【正文】 d meant to kidnap from his runaway wife. [32] And they both returned to him, the next day, anyway. [33] But now the years had passed by and a lifetime was gone and he and they had nothing. [34] He had not really felt old until that day the postman brought his first Social Security check. That day, something within Harlan resen。s habits, and knew about her afternoon playtime . [26] But, this one day, she did not e out to play, so his chain of failures remained unbroken . [27] Late in life he became chief cook and bottle washer at a restaurant in Corbin. And did all right until the new highway bypassed the restaurant. [28] And then his expected life span ran out . [29] He was not the first man nor would he be the last to arrive at the twilight of life with nothing to show for it.[30] The bluebird of happiness, or whatever, had always flown just out of reach. [31] He39。t win for losing, as they said. [18] He really tried. [19] Once, while working at a succession of railroad jobs, he tried studying law by correspondence . [20] But he dropped out of that, too. [21] He tried selling insurance , selling tires. [22] He tried running a ferryboat , running a filling station. No use. [23] Face it—Harlan was a loser. [24] And now here he was hiding in the weeds outside Roanoke , Virginia , planning a kidnapping . [25] As I say, he39。t you know she announced she was pregnant the day he announced he39。d never considered anything so callous as kidnapping. [5] Yet here he was, lying in the grass, hidden by trees from the house, waiting for an innocent , redhaired, twoyearold girl to e within reach. [6] It was a long wait。s habits. He knew she would e outside her grandfather39。 genuineness is. The genuine person realizes his own uniqueness and appreciates the uniqueness of others. [5] A winner is not afraid to do his own thinking and to use his own knowledge. He can separate facts from opinion and doesn39。s hotel room and meals in New Zealand and for his flight back to California . “ Oh well, ” the man later said, “ I always wanted to see New Zealand. ” ( 650 words)【3A】 Born to WinYou cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him discover it within himself. — Galileo [1] Each human being is born as something unique , something that never existed before. Each person is born with what he needs to win at life. A normal person can see, hear, touch, taste, and think for himself. Each has his own unique potentials —his capabilities and limitations. Each can be an important, thinking, aware, and creatively productive person in his own right —a winner. [2] The words “winner” and “l(fā)oser” have many meanings. When we refer to a person as a winner, we do not mean one who defeats the other person by dominating and making him lose. Instead a winner is one who responds genuinely by being trustworthy and responsive , both as an individual and as a member of a society. A loser is one who fails to respond genuinely. [3] Few people are winners or losers all the time. It39。s hard to laugh. The man who traveled to Auckland instead of Oakland didn39。t start, and... ” Suddenly she stopped talking and began to smile. Now she understood. Her boss hadn39。 strange question, but she was too embarrassed to ask him about it. At five o39。re going to Auckland — Auckland, New Zealand. ” [4] Because so many English words sound similar, misunderstandings among Englishspeaking people are not unmon. Not all misunderstandings result in highways being closed or passengers flying to the wrong continent. Most misunderstandings are much less serious. Every day people speaking English ask one another questions like these: “ Did you say seventy or seventeen? ” , “ Did you say that you can e or that you can39。s a bum in the restroom ” but “ there39。s a bum in the restroom. Tell the bus driver. ” That passenger tapped the person sitting in front of him. “ Tell the bus driver there39。t feel heard” is: “I feel as though you don39。t feel heard” leads him to take the woman39。t feel heard.” [7] Even this plaint is misunderstood and misinterpreted! [8] A man39。s words could easily mislead a man who is used to using speech as a means of conveying only facts and information. You can also see how a man39。s why I39。m listening to you right now.” “Nothing is working.” “Are you saying it is my fault?” “You don39。s anything to forget.” “The house is always a mess.” “It39。t like your job, then quit.” “I want to forget everything.” “I don39。m sure some people notice you.” “I am so tired, I can39。t work they went to a translator for help. [3] You see, the Martian and Venusian languages had the same words but different meanings depending on the way they were used. Their expressions were similar, but they had different connotations or emotional emphasis. Misinterpreting each other was very easy. So when munication problems emerged, they assumed it was just one of those expected misunderstandings and that with a little assistance they would surely understand each other. They experienced a trust and acceptance that we rarely experience today. [4] Even today we still need translators. Men and women seldom mean the same things even when they use the same words. For example, when a woman says, “I feel like you never listen,” she does not expect the word “never” to be taken literally. Using the word “never” is just a way of expressing the frustration she is feeling at the moment. It is not to be taken as if it were factual information. [5] To fully express their feelings, women would tend to exaggerate the facts a little bit for effect and use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalizations. Men mistakenly take these expressions literally. Because they misunderstand the intended meaning, they monly react in an unsupportive manner. In the following chart ten plaints easily misinterpreted are listed, as well as how a man might respond unsupportively. Ten Common Complaints That Are Easily Misinterpreted Women say