【正文】 ng others is the way we help this wisdom is increasingly supported by scientific and sociological 39。re in pain, help somebody else39。s children what they were not able to do for their own lesson here is clear, and that is, if you39。ve bequeathed to all of you know the story of how this great school came to be, how the Stanfords lost their only child to typhoid at the age of had every right and they had every reason to turn their backs against the world at that time, but instead, they channeled their grief and their pain into an act of a year of their son39。s woven into the very fabric of this 39。t live for yourself is what I know for sure: In order to be truly happy, you must live along with and you have to stand for something larger than life is a reciprocal move forward you have to give to me, that is the greatest lesson of be happy, you have to give something know you know that, because that39。s saying, like Eckhart Tolle, that you have to live for the have to be in the has happened to you in your past has no power over this present moment, because life is I think she39。s the simplest of Brooks wrote a poem for her 39。s a lesson that applies to all of our lives as a matters most is what39。s all you get, a half an need to focus on the now, what you need to do , I contacted a child trauma put together a team of made sure the girls had counseling and Gayle and I got on a plane and flew to South the whole time I kept asking that question: What is this here to teach me? And, as difficult as that experience has been, I got a lot of understand now the mistakes I made, because I had been paying attention to all of the wrong 39。s get to it。it means acting with of you know that, as President Hennessy said, I started this school in I founded the school, where I39。merge with that situation the solution will arise from the surrendering yourself doesn39。s all about letting the awareness of who you are stimulate everything that you do, he puts it like this: He says, don39。ll get a you resist , if you ask the right question—not why is this happening, but what is this here to teach me?—it puts you in the place and space to get the lesson you friend Eckhart Tolle, who39。t pay attention to life39。t get the lesson, it shows up wearing another pair of pants—or skirt—to give you some remedial what I39。s way of saying time to change , ask every failure—this is what I do with every failure, every crisis, every difficult time—I say, what is this here to teach me? And as soon as you get the lesson, you get to move you really get the lesson, you pass and you don39。s journey is seamless or all all have things go wrong, you hit a dead end—as you will—it39。t feel right, don39。s when you39。cause money is very like 39。m not going to stand up here and tell you that it39。re involving the wholeness of ourselves in our work, both our expertise and our , I say to you, forget about the fast you really want to fly, just harness your power to your your has your heart and success will e to , how do I define success? Let me tell you, money39。s also empathy and joyfulness and purpose, inner traits that have transcendent qualities bloom when we39。re entering a whole new he calls it the Conceptual Age, where traits that set people apart today are going to e from our hearts—right brain—as well as our 39。t know what to you don39。 is what I39。t do 39。ve ever made was a result of me not listening to the greater voice of it doesn39。ve made—every right decision I39。re doing something right? How do you know that? It feels I know now is that feelings are really your GPS system for you39。re getting 39。re doing the work you39。d e realized that TV could be more than just a playground, but a platform for service, for helping other people lift their the moment I sat down, doing that talk show, it felt like felt that39。s where I learned that after eight months, I lost that said I was too was too since they didn39。d go home at night and fill up my journals about how miserable I was and I39。cause I39。re an anchor, not a social do your job.” So, I was juggling these messages of expectation and obligation and feeling really miserable with 39。d one day I was reading copy and I called Canada “ca nada.” And I decided, this Barbara thing39。d e across a list of words I didn39。t read my copy and it would be, like, six people on a pileup on , my sometimes I wouldn39。t be able to sleep at night because of all the things I was covering during the , meanwhile, I was trying to sit gracefully like Barbara and make myself talk like I thought, well, I could make a pretty goofy if I could figure out how to be myself, I could be a pretty good was trying to sound elegant like sometimes I didn39。d go back and I39。s tragedies as a part of my daily duty, knowing that I was just expected to observe, when everything in my instinct told me that I should be doing something, I should be lending a , as President Hennessy said, I39。t tell, is nothing like Barbara , they sent me to a salon where they gave me a perm, and after a few days all my hair fell out and I had to shave my then they really didn39。t like the way you look.” Now that would be called a lawsuit, but back then they could just say, “I don39。s then they said they didn39。t feel 39。re looking for your little name on the lunch boxes and the license plate tags, you39。t , you know, I39。s a friendly name: Suzie.” Hi, can39。s going to remember , we want to change your 39。t feel didn39。re making $40,000!” When I turned 40, I was so glad that didn39。re only when you39。t believe it!You39。s where I met my best friend, Gayle, who was an intern at the same TV once we became friends, we39。clock news in Baltimore, because the whole goal in the media at the time I was ing up was you try to move to larger Baltimore was a much larger market than , getting the 6 o39。re like, “Listen, this is my is not about you.” So, it39。m going to share a few,” and it39。t you glad? Don39。s how you enrich your , trust me, I know that inner wisdom is more precious than more you spen