【文章內(nèi)容簡介】 spouse. Women in today’ society suffer from divorce more frequently. The divorce rate is higher and higher than ever before. One factor accounts for the high divorce rate is distrust between the wives and husbands. Some women plain that their husbands do not e back home punctually after work. For example, if the husbands have not been back after the work time, the wives may wonder what the husbands are doing. Why do they have so many appointments of work? Are they really working over time? Are they having an informal relationship with other female workmates? Will they go dance or have dinner or date other beautiful, young, charming ladies? And some time when husbands fet their birthday, wedding anniversary, Valentine’s day or other important festivals which the wives regard highly, the wives may suspect whether they do not love them any more, whether they are not so attractive to them or for some other reasons. With such suspects in mind, the wives can not wait calmly. They may even employ detectives to trace husbands’ life. When the husbands find what the wives do behind them, they may feel unfortable to stay with them. Then a previous happy family may bee a battle field. So husbands and wives should trust each other.2. RespectRespect is also important for a happy family life. Carnegie, a famous American writer, has written a famous book titled “the weakness of the human being”, in which he says that if you want to have a happy family you should never try to change your partner’s hobbits, ideas ,etc. Every person has his own characters and features. Being a spouse does not mean that husband should reshape his own personalities or belief or other routine according to the requirements of the wife. If the husband can accept wife’ suggestions, that is ok. But if the husband really will not change, women should remember never to force the husband to do it. Even though you two are couple now, respect is also needed between you. Respect can make the partner have their own secret or make the other part fortable.Women should not only respect husbands but also the children. In today’s society there are some cases that 英語畢業(yè)論文 ivthe mother or the father read the child’s private letters or diaries, which is against the law. Every person has his own secret which he does not want to be found by others including the parents. Even though the parents say that they do this because they love children and care about their growth and do not want them to get into the trouble. But children also have something belonging to their own. So respect is also important to the happiness of a harmonious family.3. LoveBesides trust and respect, love of course is the essence of a family. Some people say that marriage is the grave of love. Maybe it is partly because that after people getting married the sweet love which make lovers attractive to each other disappear slowly. A family without love is like a building without foundation and framework, then the building of family gets ruined day by day until all the whole building falls into pieces and nothing remains.People say “l(fā)ove is stronger than death.” Melanie has the energy to take the danger of miscarriage and death, which is because she has a great love for her husband and child. Love is powerful, which can make a poor family happy. Even though some families are not so rich as others, they are still harmonious ones admired by the rich ones, for what the rich families lack is just what the poorer family has—love, which can not be brought by money, or be measured by money. Love is valuable. Love is the essence of the family and women should always be full of love which makes her attractive and mercy and favorable to others. Ⅳ. Suggestions on How to Achieve Success in Interpersonal Relationship for a WomanInterpersonal relationship is an initial part of life. Every one is part or unit of this integrated society. Nobody can live in the society without munication with others. So interpersonal relationship is what women should care about. In terms of interpersonal relationship, Scarlet and Melanie are of two different styles. Both set a good example to a woman who intends to achieve success in this field.A. to Learn from Scarlet and Use One’s Beauty Properly to Attract OthersScarlet in Gone with the Wind attracted almost every man she met. Just like in the first paragraph of Gone with the Wind:Scarlet O’Hara was not beautiful, but men seldom realized it when caught by her charm as the Tarleton twins are. In her face were two sharply blended the delicate features of her mother, a coast aristocrat of French descent, and the heavy ones of her florid Irish father. But it was an arresting face, painted of chin, square of jaw. Her eyes were pale green without a touch of hazel, starred with bristly black lashes and slightly titled at the ends. Above them, her thick black brows slanted upwards…She has the smallest waist in three counties. (Margaret, 3)Scarlet knew the arts and graces of being attractive to man. She knew how to smile so that her dimples leaped。 how to walk pigeontoed so that her wide hoop skirts swayed entrancingly 。 how to look up into a man’s face and then rope her eyes and bat the lids rapidly so that she seemed a kind girl with gentle emotion. Most of all she learned how to conceal from men a sharp intelligence beneath a face as sweet and bland as a baby’s. Scarlet’s mother taught her all that a gentlewoman should know, but she learned only the outward signs of gentility. The inner grace from which these signs should spring she now learned, nor did she see any reason for learning it. Appearance was enough, for the appearance of ladyhood had won her popularity and that was all she wanted. She had received proposals from nearly all the young men in the neighborhood and many other places.