【正文】 she never called.” One daughter had a birthday party, but Moreland wasn39。t invited.“I felt like I39。d been used,” she first, Moreland vowed to avoid she decided to swallow her pride and let her friend know how she admitted that she39。d been so worried about being separated from her family that she39。d been blind to what her friend had done to help she says, “I would never have figured out what happened if Denise hadn39。t called me on it.”When a friend hurts you, your instinct is to protect that makes it harder to patch up problems, explains William Wilmot, author of Relational Communication.“Most of us are relieved when differences are brought out in the open.”Apologize when you39。re wrongeven if you39。ve also been one should allow himself to be emotionally abused by over the course of a friendship, even the best people make mistakes.“A relationship can grind to a standstill if the offender refuses to make the first move at reconciliation,” Wilmot explains.“Under these circumstances, it may be best if the wronged person takes the initiative and apologizesfor getting upset, for not understanding the friend39。s you apologize, give your friend the opportunity to admit that he39。d screwed up.”Experts agree that one of the worst things you can do when you39。re upset is to start a fight.“We don39。t think clearly when we39。re arguing,” says Michael Lang, a professional mediator in , says Lang, ask: “What39。s going on? This doesn39。t make sense.”See things from your friend39。s point of Rebecca Adams of the University of North Carolina at Greensboro and Rosemary Blieszner, professor of gerontology and family studies at the Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University in Blacksburg, interviewed 53 adults who each had many friendships lasting decades.“We were curious how these people managed to sustain strong friendships for so long,” says is key, the researchers subjects also didn39。t let problems get blown out of proportion.“It39。s surprising how often a dispute results from a simple misunderstanding,” adds psychotherapist Anne that friendships the spring of 1996, Cindy Lawson, 34, of Chicago, and a close friend decided to cohost a friend39。s bridal two women agreed to share the work and the the friend, an attorney, took a new, more demanding responsibility for the shower fell to the Saturday of the shower, Lawson did all the party decorating, then prepared dinner for 35 cohost did not arrive from her office until shortly before the her friend plained about the was deep down, she did not want to break off two women were in a book club together, had many mon friends and enjoyed dinners out together with their , Lawson decided to remain friendsbut not close friends.“Friendships change as our needs and lifestyles change,” Wilmot observes.“It39。s healthy to have a host of friends and to sometimes shift the status of one or another.”Making friends can sometimes seem easy, says hard part is keeping the connections strong during the natural ups and downs that affect all suggestion: Consider friendship an honor and a gift, and worth the effort to treasure and nurture第五篇：與人交往教案“學(xué)會與人相處”主題班會八年級2班 楊曉琴班會主題：學(xué)會與人相處班會目的：，學(xué)生認(rèn)識人際交往的意義，體驗(yàn)與人交往的快樂。班會重點(diǎn)：分析生活中遇到的現(xiàn)象和問題。班會難點(diǎn)：提高正確與人交往的認(rèn)識和能力。一、導(dǎo)入：在同學(xué)們的生活中，每天離不開與他人的交往。有的同學(xué)有很多的朋友，有的同學(xué)總是沒有好朋友，這是什么原因呢？其實(shí)，與人交往是有技巧的。二、過程：（一）“紅色轟炸”活動（二）小組討論、交流?；顒拥谝徽荆盒∮螒颉缎腋Ｔ谏磉叀罚?）觀看視頻，讓同學(xué)們想一想為什么會發(fā)生這樣的悲劇。（2）寬容度測試 第二站：真情驛站《謝謝你，和我在一起》（3）思考問題：當(dāng)戰(zhàn)火開始燃起時(shí)……我們該怎樣做？ 小結(jié)： 第三站：我們身邊受歡迎的人 ？三、總結(jié)：《一袋土豆》，告訴學(xué)生不要讓一生都背負(fù)仇恨的包袱，原諒別人的過錯(cuò)，不要用別人的錯(cuò)誤來懲罰自己。：你不能延伸生命的長度，但你可以決定生命的寬度； 你不能左右天氣，但你可以改變心情； 你不能選擇容貌，但你可以展現(xiàn)笑……