【文章內(nèi)容簡介】 n and not quite enough time. Isnamp。39。t that true? So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, amp。quot。You have 10 extra years to start your lifeamp。quot。? Nothing happens. You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.
　　雷昂納德。伯恩斯坦說過：要想取得成就，你需要一個計劃和緊迫的時間。這是大實話啊!所以當你拍著一個20多歲的人的腦袋，跟他說，”。你有額外的2020年去開始你的生活”。，你覺得這改變了什么?什么都沒改變。你只是奪走了那個人的緊迫感和雄心壯志，絕對沒有改變什么。
　　And then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and daughters e into my office and say things like this: amp。quot。I know my boyfriendamp。39。s no good for me, but this relationship doesnamp。39。t count. Iamp。39。m just killing time.amp。quot。 Or they say, amp。quot。Everybody says as long as I get started on a career by the time Iamp。39。m 30, Iamp。39。ll be fine.amp。quot。
　　然后每天，那些聰明有趣的20多歲的人就像你們和你們的兒子女兒一樣，走入我的辦公室開始說：”。我知道我的男朋友對我不夠好，但是我們的關系不算數(shù)。我只是在消磨時光而已。”。或者說”。每個人都告訴我只要能在30歲的時候開始我的事業(yè)，這就足夠了?！?。
　　But then it starts to sound like this: amp。quot。My 20s are almost over, and I have nothing to show for myself. I had a better ramp。eacute。sumamp。eacute。 the day after I graduated from college.amp。quot。 And then it starts to sound like this: amp。quot。Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs. Everybody was running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down.
　　但是實際聽上去卻是：”。我馬上就要三十了，卻根本就沒有東西展示。我只是在大學畢業(yè)時有過一份最漂亮的簡歷?！?。 或是這樣：”。我20多歲時的約會就像找凳子。每個人都繞著凳子跑，隨便玩一玩，但是快30的時候就像音樂停止了，所有人開始坐下。
　　I didnamp。39。t want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30.amp。quot。 Where are the twentysomethings here? Do not do that. Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high.
　　我不想成為那唯一站著的人，所以有時候我會想我和我丈夫之所以會結婚，是因為在我30歲的時候，他是當時離我最近的那張凳子。在場的20多歲的人吶，千萬不要這樣做。這個做法聽起來有點輕率，但是不要犯錯，因為風險很高。
　　When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jumpstart a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time. Many of these things are inpatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.
　　當很多事都被擠到你30多歲的時候，就會有巨大壓力，在很短的時間內(nèi)快速啟動一項事業(yè)，挑一個城市，找到伴侶，生兩三個孩子。這些事大多是不能同時完成的，正如研究表明，在30歲的時候要想工作生活一步到位，難度很高，壓力很大。
　　The postmillennial midlife crisis isnamp。39。t buying a red sports car. Itamp。39。s realizing you canamp。39。t have that career you now want. Itamp。39。s realizing you canamp。39。t have that child you now want, or you canamp。39。t give your child a sibling.
　　千禧年后的中年危機并不是一輛紅色跑車。而是意識到你不能擁有你想擁有的事業(yè)，意識到你不能擁有你想要的孩子，或者給你的孩子添個兄弟姐妹。
　　Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves, and at me, sitting across the room, and say about their 20s, amp。quot。What was I doing? What was I thinking?amp。quot。 I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.
　　太多30多歲40多歲的人看看他們自己，看看我，坐在屋子里談論自己的20多歲，”。我當時都干么了?我當時都想啥了?”。我想改變現(xiàn)在20多歲人的所思所為。
　　Hereamp。39。s a story about how that can go. Itamp。39。s a story about a woman named Emma. At 25, Emma came to my office because she was, in her words, having an identity crisis. She said she thought she might like to work in art or entertainment, but she hadnamp。39。t decided yet, so sheamp。39。d spent the last few years waiting tables instead.
　　這里我想講個故事說明問題。這個故事是關于名叫Emma一個女人。她25歲的時候走入我的辦公室，因為用她自己的話說，她有自我認識危機。她說她也許想從事關于藝術或者娛樂的工作，但是她還沒決定。所以取而代之的是她花了過去幾年的時間當服務員。