【正文】 I find dubious anyway, because the definition of housework rarely includes cleaning the gutters, changing the oil in the car or other jobs typically done by men) or when they die. When Mr. Blankenhorn surveyed fathers about the meaning of the term good family man, many responded that it was a phrase they only heard at funerals. 職業(yè)母親（我想這應(yīng)是與無職業(yè)母親相對而言的）奮斗的故事從媒體上無盡無休地轟擊著我們?？雌饋硭坪醺赣H惟一值得人們提及的時候是因為他們做家務(wù)太少而受到指責(zé)的時候（我懷疑這一說法的可靠性，因為家務(wù)”的定義中很少包括打掃屋頂?shù)挠晁疁稀⒔o汽車換機油或其它一些典型地由男人們做的事），或者是在他們?nèi)ナ赖臅r候?！ne exception to the unnecessary father syndrome is the glowing media attention that athome dads have received. I do not mean to imply that athome dads do not deserve support for making this mitment. I only mean to point out the double standard at work when athome dads are applauded while athome mothers and breadwinner fathers are given little, if any, cultural recognition. 　 這種無需父親”綜合癥的一個例外是家庭全職父親所受到的媒體的贊揚?！?The very language we use to discuss men39。s life is all about. 　 我們用來討論父親角色（即沒出息的父親）的話語本身就顯示出人們對大多數(shù)男人默默無聞而自豪地履行對家庭承擔(dān)的責(zé)任缺乏賞識。我們這個社會表現(xiàn)出似乎家庭職責(zé)對父親來說并不象對母親那么重要 —— 似乎事業(yè)上的滿足就是男人生活的全部。這暗示家里有家庭主婦的男人比那些妻子在外工作的男人日子過得更舒適，因為他們擁有全職管家這種奢侈品”。當(dāng)他們的那份工作是家庭收入的惟一來源的時候，失業(yè)，或者甚至只不過是受到失業(yè)的威脅，對他們來說顯然構(gòu)成更大的困難。此外，為了給家庭掙更多的錢，許多丈夫超時工作或兼做第二職業(yè)。很多男人相信母親呆在家里對小孩十分重要，這種信念使得他們樂意地擔(dān)起家里惟一掙錢人的擔(dān)子。然而，我們這個社會并沒有把普通”父親作為正面角色為未來的父親樹立榜樣，相反地，卻常常持放棄態(tài)度，認為傳統(tǒng)的父道從最好的方面說是已經(jīng)過時，從最壞的方面講就是危險的反動?！s a society, we need to realize that fathers are just as important to children as mothers are — not only for financial support, but for emotional support, education and discipline as well. It is not enough for us merely to recognize that fatherlessness is a problem — to stand beside the grave and mourn the loss of the good family man and then try to find someone to replace him (ask anyone who has lost a father to death if that is possible). We must acknowledge how we have devalued fatherhood and work to show men how necessary, how important they are in their children39。我們僅僅意識到?jīng)]有父親是一個問題是不夠的，也不能只是站在墳?zāi)古赃叞У款櫦液媚腥恕钡娜ナ?，隨后又找一個人來替代他（請問一問已失去父親的人，這是否可能）?！?Those fathers who strive to be good family men by being there every day to love and support their families — those unsung heroes — need our recognition and our thanks for all they do. Because they deserve it.那些每天都在努力去愛和支撐他們的家庭，力求做一個顧家好男人的父親，那些無名英雄，需要我們的承認，他們所付出的一切需要我們的感謝，因為他們值得我們的認同和感激。 (take on)With his promotion ,he has taken on greater responsibilities.2. 他感到他再沒有必要對約翰承擔(dān)這樣的責(zé)任。(as opposed to)Mary likes go to shopping in her spare time ,as opposed to Lucy, who prefers to stay at home reading.4. 充其量可以說他有抱負，用最糟糕的話來說，他是一個沒有良心(conscience)或沒有資格的權(quán)力追求者。s ambitious,at worst a powerseeker without conscience or qualifications .5. 我們已盡全力說服他，但是卻毫無進展。其實，萬維網(wǎng)與世界上其它任何事物一樣并非天然地有害。實際上，網(wǎng)絡(luò)就其本身而言是相當(dāng)無害的，它沒有超越其使用者并改變他們的存在的特殊功能。除孩子和意志薄弱者外，它不可能造成本來就不存在的東西…　(1) Like alcohol, the Web simply magnifies what is already there: Experts are concerned that the masking that goes on online poses a danger for everyone who is a part of the Digital Culture. Before we know it, the experts tell us, we will all use fake identities, bee fragmented, and will no longer be sure of just who we are. Wrong. The only people who feel pelled to mask, and otherwise misrepresent themselves online are the same people who are mysterious and unfrank in real life”...the Net just gives them one more tool to practice their deceit.?。?）