【正文】 t: it was easy to forget that that woman was dimensional, had a soul, and was once ，我承認我犯了錯，特別是不該戴那頂貝雷帽。但是，除了事件本身，我因此受到的關(guān)注和審判是前所未有的。我被貼上“淫婦”、“妓女”，“蕩婦”，“婊子”，“蠢女人”的標簽，當然，還有“那個女人”。許多人看到了我，但很少有人真正了解我。對此我表示理解，因為人們很容易忘記“那個女人”也是一個活生生的人，她也有靈魂，她也曾過著平靜的生活。When this happened to me 17 years ago, there was no name for we call it cyberbullying and online , I want to share some of my experience with you, talk about how that experience has helped shape my cultural observations, and how I hope my past experience can lead to a change that results in less suffering for ，對于我經(jīng)歷的這些遭遇還沒有一個專有名詞?，F(xiàn)在，我們稱之為“網(wǎng)絡(luò)欺凌”和“網(wǎng)上騷擾”。今天我要與你們分享一些我的經(jīng)歷，我想談?wù)勀谴谓?jīng)歷是如何形成了我的文化觀察，我希望我過去的經(jīng)歷能夠產(chǎn)生一些改變，減少他人的痛苦。In 1998, I lost my reputation and my lost almost everything, and I almost lost my ，我失去了名譽和尊嚴。我?guī)缀跏チ怂校規(guī)缀跏チ宋业娜松?。丑聞爆發(fā)之后，鋪天蓋地都是對此事件的報道。Let me paint a picture for is September of 39。m sitting in a windowless office room inside the Office of the Independent Counsel underneath humming fluorescent 39。m listening to the sound of my voice, my voice on surreptitiously taped phone calls that a supposed friend had made the year ’m here because I39。ve been legally required to personally authenticate all 20 hours of taped the past eight months, the mysterious content of these tapes has hung like the Sword of Damocles over my mean, who can remember what they said a year ago?讓我來描繪這樣一幅場景：1998年9月的一天，我坐在美國獨立檢察官辦公室一間沒有窗的屋子里，頭頂上的日光燈嗡嗡作響。我正在聽我的錄音，那是一位所謂的朋友偷偷錄下的電話談話。我被依法要求鑒定那20個小時的電話錄音是真實的。在過去的八個月里，這些錄音帶中神秘的內(nèi)容就像一把懸在我頭頂?shù)倪_摩克利斯之劍。我的意思是，有誰會記得自己一年前說過的話？ Scared and mortified, I listen, listen as I prattle on about the flotsam and jetsam of the day。listen as I confess my love for the president, and, of course, my heartbreak。listen to my sometimes catty, sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self being cruel, unforgiving, uncouth。listen, deeply, deeply ashamed, to the worst version of myself,a self I don39。t even ，我聽著錄音，聽我閑扯每天發(fā)生的瑣碎之事；聽我坦白對總統(tǒng)的愛慕，當然，還有我的心碎；聽有時尖酸，有時粗魯，有時愚蠢的我是如何冷酷，無情，無理取鬧。我?guī)е钌畹男呃⒙犞莻€最糟糕的我的聲音，糟糕到我自己都不認識了。A few days later, the Starr Report is released to Congress, and all of those tapes and trans, those stolen words, form a part of people can read the trans is horrific enough, but a few weeks later, the audio tapes are aired on TV, and significant portions made available public humiliation was was almost ，斯塔爾報告提交至國會，那些錄音帶和文字記錄，那些被竊取的言語，都是這份報告的一部分。人們能夠讀到這些文字對我來說已經(jīng)夠恐怖了，但是幾個星期后，那些錄音又在電視上播放，有一些重要的內(nèi)容還被發(fā)布在網(wǎng)絡(luò)上。公開的羞辱讓我飽受折磨。這樣的生活讓我?guī)缀鯚o法忍受。This was not something that happened with regularity back then in 1998, and by this, I mean the stealing of people39。s private words, actions，conversations or photos, and then making them publicpublic without consent, public without context, and public without ，我所說的這些還并不常見。我指的是竊取他人私下的言語、行動、談話內(nèi)容和照片，并公之于眾——在未經(jīng)本人同意，未交待背景的情況下，毫無惻隱之心地將這些內(nèi)容公之于眾。Fast forward 12 years to 2010, and now social media has been landscape has sadly bee much more populated with instances like mine, whether or not someone actually make a mistake, and now it39。s for both public and private consequences for some have bee dire, very ，社交媒體誕生了?？