【正文】 8年 在卷入一段不可能的愛(ài)情之后，我被卷入政治、法律和媒體的漩渦中心，一場(chǎng)前所未見(jiàn)的漩渦。但我的命并沒(méi)這么好，這起丑聞通過(guò)數(shù)字革命被公之于眾。丑聞在1998年1月被首次揭露就是通過(guò)互聯(lián)網(wǎng)。對(duì)我個(gè)人而言，它讓我一夜間從一個(gè)完完全全的無(wú)名人士變成一個(gè)被全世界公開(kāi)羞辱的對(duì)象。這種由科技促進(jìn)的草率道德審判導(dǎo)致我在網(wǎng)絡(luò)世界里被投石暴民圍攻。新聞媒體將我的照片貼得到處都是，借此銷售報(bào)紙，為網(wǎng)站吸引廣告商，為電視吸引眼球。在關(guān)注故事之外，人們對(duì)我個(gè)人的關(guān)注和道德審判也是前所未有的，我被打上各種標(biāo)簽 蕩婦、妓女、母狗、婊子、賤人，當(dāng)然還有 “那個(gè)女人”。我明白，人們很容易忘記一個(gè)女人是多維度的，其實(shí)她也有靈魂，也曾是完好無(wú)缺的?，F(xiàn)在，我們稱之為網(wǎng)絡(luò)欺凌和線上騷擾。我希望我過(guò)去的經(jīng)歷，能夠引起變革，讓其他人少遭遇欺凌。讓我給大家描繪一下，這是1998年9月，我坐在一間沒(méi)有窗戶的辦公室，在獨(dú)立檢察官辦公室，嗡嗡作響的熒光燈下，我聽(tīng)著自己的聲音，這是一年前電話竊聽(tīng)錄取的聲音，這位錄音者，我原來(lái)還當(dāng)作朋友。過(guò)去的八個(gè)月，這些錄音帶中的神秘內(nèi)容，就像達(dá)摩克利斯之劍一樣懸在我的頭頂。我很害怕，很屈辱地聽(tīng)著，聽(tīng)我自己平日閑暇時(shí)的扯東拉西，聽(tīng)我自己坦白對(duì)總統(tǒng)的愛(ài)意。聽(tīng)到那個(gè)有時(shí)狡猾、有時(shí)暴躁、有時(shí)愚蠢的我——無(wú)情、記仇、粗魯。幾天后 斯塔爾報(bào)告被提交給國(guó)會(huì)，所有錄音和原文稿，所有被竊取的言語(yǔ)，都成了其中一部分。這種公開(kāi)羞辱很折磨人，生命幾乎變得不可承受。快進(jìn)12年到2010年，社交媒體出現(xiàn)了，像我這樣的例子開(kāi)始越來(lái)越多，甚至無(wú)論當(dāng)事人有沒(méi)有犯錯(cuò)。2010年9月 我和我媽打了一通電話，我們談到了一則新聞，關(guān)于羅格斯大學(xué)的一個(gè)大學(xué)新生?？巳R門蒂——親切、靈敏、富有創(chuàng)造性的泰勒被室友偷拍到和另一個(gè)男的有親密行為，視頻被傳播到網(wǎng)上，嘲笑和網(wǎng)絡(luò)欺凌之火被點(diǎn)燃。華盛頓大橋縱身躍下??生命就這樣逝去??他只有18歲。我在當(dāng)時(shí)還有點(diǎn)無(wú)法理解，不過(guò)我逐漸意識(shí)到，她在重新經(jīng)歷1998年，重新經(jīng)歷她每晚都坐在我的床頭的時(shí)候，重新經(jīng)歷她讓我洗澡時(shí)不要關(guān)門的時(shí)候，重新經(jīng)歷她和爸爸擔(dān)心我會(huì)因?yàn)樾呷瓒廊サ臅r(shí)候?，F(xiàn)如今，很多父母都沒(méi)來(lái)得及介入挽救自己至愛(ài)的子女，很多父母在知道子女的痛苦和羞辱時(shí)都為時(shí)已晚。它讓我重新審視了我的親身經(jīng)歷，讓我開(kāi)始思考周遭充滿羞辱和欺凌的世界，讓我看到了不同的東西。自誕生以來(lái)，因特網(wǎng)讓人類以難以設(shè)想的方式聯(lián)系了起來(lái)，讓人們找到失散的兄弟姐妹、挽救生命，發(fā)起革命。每天在網(wǎng)上，總有人，特別是依然稚嫩不知如何處理這些的年輕人總會(huì)被如此欺凌和羞辱，以至于感覺(jué)無(wú)法活到第二天，有些人也確實(shí)悲劇地因此而死。ChildLine是致力于幫助年輕人處理各種問(wèn)題的英國(guó)公益組織。一篇來(lái)自荷蘭的綜合分析首次顯示出，網(wǎng)絡(luò)欺凌比網(wǎng)下欺凌更容易導(dǎo)致自殺意念。對(duì)他人殘忍已經(jīng)不是新鮮事了，但網(wǎng)上，由技術(shù)促進(jìn)的羞辱卻會(huì)被放大，不受遏制而且永遠(yuǎn)可以被看到。成百萬(wàn)上千萬(wàn)的人能匿名地用言語(yǔ)攻擊你，這會(huì)讓人非常痛苦，而且能夠公開(kāi)看到這些攻擊的人是沒(méi)有限定范圍的。近二十年來(lái)，我們逐漸在文化的土壤中，播下了羞辱和公開(kāi)侮辱的種子。麻木不仁、無(wú)孔不入的網(wǎng)絡(luò)環(huán)境讓網(wǎng)絡(luò)煽動(dòng)、隱私侵犯、網(wǎng)絡(luò)欺凌越來(lái)越猖獗。米爾斯教授所說(shuō)的“羞辱文化”?！癝napchat”該服務(wù)主要是年輕人在用，宣稱其內(nèi)容閱后即焚，信息只會(huì)存在幾秒，可以想象這會(huì)涉及到哪類內(nèi)容。詹妮弗一個(gè)八卦網(wǎng)站僅僅因?yàn)檫@一個(gè)內(nèi)容，就獲得了五百萬(wàn)以上的點(diǎn)擊量。在這種羞辱文化中，公開(kāi)羞辱還被貼上了另一種價(jià)格標(biāo)簽，這里衡量的并不是受害者遭受了多少損失，諸如泰勒，還有很多人的遭遇，尤其是女性、少數(shù)群體以及多元性別群體中的成員。