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ip, and you will let us know that you appreciate having the opportunity to go. I am not concerned with being thanked。 I am concerned with teaching you that is it appropriate to show appreciation when someone has gone out of his or her way to help you.“我不在意你是否感謝我,我關(guān)心的是你要學(xué)會在別人給你提供額外幫助的時候,你能恰當(dāng)?shù)乇硎靖兄x?!睂τ诟兄x,很多時候,我們常會認(rèn)為親近的人的幫助是理所當(dāng)然的,所以就不在意、不感激,所以就漠然。我要求孩子學(xué)會感謝,即使是最親近的人,即使是沒起任何作用的幫助。4搭乘電梯時,要站右邊,請趕時間的人走左邊;(可以換成樓梯)Rule 43 “When we are on field trips and we have to go up escalators, we will stand to the right. That will give other individuals who are in a hurry the option of walking up the lefthand side of theescalator. When we are going to enter an elevator, the subway, or a doorway, we will wait for others to exit before we enter.克拉克教孩子“在自動扶梯上,要站在右側(cè),從左側(cè)走動”,“在進(jìn)入電梯、地鐵或地下通道前,要禮讓出去的人先行?!睋?jù)克拉克先生說,美國公共場所的地鐵、電梯、扶梯比較亂,“缺乏彼此尊重的意識”。我們也要重視教育孩子尊重他人,否則必將步其后塵。4列隊行進(jìn)時不要說話;Rule 44 When in a line。 walk single file, two to three feet behind the person in front of you with your arms at your sides. You should face forward at all times. There will be absolutely no talking.克拉克先生上班的第一天,管理的是個紀(jì)律散漫班級??死讼壬蠛⒆觽兣抨牫燥垥r要有秩序,要安靜,如果有一個孩子多說一個字,全班就多等1分鐘。結(jié)果,在集體等候45分鐘后,孩子們排著整齊、安靜的隊伍進(jìn)入食堂。用克拉克先生的話來說,校長站在門口“吃驚地看著我們發(fā)呆”。真是太帥了??!如果拍電影的話都會非常有戲劇性。 “也許有人會說,這有點太軍事化了,但是我認(rèn)為孩子們其實喜歡這么排隊,他們會為自己能把隊排得這么好看而感到驕傲。” 不知道現(xiàn)在的孩子會怎么想,反正我小時侯會有這種感覺??死死蠋熞蠛⒆觽冊谂艃申犨M(jìn)門的時候,“離墻近的那一隊先進(jìn),另一隊要筆直地站在大廳的中央,留在那里等候我的命令,接下來我會說:“每個人準(zhǔn)備……行動!”所有孩子立刻會象一個完整的整體一樣,右腿迅速橫跨一步,靠向墻邊??吹胶⒆觽冊谕豢滩秸{(diào)一致地行動,會令人產(chǎn)生一種感覺,那就是“酷!”然后我再發(fā)出命令:“進(jìn)入!”他們就整齊地進(jìn)去了?!薄澳憧赡苷J(rèn)為,孩子們一旦被要求不準(zhǔn)出聲、遵守紀(jì)律和保持秩序的話,他們一定會反感的,但事實上他們喜歡這樣。在哈萊姆,我們學(xué)校的其他孩子請求他們的老師也讓他們象我們班一樣,排好隊進(jìn)入教室?!?不可以插隊,但看到別人插隊時不可以大呼小叫,讓老師知道就好;Rule 45 “Never cut line. If someone cuts in front of you, do not say or do anything about it. Let it happen, but let me know about it. I will handle the situation. If you fuss with someone who has cut in line, you could get in trouble as well. It’s not worth it。 just let me know what happened. Please handle all disputes with other classmates in the same manner, by ing to me with any problems before you take matters into your own hands. “如果有人插到了你前面,一個字也不要說,隨他去,只要告訴我一聲,我就會來處理的。如果你非要和加塞兒的人理論,你也一樣會有麻煩的,這不值得你這樣做。同學(xué)之間解決任何糾紛,都應(yīng)該在自己著手處理之前,先帶著問題來找我。” 學(xué)生們遇到問題有兩種選擇:第一,帶著問題找我。但大多數(shù)孩子會選擇第二種?!〉诙粍勇暽刈约航鉀Q。他們清楚,必須悄悄地解決,否則我會因他們不能以恰當(dāng)?shù)姆绞教幚韱栴}而懲罰他們。孩子們必須學(xué)會心平氣和地解決問題。4看電影時不要說話;Rule 46 “When we go to a movie theater, there will be no talking.克拉克先生希望孩子們懂得如何文明地觀看電影,從而使很多人看電影的經(jīng)歷成為一種更加愉快的享受。這也是教孩子們學(xué)會尊重別人。