【正文】 high, a spiritual surge you gain from serving , if you want to feel good, you have to go out and do some when you do good, I hope you strive for more than just the good feeling that service provides, because I know this for sure, that doing good actually makes you , whatever field you choose, if you operate from the paradigm of service, I know your life will have more value and you will be was always happy doing my talk show, but that happiness reached a depth of fulfillment, of joy, that I really can39。s no longer just woowoo softskills 39。s when you39。re hurting, you need to help somebody ease their you39。s death, they had made the founding grant for this great school, pledging to do for other people39。s a lesson that Jane and Leland Stanford got and one they39。s a lesson that39。s also saying, be a part of 39。s called “Speech to the Young : Speech to the ProgressToward.” And she says at the end, “Live not for battles won./ Live not for theendofthesong./ Live in the along.” She39。s matters most is the sense of integrity, of quality and got that what I know is that the girls came away with something, have emerged from this more resilient and knowing that their voices have their resilience and spirit have given me more than I could ever give to them, which leads me to my final lesson—the one about finding happiness—which we could talk about all day, but I know you have other wacky things to a small topic this is, finding in some ways I think it39。d built that school from the outside in, when what really mattered was the inside , it39。that39。m trying to give South African girls a shot at a future like yours— I spent five years making sure that school would be as beautiful as the wanted every girl to feel her worth reflected in her , I checked every blueprint, I picked every was looking at the grout in between the knew every thread count of the chose every girl from the villages, from nine yet, last fall, I was faced with a crisis I had never was told that one of the dorm matrons was suspected of sexual was, as you can imagine, devastating , I cried—actually, I sobbed—for about half an then I said, let39。t mean giving up。t react against a bad situation。s written this wonderful book called A New Earth that39。s whisper, because life always whispers to you if you ignore the whisper, sooner or later you39。ve found is that difficulties e when you don39。t have to repeat the you don39。s just life39。t do I want to talk a little bit about failings, because nobody39。re really , lesson one, follow your it feels right, move it doesn39。s good for buying having a lot of money does not automatically make you a successful you want is money and want your work to be meaning is what brings the real richness to your you really want is to be surrounded by people you trust and treasure and by people who cherish 39。s not about money, 39。s pretty 39。re doing what we love, when we39。s no longer just the logical, linear, rulesbased thinking that matters, he 39。t know what to do, get still, get very still, until you do know what to when you do get still and let your internal motivation be the driver, not only will your personal life improve, but you will gain a petitive edge in the working world as , as Daniel Pink writes in his bestseller, A Whole New Mind, we39。ve are many times when you don39。s the that lesson alone will save you, my friends, a lot of doubt means don39。t feel right, don39。ve ever made—has e from my every wrong decision I39。re supposed to do something or not supposed to do something, your emotional guidance system lets you trick is to learn to check your ego at the door and start checking your gut right decision I39。s how do you know when you39。re meant to do, it feels right and every day is a bonus, regardless of what you39。s where everything that followed for me I got that you39。t want to pay out the contract, they put me on a talk show in the moment I sat down on that show, the moment I did, I felt like I39。d eat my 39。ve kept a journal since I was 15—so I now have volumes of , I39。d go home at night and fill up my journals, 39。s not going too should try being at the same time, my dad was saying, “Oprah Gail, this is an opportunity of a better keep that job.” And my boss was saying, “This is the nightly 39。t know and I39。t read the copy—because I wanted to be spontaneous—and I39。t read my copy, because something inside me said, this should be , I wanted to get the news as I was giving it to the , sometimes, I wouldn39。d try to give the victims I wouldn39。d cover a fire and then I39。t like the way I now I am black and bald and sitting on a pretty even worse than being bald, I really hated, hated, hated being sent to report on other people39。t like the way you look.” Which, in case some of you in the back, if you can39。t like the way I was in 1976, when your boss could call you in and say, “I don39。m not going to change my if people remember it or not, that39。re never going to find , I grew up not loving the name, but once I was asked to change it, I thought, well, it is my name and do I look like a Suzie to you? So, I thought, no, it doesn39。d grown up not really loving my name, because when you39。t be angry with my name wasn39。ve e up with a name we think that people will remember and people will 39。t feel first sign, as President Hennessy was saying, was when they tried to change my news director said to me at the time, “Nobody39。t , here I am, 22, making $22,000 a year and, yet, it didn39。re 40 and you39。re making $22,000 and you39。d say, “Oh my god, I can39。clock news coanchor job at 22 was such a big felt like the biggest deal in the world at the I was so proud, because I was finally going to have my chance to be like Barbara Walters, which is who I had been trying to emulate since the start of my TV , I was 22 years old, making $22,000 a it39。s only going to be three lessons that have had the greatest impact on my life have to do with feelings, with failure and with finding year after I left college