一個(gè)市場(chǎng)在誕生，公開(kāi)羞辱變成了其中的商品。如何賺錢呢?點(diǎn)擊。這是一個(gè)危險(xiǎn)的循環(huán)。自始至終，都是有些人在利用他人的痛苦在牟利，每一次點(diǎn)擊，我們都是在作出選擇。為什么?因?yàn)樗鼈兊暮诵亩际切呷瑁@種行為成為了我們所創(chuàng)造的一種文化癥狀。隨著對(duì)同性婚姻觀念的改變，更多人被賦予了平等的自由。對(duì)于羞辱的文化也應(yīng)如此，我們需要文化革命，公開(kāi)羞辱這種流血的娛樂(lè)應(yīng)當(dāng)終止。轉(zhuǎn)變可以從簡(jiǎn)單的事開(kāi)始，不過(guò)它本身并不簡(jiǎn)單。網(wǎng)上正在經(jīng)歷同情心缺乏和同理心危機(jī)。布朗的話，”羞辱在同理心下無(wú)法存活”。社會(huì)心理學(xué)家謝爾蓋在網(wǎng)絡(luò)世界中，我們可以通過(guò)站起來(lái)來(lái)培育小眾影響力，站起來(lái)是說(shuō)不再冷漠旁觀而是發(fā)表積極評(píng)論支持受害者或是舉報(bào)欺凌現(xiàn)象。例如：美國(guó)有泰勒我們經(jīng)常提到表達(dá)自由的權(quán)利，此外我們還應(yīng)該更多地談到我們?cè)诒磉_(dá)自由上的責(zé)任。不過(guò)在網(wǎng)上換位思考他人處境對(duì)所有人都是有利的，而且能夠幫助創(chuàng)建更安全更美好的世界。試想下自己活在別人的新聞?lì)^條里。你們應(yīng)該可以聽(tīng)出這些問(wèn)題的言外之意。我的回答是：因?yàn)槭菚r(shí)候了，是時(shí)候不再為過(guò)去而小心翼翼，是時(shí)候不再背負(fù)恥辱地活著，是時(shí)候講述自己的經(jīng)歷。不過(guò)你能堅(jiān)持下去 并書(shū)寫出不同的故事結(jié)局。謝謝聆聽(tīng)!萊溫斯基TED演講稿（英文版）You39。s changed, but only was several months ago that I gave my very first major public talk at the Forbes 30 Under 30 summit:1,500 brilliant people, all under the age of meant that in 1998, the oldest among the group were only 14, and the youngest, just joked with them that some might only have heard of me from rap , I39。m probably the only person over 40 who does not want to be 22 the age of 22, I fell in love with my boss, and at the age of 24, I learned the devastating I see a show of hands of anyone here who didn39。s what I like me, at 22, a few of you may have also taken wrong turns and fallen in love with the wrong person, maybe even your me, though, your boss probably wasn39。m not reminded of my mistake, and I regret that mistake 1998, after having been swept up into an improbable romance, I was then swept up into the eye of a political, legal and media maelstrom like we had never seen , just a few years earlier,news was consumed from just three places: reading a newspaper or magazine, listening to the radio, or watching was that wasn39。m sitting in a windowless office room inside the Office of the Independent Counsel underneath humming fluorescent 39。m here because I39。listen as I confess my love for the president, and, of course, my heartbreak。listen, deeply, deeply ashamed, to the worst version of myself,a self I don39。s private words, actions, conversations or photos, and then making them publicpublic without consent, public without context, and public without forward 12 years to 2010, and now social media has been landscape has sadly bee much more populated with instances like mine, whether or not someone actually make a mistake, and now it39。