【正文】 第一篇：ted演講 科技并沒(méi)有改變愛(ài)為什么？TED演講科技并沒(méi)有改變愛(ài)，為什么？演說(shuō)者：Helen Fisher演說(shuō)題目：科技并沒(méi)有改變愛(ài)，為什么？在這個(gè)科技導(dǎo)向、互連的世界，我們發(fā)展出求愛(ài)新招及新規(guī)則，然而愛(ài)的本質(zhì)卻不曾改變，Helen 如是說(shuō)。她在這場(chǎng)活力充沛、巨細(xì)靡遺的演講中，以第一手資料解釋：更快速度的連結(jié)反而產(chǎn)生步調(diào)更慢、更親密的關(guān)系。科技并沒(méi)有改變愛(ài)，為什么？ 來(lái)自TED英語(yǔ)演說(shuō)00:00 19:13I was recently traveling in the Highlandsof New Guinea, and I was talking with a man who had three asked him,39。How many wives would you like to have?39。 And there was this longpause, and I thought to myself, 39。Is he going to say five? Is he going tosay 10? Is he going to say 25?39。 And he leaned towards me and he whispered,39。None.39。最近，我正在新幾內(nèi)亞高地旅行我訪談了一位有三個(gè)老婆的人我問(wèn)他：“你想要多少個(gè)老婆？”他停頓了很長(zhǎng)時(shí)間我就想 “他會(huì)說(shuō)5個(gè)？還是10個(gè)？或許是25個(gè)呢？“” 結(jié)果他靠過(guò)來(lái) 小聲說(shuō)道：“一個(gè)都不想要?！盓ightysix percent of human societiespermit a man to have several wives: in the vast majority of thesecultures, only about five or ten percent of men actually do have several several partners can be a fact, cowives can fight witheach other, sometimes they can even poison each other39。s you39。vegot to have a lot of cows, a lot of goats, a lot of money, a lot of land, inorder to build a ，86%的人類社會(huì)允許男人有好幾個(gè)妻子：一夫多妻。但在大多數(shù)這些社會(huì)中，有多個(gè)妻子的男性僅達(dá)5%~10%。有多個(gè)伴侶可是件頭疼的事。事實(shí)上，妻子們之間會(huì)產(chǎn)生爭(zhēng)執(zhí)，有時(shí)甚至?xí)竞?duì)方的孩子。而且你必須得有很多的牛羊大量金錢(qián)和土地，才能建立起一個(gè)妻妾成群的閨房。We are a pairbonding of mammals do not pair up to rear their young。human beings 39。m notsuggesting that we39。re notthat we39。re necessarily sexually faithful to 39。ve looked at adultery in 42 cultures, I understand, actually, someof the genetics of it, and some of the brain circuitry of 39。s very monaround the world, but we are built to 。97%的哺乳動(dòng)物不用成雙成對(duì)地?fù)嵊齼号?，但人類卻是這樣的。我并不是建議人類在性方面無(wú)需忠誠(chéng)彼此，但在研究了42種文化中的外遇行為之后，我明白了，其中有基因的原因，而有一些則是大腦回路的問(wèn)題，整個(gè)世界都非常普遍，但愛(ài)是我們與生俱來(lái)的能力。How is technology changing love? I39。m goingto say almost not at study the and my colleagues have put over100 people into a brain scannerpeople who had just fallen happily in love,people who had just been rejected in love and people who are in love it is possible to remain 39。in love39。 ？我認(rèn)為沒(méi)有。我從事大腦研究，我和我的同事們對(duì)100多人進(jìn)行了大腦掃描，包括那些剛剛陷入愛(ài)情的人、在愛(ài)情里受挫的人以及長(zhǎng)期沉浸在愛(ài)之中的人。是的，長(zhǎng)期處于熱戀期是有可能的。And I39。ve long agomaintained that we39。ve evolved three distinctly different brain systems formating and reproduction: sex drive, feelings of intense romantic love andfeelings of deep cosmic attachment to a longterm together, thesethree brain systemswith many other parts of the brainorchestrate oursexual, our romantic and our family ：性驅(qū)動(dòng)、感受濃烈的浪漫以及對(duì)長(zhǎng)期伴侶深層的強(qiáng)烈的依賴感。這三種大腦系統(tǒng)和大腦中的其他部分結(jié)合起來(lái)，控制著人類性、愛(ài)情以及家庭生活。But they lie way below the cortex, waybelow the limbic system where we feel our emotions, generate our in the most primitive parts of the brain, linked with energy, focus,craving, motivation, wanting and this case, the drive to win life39。sgreatest prize: a mating evolved over million years ago amongour first ancestors, and they39。re not going to change if you swipe left or righton ，在邊緣系統(tǒng)下，即人類感受情感發(fā)泄情緒的區(qū)域。