【正文】 hen they could just say, “I don39。t , you know, I39。re making $40,000!” When I turned 40, I was so glad that didn39。clock news in Baltimore, because the whole goal in the media at the time I was ing up was you try to move to larger Baltimore was a much larger market than , getting the 6 o39。s how you enrich your , trust me, I know that inner wisdom is more precious than more you spend it, the more you , today, I just want to share a few lessons—meaning three—that I39。cause that39。re going to get another job without that degree.” So, in 1987, Tennessee State University invited me back to speak at their then, I had my own show, was nationally 39。d say, “But, Dad, I have my own television show.” And he39。clock curfew doing the 10 o39。s asked me in the past couple of weeks what I was doing, I would say, “I39。s Gayle King!” Because a lot of people know Gayle King as my BFF [best friend forever].And so somebody es up to Kirby, and they say, “Ohmigod, is that Gayle King?” And Kirby39。這個(gè)世界的深廣遠(yuǎn)超你現(xiàn)在想象的邊 際。是的，你會(huì)犯錯(cuò)誤。我想說的是你需要思考它，認(rèn)真地思考（think about it hard）。s also going to make you a lot of money, in which case it39。你 們得到的教導(dǎo)是應(yīng)該上大學(xué)，但你們同時(shí)也被告知如果真的想得到教育，那就是“自我放任”。更糟糕的是，他們覺得提出這些問題是理所應(yīng)當(dāng)（feel pelled）的。只要?jiǎng)e人也不享受自由，人們就不在乎自己被關(guān) 進(jìn)監(jiān)獄。它是社會(huì)參與方面的斯坦?；?哈佛，是另一個(gè)柵欄，另一枚獎(jiǎng)?wù)?。我一再聽到TFA這個(gè)術(shù)語(yǔ)。ve been handed)，不僅僅是接受別人給你的選擇。（True innovation means using your imagination, exercising the capacity to envision new possibilities.）但這里我并不是在談?wù)摷夹g(shù)創(chuàng)新，不是發(fā)明新機(jī)器或者制造一種新藥，我談?wù)摰氖橇硗庖环N創(chuàng)新，是創(chuàng) 造你自己的生活（inventing your own life）。當(dāng)我指出這一點(diǎn)時(shí)，她十分震驚。不過，還有另外一種情況，或許中年危機(jī)并不會(huì)發(fā)生在你身上。也許你確實(shí)想當(dāng)心臟病學(xué)家。你選擇心臟病學(xué)是因?yàn)楫?dāng)心臟病醫(yī)生的待遇很好?；蛟S你從來(lái)沒有想過當(dāng)心臟病醫(yī)生，只是碰巧發(fā)生了而已。只不過，在你越來(lái)越深入地進(jìn)入這個(gè)軌道后，再記得你最初的樣子（remember who you once were）就益發(fā)困難了。專 業(yè)化（specialization）的問題是它讓你成為專家（specialist），切斷你與世界上其他任何東西的聯(lián)系，不僅如此，還切斷你與自身其 他潛能的聯(lián)系（It cuts you off, not only from everything else in the world, but also from everything else in yourself.）。你學(xué)習(xí)刻苦、精力集中、全力以赴。（We are more than our jobs, and education is more than a major.）教育也不僅僅是上大學(xué)，甚至也不僅是從幼兒園到研究生院的正規(guī)學(xué)校教育。我說的“你要做什么”的意思是你要過什么樣的生活（what kind of life are you going to lead?）？我所說的“那”指的是你得到的正規(guī)或非正規(guī)的任何訓(xùn)練，那些把你送到這里來(lái)的東西，你在學(xué)校的剩余時(shí)間里將要做的任何事。所以，你在數(shù)學(xué)、鋼琴、曲棍球等眾多方面都很出色。當(dāng)然，作為大一新生，你的專業(yè)才剛剛開始。你 開始懷念那個(gè)曾經(jīng)談鋼琴和打曲棍球的人，思考那個(gè)曾經(jīng)和朋友熱烈討論人生和政治以及在課堂內(nèi)容的人在做什么。隨大流最容易，這就是體制的力量。你做那些事能給你帶來(lái)好處，讓你的父母感到驕傲，令 你的老師感到高興，也讓朋友們羨慕。十歲時(shí)就夢(mèng)想成為醫(yī)生，即使你根本不知道醫(yī)生意味著什么。讓 我通過告訴你們一個(gè)同伴的故事來(lái)解釋我的意思吧，即她沒有遭遇的情況。我指出，真 正的自尊意味著最初根本就不在乎成績(jī)是否優(yōu)秀。不是走現(xiàn)成的道路而是創(chuàng)造一條屬于自己的道路。當(dāng)今走進(jìn)星巴克咖啡館，服務(wù)員可能讓你在牛奶咖啡（latte）、加糖咖啡（macchiato）、特制咖 啡（espresso）等幾樣?xùn)|西之間做出選擇?！盀槊绹?guó)而教”當(dāng)然是好東 西，但引用這個(gè)項(xiàng)目來(lái)反駁我的觀點(diǎn)恰恰是不得要領(lǐng)，實(shí)際上正好證明了我想說的東西。該項(xiàng)目需要能力和勤奮，但不需要一丁點(diǎn)兒的道德想象力?？梢坏┯腥嗽姜z，其他人都會(huì)跟著跑出去。許多學(xué)生在畢業(yè)前夕的未來(lái)探索中跟我說，他們感受到來(lái)自同伴那里的壓力（the pressure they felt from their peers），需要為創(chuàng)造性的生活或思想生活辯護(hù)（to justify a creative or intellectual life）。如果你自我教育的話，更糟糕。s not selfish at all.）你看到這些觀點(diǎn)是多么荒謬了嗎？這就是罩在你們身上的網(wǎng)，就是我說的需要勇氣的意思。我請(qǐng)求你們做的，是根據(jù)正確的理由做出你的選擇。