【正文】 s mother?s next move to serve him food， he said in a begging voice， “Please don?t give me any more food． Let me do it myself． Case 9A Notsociable Drink Martin was sent by an American pany to work in a special economic development zone in China for a year. He became very friendly with a few Chinese colleagues. Soon, he started to go out with them. He noticed that Chinese like to have something , such as peanuts, when they have beer, instead of just drinking beer without anything to eat as many North Americans do. One day he was invited to a dinner party to celebrate a colleague?s birthday. They ordered alcoholic beverages and toasted the guest of honor frequently. Soon Martin realized that the plan was to get their friend drunk. Each colleague would offer a toast, concluding with a cheery “ gan bei!” and tried to get Martin to join in, even though he was unwilling to do it. Martin didn?t think it a good idea, and tried to talk them out of the game. However, he was accused of not being a good friend for not cooperating. Martin remained an outsider during the rest of the dinner. He was getting increasingly worried as he watched the poor guest bee increasingly inebriated. Case 10 A Misunderstanding at a Dinner Table Roger was a student majoring in East Asia Studies in an American university. He started an correspondence with Zhang Li, a sociology major in China, who was introduced to him through a mutual friend. Upon graduation, Roger got a big gift from his grandfather. Grandpa would pay for a roundtrip ticket to China. He told Zhang Li the good news, and the two decided to meet. Zhang Li decided to give Roger a very special wele: she and the three women students in her dormitory would cook him an authentic Chinese meal, as Roger had told her that he loved Chinese food. However, when Roger was presented the dinner, he was almost terrified by some of the food: pork stomach soup, pig liver with ginger and spring onion, chicken with mushrooms in which the chicken had been cut to pieces with bones attached to the meal. Fortunately , there were courses like tofu, stirred fried beef, steamed fish and vegetables that Roger loved. He tried to stick to them but Zhang Li kept putting food he did not like on his plate. When she asked how he liked the liver, Roger said, “ It?s very unusual…and interesting. “ This seemed to make Zhang Li happy. And she gave him more liver. Roger tried to stop her, but she would not be stopped. Roger was so frustrated that he told her that he did not really like it that much. “ But you said it was unusual and interesting!”Zhang Li said. “ Well, they both mean something less than positive,” Roger said carefully, trying not to hurt their feelings. Zhang Li and her friends became concerned at this.”“So you don?t like the food?” I?m not used to eating liver, that?s all. But I do like the chicken, the beef, the tofu, and the vegetables. I have had more than enough to eat. I never make this much food at home,” Roger was eager to let them know how much he appreciated their effort. “Trust me, I?m enjoying the food. I know what I like.” Having said that, he found a piece of chicken that was less bony, held it in his hand to eat it, and then licked his fingers. Zhang Li and her friends looked at each other in shock. It was not a perfect first meeting for either Zhang Li or Roger. Case 11 Overdressed Tourists As a van stopped in front of Niagara Falls, a group of Chinese officials streamed out. They were dressed in suits and ties, wearing leather shoes. Many of the men also had left the manufacture?s tag on the sleeve of their suit jacket. As they wandered around Niagara Falls, some of them started to smoke. Their attire drew the stares of North American tourists, some of whom quietly laughed with their friends and pointed at the Chinese visitors. Others frowned at seeing the smoking and shook their heads in disapproval. Case 12 Tie Culture Jane was a tourist and spent some time staying with a Chinese friend at her home. They watched a children?s pram while having breakfast one morning. A young man, the host of the program, gave instructions of a game to a few children, and then joined them running in a circle. “My, he?s wearing a tie and running crazy with the children!” Jane exclaimed. The Chinese friend shrugged,”Is this very unusual?” Case 13 An American in China Professor Smith and his assistant， Chen Ming， were doing fieldwork in a small city in China. It was hot and humid, and both were casually dressed. One evening as they were leaving for dinner， a local administrator told them that the mayor of the city, who was interested in the type of research they were doing, would like to say hello to Professor Smith. As luck would have it， the Mayor was dining in the same restaurant as Smith and Chen Ming. Professor Smith said he had to go back to his room to change. “You look fine， Come on， the mayor is waiting， ”the administrator said. “No, I can?t meet the mayor in my shorts” Case 14 The Generosity of a Chinese Student Matt was invited to a Chinese university to give a few lectures. During his short stay there, a graduate student volunteered to show him around the city. Matt accepted the offer gratefully. It was summer and soon both Matt and the graduate student began to get quite hot. While Matt took some pictures, the graduate student went to buy some drinks. “Thank you. How much do I owe you?” Matt asked. “Nothing.” The student smiled. “ Are you sure?” “Yes.” At lunchtime, Matt suggested they have a quick meal. They stopped by a McDonald. Again, the graduate student tried to pay for Matt. “No, this is m