【正文】 xamp。s 20s a developmental downtime.
　　這就是心理學(xué)家說(shuō)的”。正是那個(gè)時(shí)候我意識(shí)到，30歲不是一個(gè)新的20歲。
　　That made Alexamp。s 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it. That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere.
　　更晚安定下來(lái)，應(yīng)該使Alex的20多歲成為發(fā)展的黃金時(shí)段，而我們卻坐在那里忽視這個(gè)發(fā)展的時(shí)機(jī)。
　　There are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States right now. Weamp。re talking about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider that no oneamp。s getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.
　　現(xiàn)在在美國(guó)，20多歲的人有五千萬(wàn)，也就是15%的人口，或者可以說(shuō)所有人口，因?yàn)樗谐赡耆硕家?jīng)歷他們的20多歲。39。39。39。39。 Okay. Awesome, twentysomethings really matter.
　　如果你現(xiàn)在20多歲，請(qǐng)舉手。哦，很好。很棒，看來(lái)20多歲的人確實(shí)很受重視。你20多歲的時(shí)光決定了你的事業(yè)、愛情、幸福甚至整個(gè)世界。39。quot。quot。這些是事實(shí)。這就意味著你生活的重要決定、經(jīng)歷和突然的領(lǐng)悟，有八成是在你30多歲之前發(fā)生的。39。39。我們知道職業(yè)生涯的前2020年對(duì)你將來(lái)的收入有重大影響。
　　We know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change it. We know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35.
　　我們知道人在20多歲的時(shí)候大腦停止第二次也是最后一次重組，以適應(yīng)成年世界的快速發(fā)育階段。我們知道在20多歲的時(shí)候，性格的改變多于生命中任何時(shí)期。
　　So your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options. So when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain. Itamp。s a time when your ordinary, daytoday life has an inordinate impact on who you will bee.
　　所以你的20多歲正是了解你自身和選擇的時(shí)期。這個(gè)時(shí)期，日常的普通生活都會(huì)對(duì)你的未來(lái)道路影響巨大。39。39。但是20多歲的人卻聽不到這些，報(bào)紙討論的只是成年年齡界線的變更。quot。quot。quot。quot。39。記者就引用傻傻的外號(hào)稱呼20多歲的人，比如”。 (twentymixters)和”。(kidadults)。作為一種文化，我們的忽視的正是對(duì)成年起到?jīng)Q定性作用的十年(從20歲到30歲)。39。quot。quot。伯恩斯坦說(shuō)過(guò)：要想取得成就，你需要一個(gè)計(jì)劃和緊迫的時(shí)間。你有額外的2020年去開始你的生活”。你只是奪走了那個(gè)人的緊迫感和雄心壯志，絕對(duì)沒有改變什么。quot。39。39。39。quot。quot。39。39。quot。我知道我的男朋友對(duì)我不夠好，但是我們的關(guān)系不算數(shù)?！薄Ｃ總€(gè)人都告訴我只要能在30歲的時(shí)候開始我的事業(yè)，這就足夠了。
　　But then it starts to sound like this: amp。My 20s are almost over, and I have nothing to show for myself. I had a better ramp。sumamp。 the day after I graduated from college.amp。 And then it starts to sound like this: amp。Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs. Everybody was running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down.
　　但是實(shí)際聽上去卻是：”。我只是在大學(xué)畢業(yè)時(shí)有過(guò)一份最漂亮的簡(jiǎn)歷。 或是這樣：”。每個(gè)人都繞著凳子跑，隨便玩一玩，但是快30的時(shí)候就像音樂停止了，所有人開始坐下。39。quot。在場(chǎng)的20多歲的人吶，千萬(wàn)不要這樣做。
　　When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jumpstart a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time. Many of these things are inpatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.
　　當(dāng)很多事都被擠到你30多歲的時(shí)候，就會(huì)有巨大壓力，在很短的時(shí)間內(nèi)快速啟動(dòng)一項(xiàng)事業(yè)，挑一個(gè)城市，找到伴侶，生兩三個(gè)孩子。
　　The postmillennial midlife crisis isnamp。t buying a red sports car. Itamp。s realizing you canamp。t have that career you now want. Itamp。s realizing you canamp。t have that child you now want, or you canamp。t give your child a sibling.
　　千禧年后的中年危機(jī)并不是一輛紅色跑車。
　　Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves, and at me, sitting across the room, and say about their 20s, amp。What was I doing? What was I thinking?amp。 I wan