如同酒精的作用一樣，網(wǎng)絡(luò)僅僅是將已有的事物放大：　　專家們擔(dān)心，網(wǎng)上盛行的隱藏裝假對參與數(shù)字文化的人來說是危險的。全錯。網(wǎng)絡(luò)只不過為他們增添了一種實施欺騙的工具。因特網(wǎng)并不會引起”人們?nèi)パb扮成另一些人。有水平的網(wǎng)迷能識別在線人行為所發(fā)出的很多危險信號。 　When someone is trying to deceive us online, inconsistencies, the essence that they are trying too hard” or are just plain unbelievable, often e through loud and clear. Likewise, just like in the real world”, a host of other unacceptable tendencies can be readily recognized online. Narcissism (it’s all about meeeee”), those people who have nothing but negativity or unpleasant things to say about others, and those who feel pelled to undermine others and who think they must blow out the other guys’ candles in order for their own to shine can be spotted a cybermile away.　 　　有人試圖在網(wǎng)上欺騙我們時，常常會明白無誤地表現(xiàn)為自我矛盾，這是力求取信而過分涂抹，甚至說話虛假、令人難信的必然跡象。孤芳自賞（一切圍繞我我我”）在網(wǎng)絡(luò)上也老遠就會被發(fā)現(xiàn)，因為他們都是些只說別人反話或壞話的人，認為只有吹滅他人的蠟燭自己才能閃光的人。多數(shù)人網(wǎng)上和網(wǎng)下都一樣愛找樂趣，即使不是有過之而無不及，也與他們平時在聚會上、在工作中和在當(dāng)?shù)氐木瓢衫镆粯酉矚g尋找樂趣?！hy folks have a safer” environment online than in the real world” and can learn to express themselves more freely on the Net (you’ve never seen anyone stutter on , have you?) allowing them to gain confidence and munication skills that can eventually spill over into other aspects of their lives. Helpful people in real life” are often just as willing to e to someone’s assistance online as anywhere else.　 　　害羞的人在網(wǎng)上比在現(xiàn)實世界”中會得到更為安全的”環(huán)境，并且在網(wǎng)上能學(xué)會更自由地表達自己（你從未見到過有人會在電子郵件上結(jié)結(jié)巴巴地說話，對嗎），網(wǎng)絡(luò)會使他們增強信心，獲得交際技能，而這些又最終會擴大到他們生活的其它方面。　(3) People are judged differently on the Web: On the Internet people are judged by their personality, beliefs and online actions, NOT by their physical appearance. This is good. It not only gives ugly folks an aid, but causes Beautiful People to have to say something worth listening to in order to get attention. ?。?）網(wǎng)上評價人的方式不同：在互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上，對人的評價是看他們的個性、信念和網(wǎng)上行為，而不是看他們的外表長相。　(4) People open up more: Many people are opening up a whole lot more these days since they are not required to use their real name and provide their real identity in the Internet. 　 （4）人們更加坦率：　　由于在互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上不必使用真名并提供真實身份，許多人近日來更加坦誠，暢吐心曲。網(wǎng)絡(luò)為我們中間的許多人打開了許多大門，這種選擇是他們在其它面所不能得到的?！T(6) We Learn the Power of Words and to be Better Listeners: With no facial expressions, body language, or physical appearance to distract us, members of the Digital Culture have learned the power of words ... both their own, and others’. We know very well how a simple string of words can harm, hurt and offend, or how they can offer humor, help, support and encouragement. Most experienced members of the online culture have learned to bee wordsmiths, carefully crafting the words they use to convey exactly what they mean so as not to be misunderstood.