【正文】 lue, improve their conscious and confidence. So they put the independence in the first priority. They think the purpose of education is not for preparing to make a living but for surviving. As we can see from here. 39。Citizen39。 does not mean Caucasian. But if he is not a citizen, you should immediately do number two. See here, you should have a baby. Boy or girl,it doesn39。t matter in the United States. Neither will take care of you in your old age, isn39。t that true? And we both laughed. (Amy Tan 201) Therefore, American parents pay special attention to children’s “exercise” such as: “Labor Exercise”, “Loyal or Honesty Exercise”, etc. They try their best to help the children to form their own habit and notion of independent so as to have a bright future. They act like a guide to help their children to dig out their own potential and make their dream into realization. The Purpose of Chinese Family EducationHigh Expectations VS High UtilityThe purpose of the Chinese education is expecting their children to be a successful person. When Jingmei’s mother Suyun came to America, she brought a swan from China, she thought: In America I will have a daughter just like me. But over there nobody will say her worth is measured by the loudness of her husband39。s belch. Over there nobody will look down on her, because I will make her speak only perfect American English. And over there she will always be too full to swallow any sorrow! She will know my meaning, because I will give her this swan—a creature that became more than what was hoped for.” (Amy Tan 17) This is actually the family education purpose that the entire four mothers are for their daughter. Hope their children to be a successful person. Chinese parents pay special attention to their children’s school achievements. They always follow the old patterns in training children, but always ignore their interest. In order to make a good learning environment or give more time to learn, some of the parents do all the small stuff to their children, such as washing their children’s close and preparing the cooked meals and clean the children’s rooms, etc. After Waverly achieved a lot in playing Chess, she got a lot of care and privilege from her mother: Ma, I can39。t practice when you stand there like that, I said one day. She retreated to the kitchen and made loud noises with the pots and pans. When the crashing stopped, I could see out of the corner of my eye that she was standing in the doorway. Hmmmph! Only this one came out of her tight throat. My parents made many concessions to allow me to practice. One time I plained that the bedroom I shared was so noisy that I couldn39。t think. Thereafter, my brothers slept in a bed in the living room facing the street. I said I couldn39。t finish my rice。 my head didn39。t work right when my stomach was too full. I left the table with halffinished bowls and nobody plained. (Amy Tan78) Auntie Lindo try her best to satisfied Waverly’s learning needs in almost every aspects. Their purpose is to make sure that their children could find a better job and to live a better life. It is of high expectations, high utility and harder to make it into realization. Based on this purpose, the parents pay special attention to their school achievement. What’s more, some of the parents even prepare everything for their children to just focus on study. Their only request for their children is to make sure that they can sit for learning so as to achieve higher diploma. However, they ignore their potential, restraint their creation, on the contrary, ignore the development of the potential talent side of the children. Without noticing the problem of children’s character, social adjustment and civic awareness...they may not be suitable to stand in the society with the good school achievement. What’s more, some of the parents pass their unfinished dream onto their children which could make the children to have big pressure, and might failed their parents’ expectations. The Way of Family Education between China and America Family is the reflection of culture on the other side. Parents conduct the children’s behavior through their guiding, which is also the ways of education that decide the children’s behavior. In general, Chinese parents have the absolute authority in guiding the children, so the parents is acting as a deciding and leading role。 while, the relationship between children and parents in America is relativity democratic, the way of the family education is democratic and open. The Way of American Family Education The American parents think that the parents should not put too many much to the children’s learning. If they were interested in the learning, they could have learned. It will cause hatred and hinder their development if the parents push their children to learn. American parents pay more attention to the freedom and equality when they get along with each other. You know, I really don39。t understand you, said Marlene when I called her the night after I had shown my mother the mink jacket. You can tell the IRS to piss up a rope, but you can39。t stand up to your own mother. I always intend to and then she says these little sneaky things, smoke bombs and little barbs, and… Why don39。t you tell her to stop torturing you, said Marlene. Tell her to stop ruining your life. Tell her to shut up. That39。s hilarious, I said with a halflaugh. You want me to tell my mother to shut up? Sure, why not? Well, I don39。t know if it39。s explicitly stated in the law, but you can39。t ever tell a Chinese mother to shut up. You could be charged as an accessory to your own murder.From Waverly’s coworker’s words, we can know the that American’s way of education focus on freedom and equality, and they can see whatever they can. We can also see this from Rich’s words....Rich was smiling. How long does it take to say, Mom, Dad, I39。m getting married