【正文】 ptimistic. Confident and optimistic peoplecan bravely face the terrible difficulties. When you have thought out a dream or plan you should have the confidence to realize it. Don’t just think every day. Women may dream that one day they will be a rich, elegant lady with fashionable dresses and expensive jewelries. But they seldom put their heart into making them e true. Because they do not believe themselves. Why can Scarlet do everything she dreams of? Because she is a confident woman. Charles Chaplin said “you have to believe in yourself. That is the secret of success”. Nothing in the world is too difficultif you put your heart into it.Ⅲ. Suggestions on How to Achieve Success in Family for a WomanA. Features and Advantages of Melanie in Gone with the WindMelanie was an impressive character in Gone with the Wind. She was a kind, soft, lovely woman who was devoted to her husband and family. Melanie was not a beautiful woman, but she was very brave even though she was thin as a rail and delicate enough to be blown away by the wind. But even without a charming appearance she won her husband’s heart. Melanie considered her husband and child as all she had. She was not suitable to give birth to a child and the process of giving birth to the first child was an 英語畢業(yè)論文 iiiunfettable terrible experience in her life. It was a mother’s nature that made her so bravely to endure the hardness. After giving birth to the first child the doctor told Melanie that she would better not be pregnant again or she might be in danger. Regardless of the advice and her feeble health, she was still so excited and willing to have another baby for her husband. But she finally died of miscarriage.Melanie was a good wife who knew how to build a harmonious family. Even when Melanie knew that Scarlet loved her husband she still did not take some measures to stop her husband from getting along with Scarlet. Because she trusted her husband. When people gossiped that her husband had relationship with Scarlet, she was not angry as other women did. At a party during which all the people gathered together intending to see the fight between the two women, Scarlet and her husband were saved by Melanie’s kindness , love and outspoken trust which had been in hervoice as she crossed and face the curious, malicious covertly hostile crowd. How neatly Melanie had scotched the scandal, keeping Scarlet at her side all through the dreadful evening! People were somewhat bewildered, but they were polite.B. What to Learn from MelanieNowadays, family life is still important for women. But even women years ago already spent most of their time on the family, there were still endless problems encountering them. So how can people have a harmonious and happy family? Maybe you can learn something from Melanie, the other heroin in Gone with the Wind.1. TrustThe best advantage we can learn from Melanie is: trust your spouse. Women in today’ society suffer from divorce more frequently. The divorce rate is higher and higher than ever before. One factor accounts for the high divorce rate is distrust between the wives and husbands. Some women plain that their husbands do not e back home punctually after work. For example, if the husbands have not been back after the work time, the wives may wonder what the husbands are doing. Why do they have so many appointments of work? Are they really working over time? Are they having an informal relationship with other female workmates? Will they go dance or have dinner or date other beautiful, young, charming ladies? And some time when husbands fet their birthday, wedding anniversary, Valentine’s day or other important festivals which the wives regard highly, the wives may suspect whether they do not love them any more, whether they are not so attractive to them or for some other reasons. With such suspects in mind, the wives can not wait calmly. They may even employ detectives to trace husbands’ life. When the husbands find what the wives do behind them, they may feel unfortable to stay with them. Then a previous happy family may bee a battle field. So husbands and wives should trust each other.2. RespectRespect is also important for a happy family life. Carnegie, a famous American writer, has written a famous book titled “the weakness of the human being”, in which he says that if you want to have a happy family you should never try to change your partner’s hobbits, ideas ,etc. Every person has his own characters and features. Being a spouse does not mean that husband should reshape his own personalities or belief or other routine according to the requirements of the wife. If the husband can accept wife’ suggestions, that is ok. But if the husband really will not change, women should remember never to force the husband to do it. Even though you two are couple now, respect is also needed between you. Respect can make the partner have their own secret or make the other part fortable.Women should not only respect husbands but also the children. In today’s society there are some cases that 英語畢業(yè)論文 ivthe mother or the father read the child’s private letters or diaries, which is against the law. Every person has his own secret which he does not want to be found by others including the parents. Even though the parents say that they do this because they love children and care about their growth and do not want them to get into the trouble. But children also have something belonging to their own. So respect is also important to the happiness of a harmonious family.3. LoveBesides trust and respect, love of course is the essence of a family. Some people say that marriage is the grave of love. Maybe it is partly because that after people getting married the sweet love which make lovers attractive to