【正文】 y treat. You?re a student, I?m a professor. You?ve given me the time to show me around. You already paid for my drink. I can?t let you pay for my lunch again.” Case 15 A Gift from a Chinese Student Xie Dong did his graduate study in an American university. He came back to China for summer vacation. When he went back to his program, he paid his supervisor a visit and presented him a gift. The professor opened the gift. It was a ginseng with its many tiny roots spreading out in a very artistic pattern. It clearly was an expensive gift. The professor?s eyes shone at the ginseng, but he then began to feel uneasy. “Xie Dong, I appreciate your kindness, but I can?t take this as a gift.” “ Why? Don?t you like it?” It was Xie Dong?s turn to be uneasy now. “ Oh, sure, I love it. But I can?t accept it.” “Why?” “ Because I didn?t do anything to deserve such a gift.” Case 16 Telephone Courtesy Kathy and David, a couple from the US, signed a oneyear contract to work in China. Both were extroverted and soon made some Chinese friends. Before long, people started calling them at home. David was sometimes away on business trips for a few days, and if someone looked for him, Kathy often would find the conversation awkward. “ Where did he go?” The caller typically would ask. “Can I pass on any message?” Kathy asked politely, trying to avoid the question. “Is he out of town?” The caller was usually very persistent. “Yes, can I help you in any way?” Kathy tried to be polite, but she could not help feeling unfortable. Case 17 “Not So Close, Please” He Jia had lived in the United States for 7 years before she came back to work in China. She found that she had bee accustomed to social habits in North America and that some Chinese behaviours now caused her some disfort. For example, one day, back in China, she was in a queue to use an ATM. She had noticed that people were standing very close to each other. In fact, the person behind her could, if she or he wanted, to see her enter the PIN of her ATM card. He Jia wanted to make people aware of the disfort of the user by keeping her distance from the person in front of her. However, the people behind her pushed her to move forward. Case 18 The Privacy of the Page Simon and Cheng Feng often studied together to prepare for exams. One day, in the middle of a study session, Simon said he wanted to get a coffee. He asked Cheng Feng if he wanted any, but he said, “No”. When he came back, he found Cheng Feng reading his notes. He was upset and, although he didn?t say anything at the time, he never studied with Cheng Feng again. Cheng Feng noticed the change and wondered what had happened. Case19 The Privacy of Photographs Rose invited Lili to her home one day. While they were having coffee, Rose showed Lili a few pictures of her boyfriend in a photo album. Lili casually turned to other pages after that. Rose stopped her, “I?d rather you not look at other pictures.” Lili was embarrassed, and apologized, “I?m sorry.” Case 20 The Privacy of Price After living in the States for some time, Ping Li observed that Americans like to ment on each other?s looks and clothes. So when she saw a fellow graduate student wearing a nice dress at a party, she plimented her by saying. “This is a very beautiful dress.” “Oh thank you , I bought it last year before Christmas ,” the student very pleased. “How much was it?” Ping Li asked. “Well I don?t quite remember,” the student seemed unprepared for the question, and answered a little hesitatingly. Case 21 The Privacy of the Person Zou Qing and Nancy became friends after they met in a course they both took． Nancy had had gray hair much earlier than people of the same age， and had been dyeing her hair for several years. While they were having a break one day in between two classes, and Zou Qing noticed that Nancy had some invisible gray hair on her. She told her so, but Nancy changed the topic right away. When everyone else left， Nancy said to Zou Qing， “Please don?t mention my gray hair while there were men around.” Case 22 Unacceptable Curiosity Mr and Mrs Peterson came to China with a tour group. One evening, they decided to take a walk outside their hotel. They soon noticed that quite a few people stared at them. One man even quickly walked past them and then turned back to look at them several times. Both Mr and Mrs Peterson felt unfortable about the staring and went back to the hotel sooner than they had planned. Case 23 Confusion in Communicating Love Le, a Chinese woman, and Bill, an American man, were very much in love. Their relationship started with their shared interest in photography. As time went on, however, Le became dependent on Bill whenever she wanted to take a picture, because she felt that Bill was a much better photographer than she was. Whenever she noticed a scene that would make a good image, she would ask Bill to take the picture for her. Bill was not very pleased but did not say anything for a while. However, Le soon got to a point where she began to ask Bill to load and unload the film. Bill decided that it was too much for him to bear. He exploded, “What?s the matter with you? Don?t you know how to load and unload a film? Can?t you take a picture any more?” Le was so shocked that she burst into tears. “I ask you to do things only because you do it better than me. What?s wrong with that?” Case24 Unwanted Attention Teresa is a Chinese American teaching English temporarily at a Chinese university. She is very easy going, and soon the students got to know her well enough to invite her out regularly. Crossing the very busy and wide streets in