【正文】 ence is the language which expresses the way of love to a child. Chinese parents and American parents take different approaches. In general, the expression of Chinese parents are implicit and indirect, they are seldom heard saying I love you or I miss you or similar words. They prefer to take indirect or at least nonverbal ways to express their deep love for their children. For example, mending clothes for the children or prepare the food that he (she) most likes to eat and so on. In contrast, American parents often tell children how much they love him (her), how much they concerned. Another mon thing is that the American children often hear their parents say “I love you.” or “I miss you.” or similar words before the children go to bed or before the end of call. In general, American parents express their love not only through action, but also through language and so almost every day. Comparing with American parents, Chinese parents are not used to physical contact such as hugs or kisses with young children or adult to express their concerns. I rarely see Chinese parents give their children a hug or a kiss when the children e back from school at the weekend. However, such expression in the American parents is very mon between parents and children. Good Night Kiss can be said to have been inherited from the tradition of the United States. This is the second difference in upbringing children for Chinese and American parents.Chinese parents tend to encourage children to bee a realist.In addition to these superficial differences, I have noticed that there are many deeper differences between Chinese parents and American parents. In general, American parents praised their children passionately. For example, I often hear a father of the United States praised his daughter: You are the world39。 while the latter is to encourage children to be a dreamer, they often talk to their children: You can bee anything you want to be! This explains why Chinese parents put more focus on the child39。s future development, namely, to bee a full person.Chinese parents are willing to make their children ready for everything.Chinese parents, since the launch of the national family planning policy, are more likely to coddle their children than American parents, so the munity will have a little emperor or little princess. Chinese parents are willing to prepare their children for everything, but American parents prefer to educate their children to do something for themselves, fostering their independence by this way.For example, a small child fell down while walking, Chinese parents will soon help him (her) to stand, while if American parents find their children nothing, they will let him (her) stand up by themselves. Another example, when children are very young, American parents will let them take greater responsibility. As the kids grow up and leave home, the nature of the relationship between children and parents has changed. Chinese parents tend to encourage children to be reserved, while the American parents encourage children to spread its wings after grown up. of targetsThe goals of family education determine their directions. Therefore, the goal of family education is the most important. The purpose of American family education is to develop their children’s adaptation to all kinds of environments and the independent viability of the social man。s education, maximizing the enthusiasm of their children. Let us look at different periods of American children. When they are still babies, they sleep alone。 when they grow up。s academic performance. Their only requirement is that their children can focus on learning. At the same time, parents have ignored the child39。s customs, culture and history .At the same time, educational methods are subject to the constraints of the aims of education. On the contrary, whether parents appropriately use the scientific method of education is linked to the purpose of family education and content of family education. American parents promote open education. American parents believe that games and play is very important. In the process of play, it