【正文】 they have the right to pursuit freedom and happniess. In a group, American people will pay great attention to the spirit of teamwork, but they still need to maintain themselves as a separate individual and at the same time contain other people?s differences. Love is a kind of extremely romantic thing, American people have the courage to pursuit their own happniess but they will not give up their own independent personality and other pursuits just because of love. Marriage is usually referring to two person, husband and wife, and has nothing to do with other people like their relatives and friends. American people will not give up the independence of love for a certain group, such as a family. Collectivism is characterized by a social framework that distinguishes between ingroups and outgroups. People count on their ingroup such as families,。 the learned, primarily symbolic features of a particular way of life。 they think they have the good fortune to have such a life. But for the fulltime husbands, people always look down on them, they think such a man is good for nothing, and so is a useless man. The American HusbandWife Relationship Westerners believe that, husband and wife should be equal partners (瑪麗安娜卡尼戴特斯曼，喬安克蘭德爾，愛德華 N 卡尼 ,1999). Since the Industrial Revolution, the continuous growth in the demand for labor in industrial society forced a large number of women entered the labor market. Women plunged into more and more fields outside their families to participate in the work. Because women gained the oppotunity to make a financial contribution to the families, they naturally asked for the corresponding enhencement of their status. Therefore, the Women?s 桂林電子科技大學(xué)畢業(yè)設(shè)計(jì)（論文）報(bào)告用紙 第 6 頁 共 12 頁 Liberation Movement was all over the western society. Those feminists proposed a guiding principle, which was “gender equality, women?s liberation.” They requested that women should obtain equal status with men in society and family, free women from the traditional habits, attitudes and values, and achieve the true equality. Similar to that in the modern Chinese families, the husbandwife relationship in the American families has been more and more equal. The change of the women?s economic status in society was bound to bring about the reform of the husbanwife relationship within the family. But pared with Chinese families, American couples have more personal space and they p ut great emphasis on their personal privacy. And referring to finanial, in China, when two people get married, their finance will be put together and managed by husband or wife. Few people notarize [39。 virgin, accounting for 8% and good at cooking, accounting for 8%. And the top three options chosen by females were good looking, accounting for 13%。 the feudal ideas attached great importance to kinship. It?s a mom phenomenon that children will rely on their parents until they graduated from school. And parents are taken care of by their children when they are old. “To arrange a match by parents? order and on the matchmaker?s word” is the traditional way of selecting a mate, which has been popular for thousands of years. This ancient way of choosing a mate is also reflected by Chinese people?s awareness of caring for each other and the psychology of interdependent. Since the enacting of the policy of reform and openingup, along with economic development and cultural exchange between China and America, Chinese young generation are no longer affected by the traditional ideas, they get a chance to choose their spouses freely. They believe that being free to choose a mate is also an important part to realize their selfvalue. When young people fall in love, they believe that whether the partner?s interests and character are congenial or not is an important factor for them to get along with each other. However, due to the influence of Chinese traditonal culture and ethics, today parents still meddle in their children?s growth, and expect their children to develop along the way they have designed for them. Most of the young people growing up under the wings of their parents are not independent enough, and independence is the prerequisite for free love. Therefore, parents still have an important influence on their child?s marriage. In a sense, on the issue of selecting a spouse, parents are still indirectly “in power”. 桂林電子科技大學(xué)畢業(yè)設(shè)計(jì)（論文）報(bào)告用紙 第 4 頁 共 12 頁 There are two impartant traditional standards to choose a spouse in China. Firstly the girl must e from a clean background, and secondly the groom?s family and bride?s family must be wellmached in social and economic status. The bridegroom?s family usually request that the bride is from a clean background. When choosing a spouse for their son, the first thing the parents do is to investigate whether the girl is from a clean family, because they believe that only a girl with a clean background can scrupulously follow the traditional woman?s ethics, hornor her inlaws and get along well with her relatives. And the condition of wellmatchedness in social and economic status is particularly valued by Chinese traditonal parents. In Chinese classic love story, when a poor boy and a rich girl fell in love, they always met intense obstruction from the girl?s family. And a poor girl could only be a concubine when she married into a rich and powerful family. Nowadays, Chinese young people?s standard of selecting a spouse does not strictly abide by the principles of clean background and wellmatchedness in social and economic status, but is still under its influence. Today most of the Chinese young men will look for a virtuous and innocent girlfriend. NetEase conducted a survey on Valentine39。 and women?s advertisments always emphasized that they were kind, virtuous and from a good family。 value 桂林電子科技大學(xué)畢業(yè)設(shè)計(jì)（論文）報(bào)告用紙