【正文】 rofessor You Xiuling, the origin of knife and fork is related to the life habit of ancient European nomads, who always took knife along them and live on cut down and eat meat as soon as it then on, westerners use knife and fork as their TraditionThe different ethnic and national historical development process may result in different history and of years of Chinese traditional culture reflected in the Chinese Confucianism, Taoism and the core of Chinese traditional culture, Confucianism produces a profound and long influence on Chinese has the traditional thought mainly emphasized “benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom, faith”.Taoists advocated “accustomization nature”, “pure” and he Buddhist is advocated “merciful Purdue beings” and “harmony”, “continued”.In the book Culture on Dinner Table, Zhongtian said that the core thought of Chinese culture is group consciousness while the western core thought is individual sharp contrast, the western culture is a kind of “guilt” believe in god created western culture, to be selfcentered, the boundary between people is clear and they do not allow mutual individual culture contributed to western table manners without sharing a plate of Chinese love peace and quiet life in the forest, and in the dining room use cheap chopsticks as chopsticks can also reflect Chinese collective prefer to colonize in restaurants, use a knife and fork in the and fork also can reflect individual consciousness, and noble west of the use of chopsticks we can see the whole course of using chopsticks is collaborative one of them is absent, the whole work cannot be shows that collectivism is the core thought of Chinese knife and fork is born in modern industrial society, which is the production of main material is metal which shows social function of modern society, and failed to get rid of its offensive during socialization CustomCustom culture refers to the culture that formed in the daily social life and human munication activity by ethnic and differences of custom between east and west are nationalities show different ethnic culture and custom on many aspects such as greeting, thanks, flattery, apology, or making telephone example, when Chinese meet acquaintance, they always greet each other by asking “have you eaten” or “where are you going”.While in western culture, it does not belong to the greeting but a real may think “why does he ask me whether I have eaten” “does he want to invite me to have dinner”.When Chinese invited guests to have dinner, there are so many dishes on the table, but host says repeatedly “there is nothing for you” “have a potluck” and similar host also helps pick food for guests and try his best to make guests eat and drink often doubted about this is not realistic behaviour that host said there is nothing when there are so many dishes on the their meal is very simple which often with a small number of delicious vegetables when they treat just says “help yourself” and they never carry food to guest39。s moral cultivation and acplishment level as the deepen of open policy in our country and the strengthen of munication between East and West, it is necessary for us to improve the consciousness of crosscultural munication and know the differences of table manners, such as sense of arriving time, seat arrangement, order of serving dishes, tableware, behaviour, munication and so fully understanding of the differences can prevent the failure in politeness and promote personal status on the dinner if we realize cultural connotation of table manners and the differences between East and West, can we talk and behave decently in crosscultural munication and make social munication an acute eye and an irrepressible wit, Margaret Visser takes a fascinating look at the way we eat our meals in the book The Rituals of the ancient Greeks to modern yuppies, from cannibalism and the taking of the Eucharist to formal dinners and piics, she thoroughly defines the eating takes the different table manners in different areas and races to show the development of the world the book Culture on Dinner Table, Zhongtian(2004)says that the core thought of Chinese culture is group consciousness while the western core thought is individual order respective dishes by themselves rather than ask others for what they the contrary, Chinese agrees that personal will should obey group mon the book Differences and Syncretize of Etiquette Culture between East and West, Xiaojun explores the syncretism of etiquette culture between East and West on the basis of table manners to achieve the harmonious Lin and Zhou You pare the cultural differences between East and West from the point of view on tableware, seat arrangement, dinner atmosphere and aims at warning people to treat exotic culture with an objective, tolerant and respectful attitude while insisting on their own culture, in order to municate properly and appropriately in crosscultural Differences of Table Manners Sense of Arriving Time Hall has classified two kinds of people according to his is monochromic time and the other is polychromic time(Edward Hall, 1976:17).People from western countries hold monochromic time assuming time is linear and can be cut, so they pay much more attention to timetables and are slaves to nothing but the clock, and time is treated as if it were something almost people from eastern countries insist on polychromic time, having no ideas of fixed , this difference is more obvious when attending a speaking, Chinese people which holding polychromic time tend to be later to show often arrive half an hour later than the prescribed time and the host also seems to have prepares for always arrange some other programs for guests while waiting, such as playing cards, drinking tea or chatting, so that the guests who e earlier would not feel the host and guests are used to this phenomenon and they do not regard this as a contempt or impolite behavior to the