t quite understand, and then eventually I realized she was reliving 1998, reliving a time when she sat by my bed every night, reliving a time when she made me shower with the bathroom door open, and reliving a time when both of my parents feared that I would be humiliated to death, too many parents haven39。s suffering and humiliation after it was too 39。t imagine living to the next day, and some, tragically, don39。s nothing virtual about , a that39。t have, was other research last year that determined humiliation was a more intensely felt emotion than either happiness or even to others is nothing new, but online, technologically enhanced shaming is amplified, uncontained, and permanently echo of embarrassment used to extend only as far as your family, village, school or munity, but now it39。s a lot of pain, and there are no perimeters around how many people can publicly observe you and put you in a public is a very personal price to public humiliation, and the growth of the Internet has jacked up that nearly two decades now, we have slowly been sowing the seeds of shame and public humiliation in our cultural soil, both onand websites, paparazzi, reality programming, politics, news outlets and sometimes hackers all traffic in 39。re in a dangerous more we click on this kind of gossip, the more numb we get to the human lives behind it, and the more numb we get, the more we the while, someone is making money off of the back of someone else39。ve think about behavior begins with evolving 39。ve changed beliefs about samesex marriage, more people have been offered equal we began valuing sustainability, more people began to as far as our culture of humiliation goes, what we need is a cultural shaming as a blood sport has to stop, and it39。s not need to return to a longheld value of passionpassion and , we39。 Brown said, and I quote, “Shame can39。ve seen some very dark days in my life, and it was the passion and empathy from my family, friends, professionals, and sometimes even strangers that saved empathy from one person can make a theory of minority influence, proposed by social psychologist Serge Moscovici, says that even in small numbers, when there39。s AntiBullying Pro, and in Australia, there39。s ackno