【正文】 rve other’s reaction and feelings in conversation。 however, men like to control the conversation to show their ability and greatness. Difference in Speech StrategiesMost people think men’s importance represents in interruption, volubility, silence, topic rising, while women play main role in indirectness, taciturnity and tag questions. These mainly lie in that women perform more cooperation than men in conversation. In a conversation, women tend to refer what the former people have said, and try to say something associated with it, and they concern the reaction of the hearers.On the other hand, when listening, women are frequently used “mmhmm”, “uhhuh”, “yeah”, to show they are listening or interested in the topic, while men are likely to listen silently. Besides, when women want to interrupt others, they prefer to use such kind of words like “maybe”, “I guess” to suspect other’s view indirectly. On the contrary, men often showed strong petitiveness, tend to control the subject by their own choice and the opportunity to speak, and would not give up easily. 3 Influence on Crosscultural CommunicationWhen meet different genders, people often make some mistakes in daily munication. “You are what you say”. (Hu. 2001) Language itself is expressed by different people。 therefore, people of different gender tend to have their own expression style. Women are more care about details, while men are not. When they begin their talk, they are not easy to get smooth munication. Sometimes, men can not understand why women use tag questions so often, whether there are some underlying meanings, whether they agree them. Therefore, the good master of gender differences is helpful for people in setting up a harmonious relationship with others. It is better known that people with better cultural knowledge have more chances to success than people with less foreign cultural knowledge. After knowing the differences between male and female speech, they can understand each other better and can be easily to success.4 ConclusionThis thesis discuss the different munication between male and female, how they behave in conversation and in other situations, what influences them and why they react in a genderspecific way. What about the thesis shows the causes of gender differences in male and female speech, which emphasizes that language is the reflection of society. The study of gender differences has been a favorite subject of sociolinguistics. This paper show the differences that exist between male and female in daily munication, the reasons that cause these differences and give some suggestions to people who would take some crosscultural munication. And this paper points out the fact of the existence of gendered language by giving some examples and theories, and hopes to help people have an overall understanding of the gendered langue. ReferencesCoates, Jennifer. 1986. Women, Men and Language. London: Longman.Dittmar, N. 1976. Sociolinguistics: A Critical Survey of Theory and Application. London: Edward Arnold Ltd.Fishman, P. 1980. Conversational Insecurity. Language: Social Psychological Perspectives. Oxford: Pergamon Press.Hu, Zhuanglin. 1995. Cohesion and Coherence of the Language. Shanghai: Shanghai Foreign Language Educational Press.Hu, Zhuanglin. 2001. Linguistics, A Course Book. Beijing: Beijing University Press.Jesperson, Otto. 1922. Language: Its Nature, Development and Origin. London: Allen and Unwin.Peter, Trudgill. 1974. The Social Differentiation of English in Norwich. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press.Robin, Lakoff. 1975. Language and Woman’s Place. New York: Harper amp。 Row.Romine, S. 1994. Language in Society: An Introduction to : Oxford University Press.Song, Haiyan. 1998. Xingbie Yuanxingzai Yuyan Jiaoyude Fanying. [The Reflection of Sex on Language Teaching]. Journal of Foreign Language Newpaper, February: 5863.Tannen, Deborah. 1990. Sex and Conversation. Washington: Washington Press.Wang, Duqin. 2002. Yingyu Jiaoxue Zhanshi. [The Demonstration of English Teaching] Beijing: Foreign Teaching and Research Press.