué)生感到很失望，因為每當(dāng)她告訴男朋友她想跟他談?wù)剷r，他總是躺在地上，閉上眼睛，并用手臂擋住臉。而各種年齡的男孩和成年男子就座時，相互位置都成一定的角度，眼睛看著屋子別的地方，只有時不時瞥對方一眼。我對心理學(xué)家布魯斯?多維爾錄制的關(guān)于兒童與成人分別與他們的同性好友交談時的錄像帶進行了研究。這種給人沒有在聽的印象是由于男女對話方式的不同而引起的。t listening even when they young woman in college was frustrated:whenever she told her boyfriend she wanted to talk to him,he would lie down on the floor,close his eyes,and put his arm over his face. This signaled to her,He39。t listening.and men protest I am,the man are right. The impression of not listening results from misalignments in the mechanics of misalignment begins as soon as a man and a woman take physical position. When I studied videotapes made by psychologist Bruce Dorval of children and adults taking to their samesex best friends,I found at every age,the girls and women faced each other directly,their eyes anchored on each other39。這也許是為什么女人抱怨男人不聽她們說話的根源之一。t listen to them. 男孩的群體比女孩的要大，所包括的人更廣泛, 也更具有等級特色。 group are larger, more inclusive, and more hierachical, so boys must struggle to avoid the subordinate position in the group. This may play a role in women39。既然他們不認(rèn)為交談能夠鞏固感情關(guān)系，他們不知道女人需要何種交談，也不會因為沒有交談而感到遺憾。t there. 男孩間的關(guān)系和女孩一樣緊密。t know what kind of talk women want, and they don39。, but they are based less on talking, more on doing things together. Since they don39。對她們來說重要的不是某個具體的討論話題，而是在說出自己的想法、感受和印象時所表現(xiàn)出來的那種親密的、分享生活的感覺。同樣，成年女性也把交談看作友誼的基礎(chǔ)。而交談是編織這種紐帶的線。 For women, as for girls, intimacy is the fabric of relationships, and talk is the thread from which it is woven. l
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