它們位于大腦中最原始的位置，和能量、注意力、渴望度、動(dòng)力、欲望及能動(dòng)性相連。在這里便是為了贏得人生最大獎(jiǎng)的動(dòng)力：一位配偶。這些大腦系統(tǒng)早在440萬(wàn)年前就從人類最早的祖先中演化而來(lái)，而不管你怎么在Tinder（社交軟件）上滑屏，它們都不會(huì)發(fā)生變化。There39。s no question that technology ischanging the way we court: ing, texting, emojis to express your emotions,sexting, 39。liking39。 a photograph, selfies...We39。re seeing new rulesand taboos for how to , you knowis this actually dramaticallychanging love? What about the late 1940s, when the automobile became verypopular and we suddenly had rolling bedrooms?可以肯定的一點(diǎn)是科技正在改變?nèi)祟惖那髳?ài)方式。電子郵件、短信、表達(dá)情感的符號(hào)、色情短信、給照片或自拍點(diǎn)贊...關(guān)于如何求愛(ài)有了新的規(guī)則和禁忌，但是，這真的徹底改變了愛(ài)嗎？來(lái)看看上個(gè)世紀(jì)40年代，那時(shí)候汽車(chē)剛大行其道，頓時(shí)人們便有了“可移動(dòng)臥室”。How about the introduction of the birthcontrol pill? Unchained from the great threat of pregnancy and social ruin,women could finally express their primitive and primal ，因?yàn)橐馔鈶言卸鴮?dǎo)致人生從此慘淡的日子一去不復(fù)返。女性終于可以釋放她們最原始的性本能。Even dating sites are not changing 39。m Chief Scientific Advisor to , I39。ve been it for 11 keeptelling them and they agree with me, that these are not dating sites, they areintroducing 。，我一直宣導(dǎo)，而工作人員也認(rèn)同我的意見(jiàn)。即這并不是一個(gè)征婚網(wǎng)站，這是個(gè)介紹網(wǎng)站。When you sit down in a bar, in a coffee house, on a parkbench, your ancient brain snaps into action like a sleeping cat awakened, andyou smile and laugh and listen and parade the way our ancestors did 100,000years can give you various peopleall the dating sites canbutthe only real algorithm is your own human is not going tochange 、咖啡館或坐在公園的長(zhǎng)椅時(shí)，你的大腦會(huì)立即開(kāi)始反應(yīng)，就像一只沉睡的貓被喚醒一樣。你開(kāi)始微笑，大笑，試著傾聽(tīng)，用那些早在10萬(wàn)年前我們的祖先就使用的方式來(lái)炫耀。我們可以提供各式各樣的對(duì)象，所有的征婚網(wǎng)站都可以，但唯一真實(shí)的算法卻是你的大腦，科技改變不了這一點(diǎn)。Technology is also not going to change whoyou choose to study the biology of personality, and I39。ve e tobelieve that we39。ve evolved four very broad styles of thinking and behaving,linked with the dopamine, serotonin, testosterone and estrogen 。我研究生物心理學(xué)，我開(kāi)始相信人類已經(jīng)進(jìn)化出了四個(gè)廣義的思考及行為方式，和多巴胺、血清素、睪丸激素和雌激素系統(tǒng)相關(guān)聯(lián)。So Icreated a questionnaire directly from brain science to measure the degree towhich you express the traitsthe constellation of traitslinked with eachof these four brain then put that questionnaire on various datingsites in 40 million or more people have now taken thequestionnaire, and I39。ve been able to watch who39。s naturally drawn to ，基于腦科學(xué)原理，我設(shè)計(jì)了一份問(wèn)卷用來(lái)衡量人們表達(dá)特征的程度——各種特征——與這四種大腦系統(tǒng)的關(guān)聯(lián)性在40個(gè)國(guó)家的各種征婚網(wǎng)站上刊登了這份問(wèn)卷。目前，已有1400多萬(wàn)人參與了問(wèn)卷調(diào)查，我有幸可以觀察那些天生相互吸引的人。And as it turns out, those who were veryexpressive of the dopamine system tend to be curious, creative, spontaneous,energeticI would imagine there39。s an awful lot of people like that in thisroomthey39。re drawn to people like , creative people needpeople like who are very expressive of the serotonin systemtend to be traditional, conventional, they follow the rules, they respectauthority, they tend to be religiousreligiosity is in the serotonin systemand traditional people go for traditional that way, ，富有創(chuàng)意，自然率真，且精力充沛。我想現(xiàn)場(chǎng)在座肯定有很多人屬于這一類型，他們通常被同類人所吸引。好奇且有創(chuàng)意的人需要和同類在一起。那些血清素系統(tǒng)反應(yīng)活躍的人往往更加傳統(tǒng)