可那是你的錯(cuò)誤，不是別人的。這意味著，你自身的深廣也將遠(yuǎn)超你現(xiàn)在的想象。s like, “39。m getting ready to go to Stanford.” I just love saying “Stanford.” Because the truth is, I know I would have never gotten my degree at all, 39。clock , my dad was like, “Well, that news is over at 10: home by 11.” But that didn39。d say, “Well, I still don39。d made a movie, had been nominated for an Oscar and founded my pany, I told them, I cannot e and give a speech unless I can earn one more credit, because my dad39。s really why we39。ve learned in my journey so aren39。clock news coanchor job at 22 was such a big felt like the biggest deal in the world at the I was so proud, because I was finally going to have my chance to be like Barbara Walters, which is who I had been trying to emulate since the start of my TV , I was 22 years old, making $22,000 a it39。t , here I am, 22, making $22,000 a year and, yet, it didn39。d grown up not really loving my name, because when you39。t like the way you look.” Which, in case some of you in the back, if you can39。t read my copy, because something inside me said, this should be , I wanted to get the news as I was giving it to the , sometimes, I wouldn39。d go home at night and fill up my journals, 39。s where everything that followed for me I got that you39。ve ever made—has e from my every wrong decision I39。t know what to do, get still, get very still, until you do know what to when you do get still and let your internal motivation be the driver, not only will your personal life improve, but you will gain a petitive edge in the working world as , as Daniel Pink writes in his bestseller, A Whole New Mind, we39。s not about money, 39。s just life39。s written this wonderful book called A New Earth that39。that39。s also saying, be a part of 39。re hurting, you need to help somebody ease their you39。re an actor, you offer your talent in the way that most inspires you39。t matter, they e out and say, “Ohmigod, it39。s theory of relativity to don39。ve always believed that everything is better when you share it, so before I go, I wanted to share a graduation gift with your seats you39。ve got to find what you love,39。 savings were being spent on my college six months, I couldn39。t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked wasn39。You39。s A New Earth is my current book club New Earth webcast has been downloaded 30 million times with that Daniel Pink39。ll all be officially Stanford39。s the fame trip, so I don39。ve been called, as so many of you here today getting doctorates and other degrees, to the professions of business, law, engineering, humanities, science, medicine, if you choose to offer your skills and talent in service, when you choose the paradigm of service, looking at life through that paradigm, it turns everything you do from a job into a I know you haven39。s when you39。s a lesson that39。d built that school from the outside in, when what really mattered was the inside , it39。t react against a bad situation。t have to repeat the you don39。s good for buying having a lot of money does not automatically make you a successful you want is money and want your work to be meaning is what brings the real richness to your you really want is to be surrounded by people you trust and treasure and by people who cherish 39。s no longer just the logical, linear, rulesbased