【正文】 用久了就成了一種得心應(yīng)手的防御外界的方式，而且 這層保護(hù)殼隨著時(shí)間的累積越來越厚，保護(hù)自己的同時(shí)也拒絕了外界可能的溫暖。 因此，走近 Baby 這樣的女漢子，會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)她們會(huì)有她們的無奈，她們也同樣甚至比其他人更渴望親密關(guān)系，她們的心一樣柔弱，需要懂她們的人去呵護(hù)。 寫在后面： 現(xiàn)在想想，初 至內(nèi)地伴隨 Baby 的只有一張被饋贈(zèng)了花瓶稱謂的臉蛋兒，如今，這花瓶已有了儀態(tài)、氣質(zhì)、修養(yǎng)等等內(nèi)在釉光?？偸钦J(rèn)為自己 懷才不遇，龍入淺灘，殊不知的更多的不是外界因素的影響而是自身的心態(tài)。所以，要想成功最起碼要有一個(gè)積極健康的心態(tài)，告別 10種不良的心態(tài)吧！ 一、活在舊事陰影里缺乏積極性 有些人總是活在過去的時(shí)光 里。但是，過去已然過去，無論我們用了多久來哀嘆，它也不會(huì)有 任何改變。沉浸在往日時(shí)光中，完全無法改變什么，也不能讓我們的生活更好。 二、為瑣事發(fā)愁不能著眼大局 如果你是一個(gè)完美主義者，你會(huì)發(fā)覺自己經(jīng)常在處理一些小細(xì)節(jié)。 三、經(jīng)常被小事所影響 有些時(shí)候我們也許會(huì)被一個(gè)傷人的言論 所影響，或者一個(gè)小挫折而阻礙。一種去檢驗(yàn)這個(gè)事情是 否值得去想的方法就是問自己： “ 一年后我還會(huì)在意這個(gè)事情么？三年后呢？五年后呢？甚至十年后和三十年后呢？ ” 如果答案是否定的話，那這件事就很可能并不 值得你的精力去思考這件事情。 四、把你的痛苦歸咎于別人 生活中總會(huì)有不如意的地方。你有多大可能實(shí)現(xiàn)夢(mèng)想取決于你承擔(dān)了人生中的多少責(zé)任。比如當(dāng)你責(zé)怪你父母的基因?qū)е铝四愕姆逝?，你還會(huì)繼續(xù)這么胖下去，因?yàn)槟阏J(rèn)為他們才是導(dǎo)致肥胖的原因。當(dāng)你為你的生命承擔(dān)起 100%的責(zé)任，無論是你的事業(yè)情況，健康狀況，愛情，財(cái)務(wù)狀況，還是友情等等，那一刻你就在著手實(shí)現(xiàn)人 生夢(mèng)想了 。抱怨一兩次去發(fā)泄感情當(dāng)然無可厚非，但是如果總是這樣會(huì)讓你成為一個(gè)負(fù)極磁場(chǎng)。你用來抱怨的每一秒鐘，都本應(yīng)是用于創(chuàng)造更美好的生活的。 這樣，你便向你的夢(mèng)想跨進(jìn)了一步。作為企業(yè)的老板或中高層領(lǐng)導(dǎo)，你是不是一個(gè)什么事情都要自己去做做看的人么？那都會(huì)意味著你不能 做更重要的 事情，比如你的最高目標(biāo)和最好的夢(mèng)想。你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)到你的成果會(huì)產(chǎn)生 很大的變化。如果你是有能力去做好每一個(gè)你想做到的事情的，不要再設(shè)立小小的目標(biāo)，而在今天把眼光放的更遠(yuǎn)大一些吧。每一次你 放進(jìn)去一些情緒，你的行李就會(huì)沉重一些。不要把你的問題藏起來，如果你這樣做，就是讓自己逃避問題。嘗試一下，你或許馬上就會(huì)覺得很輕松。無論什么事情，如果你覺得自己不具備這個(gè)能力，那大腦就會(huì)找到證據(jù)來 證明這個(gè)想法 。這就是信念的力量，在信念面前沒有什么大不了 的。你想讓你的目標(biāo)永遠(yuǎn)不要被實(shí)現(xiàn)么？如果你想，那你就盡情地拖延吧。每一 個(gè)我認(rèn)識(shí)的愛拖延的人都背負(fù)著一個(gè)沉重的包袱。所以不要拖拉了。只要你在做你熱愛的事情，不斷的做下去，你 一定是個(gè)成功者。 于是悟空去做了。 佛祖問他：怎么空手回來了？ 悟空說道：當(dāng)我走在田間的時(shí)候，曾看到過幾株特別大特別燦爛的麥穗，可是，我總想著前面也許會(huì)有更大更好的，于是沒有摘；但 是，我繼續(xù)走的時(shí)候，看到的麥穗，總覺得還不如先前看到的好，所以我最后什么都沒有摘到。 悟空問佛祖：什么是婚姻？ 佛祖說：我請(qǐng)你穿越這片樹林，去砍一棵最粗最結(jié)實(shí)的樹回來放在屋子里做圣誕樹，但是有個(gè)規(guī)則：你不能走回頭路，而且你只能砍一次。 佛祖問他怎么只砍了這樣一棵樹回來？ 悟空說道：當(dāng)我穿越樹林的時(shí)候，看到過幾棵非常好的樹，這次，我吸取了上次摘麥穗的教訓(xùn)，看到這棵樹還不錯(cuò)，就選它了，我怕我不選它，就又會(huì)錯(cuò)過了砍樹的機(jī)會(huì)而空手而歸，盡管它 并不算我碰見的最棒的一棵。 悟空問佛祖：什么是幸福？ 佛祖說：我請(qǐng)你穿越這片田野，去摘一朵最美麗的花，但是有個(gè)規(guī)則：你不能走回頭路，而且你只能摘一次。許久之后，他捧著一朵比較美麗的話回來了。所以我把最美 麗的花摘回來了。 悟空又一次問佛祖什么是外遇？ 佛祖還是叫他到樹林走一次。 兩個(gè)小時(shí)之后，他精神抖擻地帶回了一支顏色艷麗但稍稍焉掉的花。 這時(shí)，佛祖告訴他：那就是外遇?？梢詠砘刈?，在途中要取一支最好看的花。 過了三天三夜，他也沒有回來。 佛祖問他：你找著最好看的花了嗎？ 悟空指著邊上的一朵花說：這就是最好看的花。即使我不摘它，它也遲早會(huì)枯。等它謝的時(shí)候，再找下一朵。 這時(shí)，佛祖告訴他：你已經(jīng)懂得生活的真諦了。 經(jīng)歷過愛情的無奈之后，對(duì)于婚姻的態(tài)度就會(huì)發(fā)生很大的轉(zhuǎn)變，會(huì)選擇一個(gè)合適的，但不是最好的。 外遇看起來很美，但會(huì)凋零，最終一無所獲。值得依靠。 rule around the party discipline, disciplinary ruler requirements, listed as negative list, focusing on vertical gauge, draw the party anizations and Party members do not touch the bottom line . Here, the main from four square face two party rules of interpretation: the first part introduces two party Revised regulations the necessity and the revision process。 the third part introduces two party regulations modified the main changes and needs to grasp several key problems。 