4不可以帶玩具到學(xué)校來;Rule 47 Do not bring Doritos in the school building.4有誰欺負(fù)你,讓老師知道; Rule 48 If any child in this school is bothering you, let me know. I am your teacher, and I am here to look after you and protect you. I am not going to let anyone in this school bully you or make you feel unfortable. In return, I ask that you not take matters into your own hands。 let me deal with the student.“我想讓他們知道,只要我在這個班,就會保護(hù)他們?!薄 斑@種來自于大人的支持對一個孩子而言非常重要,它伴隨著孩子的成長,幫他們建立起人與人之間的信任感?!?自己的理想自己要堅持;Rule 49 Stand up for what you believe in. You shouldn39。t take no for an answer if your heart and mind are leading you in a direction that you feel strongly about.“在我一生中,已經(jīng)數(shù)不清有多少次了,我想做某事,而周圍的每個人都反對。” “我希望他們(我的學(xué)生們)有勇氣為自己的信念義無返顧地付出努力,并為他們想要做的事情而奮斗?!薄坝袝r候,堅守你的信念是很困難的事,尤其當(dāng)只有你一人持有這種信念的時候,會感到更加孤獨。我只希望我能給我的學(xué)生逐步樹立一種信念,就是他們對自己以及他們所做的事情要有足夠的信心,有勇氣為自己的信念,主張和夢想而努力?!?0、要樂觀,要享受人生;Rule 50 Be positive and enjoy life. Some things just aren39。t worth getting upset over. Keep everything in perspective and focus on the good in your life. “保持樂觀的態(tài)度,盡情享受生活。有些事情不值得大驚小怪。學(xué)會為每件事作好準(zhǔn)備,去追求生命中的美好?!薄 拔易约阂苍谂ε囵B(yǎng)這種品質(zhì),并且以此來影響我的學(xué)生?!北3址e極樂觀的生活態(tài)度,這是我非常欣賞的。與上節(jié)相似,克拉克在本節(jié)談的也是人生觀的問題,以個人修養(yǎng)為主,并影響學(xué)生??死讼壬冉虝钟?,絕對欽佩!5既然想做一件事,就只管去做Rule 51 Live so that you will never have regrets. If there is something you want to do, do it! Never let fear, doubt, or other obstacles stand in your way. If there is something you want, fight for it with all of your heart. If there is something you want to do, go for it and don39。t stop until you make it happen. If there is something you want to be, do whatever is necessary in order to live that dream.克拉克先生經(jīng)常給他的學(xué)生講自己的故事和其他相似的故事,教育孩子們,凡事想好了就勇往直前地去做,全力以赴,這樣到什么時候都不會后悔。5從錯誤中學(xué)習(xí),繼續(xù)向前邁進(jìn);Rule 52 “Accept that you are going to make mistakes. Learn from them and move on.”克拉克先生現(xiàn)身說法,講述人生道理。老師也是人,是人就會犯錯誤;老師不是一般人,個人的錯誤會影響班里的很多孩子。5不管如何,一定要誠實;Rule 53 “No matter what the circumstances, always be honest. Even if you have done something wrong, it is best to admit it to me, because I will respect that, and oftentimes I will forget any disciplinary measures because of your honesty.”“開學(xué)第一天,我反復(fù)跟孩子們解釋,即使有時講實話會遇到一點小麻煩,但還是值得的,說明你良心未泯。我告訴他們講實話非常重要,因為此舉能贏得別人的尊重和信任,而這兩種榮譽(yù)應(yīng)該伴你一生5抓住今天;Rule 54 “Carpe Diem. You only live today once, so don’t waste it. Life is made up of special moments, many of which happen when caution is thrown to the wind and people take action and seize the day.” 在我的學(xué)生生涯中,珍惜時間是老師們談的最多的,但那時理解不深。如今,已經(jīng)失去了太多的時間了,認(rèn)識自然更深,而且會越來越深,但浪費的時間真的少了嗎?人啊,最難戰(zhàn)勝的就是自己。珍惜時間吧,做該做的事,做該做而不愿意做的事。5在你的能力范圍內(nèi),做最好、最好的人。Rule 55 “Be the best person you can be.”我覺得這些規(guī)矩不僅在學(xué)校教育中適用,在家庭教育中也同樣適用。細(xì)看每一條都是些不起眼的小事,正是這些小事培養(yǎng)了孩子良好的行為習(xí)慣,從而養(yǎng)成正確的為人之道。