杀氖?，社交媒體上充斥著更多像我這樣的例子，不管這個當事人是不是真的犯了錯，而且，公眾人物和普羅大眾都深受其害。對于有些人來說，后果是嚴重的，非常嚴重。I was on the phone with my mom in September of 2010, and we were talking about the news of a young college freshman from Rutgers University named Tyler , sensitive, creative Tyler was secretly webcammed by his roommate while being intimate with another the online world learned of this incident, the ridicule and cyberbullying few days later, Tyler jumped from the George Washington Bridge to his was ，我正在和我的母親通電話，我們在討論一則新聞，關(guān)于羅格斯大學(xué)的一個名叫泰勒 克萊門蒂的大一新生。可愛、敏感、富有創(chuàng)意的克萊門蒂被室友偷拍到和另一個男人有親密關(guān)系。當這個視頻在網(wǎng)絡(luò)世界曝光后，嘲笑和網(wǎng)絡(luò)欺凌的火種被點燃。幾天后，泰勒從喬治華盛頓大橋上縱身跳下。一個年僅18歲的生命就這樣逝去。My mom was beside herself about what happened to Tyler and his family, and she was gutted with painin a way that I just couldn39。t quite understand, and then eventually I realized she was reliving 1998, reliving a time when she sat by my bed every night, reliving a time when she made me shower with the bathroom door open, and reliving a time when both of my parents feared that I would be humiliated to death,，她所表現(xiàn)出的痛苦讓我并不十分理解。后來，我才終于意識到，她正在重新經(jīng)歷1998年發(fā)生的一切。重新經(jīng)歷她每晚坐在我的床頭的時候；重新經(jīng)歷她要我開著浴室門洗澡的時候，重新經(jīng)歷她和父親擔心我會因為受到羞辱而自尋短見的時候。真的是這樣。Today, too many parents haven39。t had the chance to step in and rescue their loved many have learned of their child39。s suffering andhumiliation after it was too ，太多父母沒有機會及時介入來拯救他們摯愛的孩子。太多的人，當他們獲悉自己的孩子的痛苦和受到的羞辱時，已為時已晚。Tyler39。s tragic, senseless death was a turning point for served to recontextualize my experiences, and I then began to look at the world of humiliation and bullying around me and see something 。他讓我開始重新審視我的親身經(jīng)歷，他讓我開始觀察身邊這個充滿羞辱和欺凌的世界，讓我看到了不同的東西。In 1998, we had no way of knowing where this brave new technology called the Internet would take then, it has connected people in unimaginable ways, joining lost siblings, saving lives, launching revolutions, but the darkness, cyberbullying, and slutshaming that I experienced had ，沒有人知道這種名叫“因特網(wǎng)”的新技術(shù)會把人類帶向何方。自誕生以來，因特網(wǎng)用難以想象的方式將人類聯(lián)系起來。它讓人們找到失散的兄弟姐妹、拯救生命、發(fā)起革命，但是我所遭受的黑暗、網(wǎng)絡(luò)欺凌和被稱為“蕩婦”的羞辱也如雨后春筍般瘋長。Every day online, people, especially young people who are not developmentally equipped to handle this, are so abused and humiliated that they can39。t imagine living to the next day, and some, tragically, don39。t, andthere39。s nothing virtual about , a that39。s focused on helping young people on various issues,released a staggering statistic late last year: From 2012 to 2013, there was an 87 percent increase in calls and s related to metaanalysis done out of the Netherlands showed that for the first time, cyberbullying was leading to suicidal ideations more significantly than offline you know what shocked me, although it shouldn39。t have, was other research last year that determined humiliation was a more intensely felt emotion than either happiness or even ，在網(wǎng)絡(luò)上都會有人，特別是年輕人被辱罵和羞辱，而他們對此束手無策。這些辱罵和羞辱讓他們想立刻死去。悲劇的是，有些人，真的因此死去。這一點兒也不虛擬。ChildLine是英國一個致力于幫助年輕人解決各種問題的公益組織。去年年底，該組織公布了一組令人震驚的數(shù)據(jù)：從2012年到2013年，與網(wǎng)絡(luò)欺凌有關(guān)的電話和郵件數(shù)量增加了87%。一份來自荷蘭的綜合分析首次披露，網(wǎng)絡(luò)欺凌比線下欺凌更容易讓