follow the correct direction, grasp the limited goals, adhere to the party39。s 18 and the eighth session of the third, the spirit of the fourth plenary session, reflecting the experience of studying and implementing the General Secretary Xi Jinping series of important speech, reflects the party39。 the second is concisely positive advocated by the lack of prohibited provisions excessive, no autonomy requirements。 the fourth is to clean the theme is not prominent, not for the existing problems, and is narrow, only needle of countylevel leading cadres above. rule is in 1997 Chinese Communist Party disciplinary cases (Trial) based on revision, in December 2020 the promulgation and implementation, to strengthen the construction of the party play very important role. Along with the development of the situation, which many provisions have been unable to fully meet the prehensive strictly administering the practice needs. One is Ji law, more than half of the provisions and criminal law and other countries laws and regulations Repetition。 third is the main discipline for the leading cadres, does not cover all Party members. Based on the above situation, need to the criterion of a clean and honest administration and rule the two is likely to be more relevant regulations first amendment. By revising, really put the authority of Party discipline, the seriousness in the party tree and call up the majority of Party members and cadres of the party constitution of party passes party consciousness. (II) two party regulations revision process the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China attaches great importance to two regulations revision . Xi Jinping, general books recorded in the Fifth Plenary Session of the eighth session of the Central Commission for Discipline Inspection, on the revised regulations made clear instructions. According to the central deployment, the Central Commission for Discipline Inspection from 2020 under six months begin study two regulations revision. The Standing Committee of the Central Commission for Discipline Inspection 4 review revised. Comrade Wang Qishan 14 times held a special meeting to study two regulations revision, amendment clarifies the direction, major issues of principle, path and target, respectively held a forum will listen to part of the province (area) secretary of the Party mittee, Secretary of the Discipline Inspection Commission, part of the central ministries and state ans Department The first party mittee is mainly responsible for people, views of experts and scholars and grassroots party anizations and Party members. Approved by the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China, on 7 September 2020, the general office of the Central Committee of the Party issued a notice to solicit the provinces (autonomous regions, municipalities) Party, the central ministries and missions, state ministries and missions of the Party (party), the General Political Department of the military, every 3 people anization of Party of two regulations revision opinion. Central Commission for Discipline Inspection of extensive solicitation of opinions, careful study, attracting, formed a revised sent revi