【正文】 scious mind is making connections Next, evaluation, not every idea works.2012/8/12 lesson12An experiment :write about your worst experience If we suppress the negative emotions, we also suppresses the positive.Just open up(don’t intentionally analyze, just replay),then you bee healthier, both psychologically and physically.(men benefit more than women, because women usually(already)open up more and has strong support)the professor also found that people who benefited most introduced a lot of insight wordsubconsciously analyze there’re some people are better at dealing with hardships 3 ponents of this ability of prehensibility(ups and downs make sense to me ) of manageability(I can deal with it ) of meaningfulness(this failure was not in vain)The three are interconnected.A,B,C work together, creating an upward spiral,the process itself is rewarding Goal Setting Let’s begin with theory and practice.What goals do is allow us to focus on the future.When we declare something or save something, it’s more likely to bee a reality.Words create a image in our mind(help us create consistency).The attainment of goals does not lead to happiness, it’shaving a goal.In Buddhism, the state we want to reach is a state of nonattachment(something external that we desire)It’s good, but it’s unrealistic.When you’re immersed in something, you have clearer sense of direction, then we can enjoy the journey.List things you want to do,then look at things you really want to do.An imporatnt ponent of happiness is spirituality(the real sense of significance of something ) It doesn’t matter what I choose, if I choose something that is selfconcordant, for the right reason.Life is too short, only enough for us to do what we want to do.So ,carpe diem, do what you want.2012/8/13 lesson 13What are the benefits of selfconcordance?1. it can make us happier, because we are pursuing something we care about 2. particular goals can resolve internal conflicts(to focus)3. more likely to succeed4. trickle effect, do much better in other(external )areas5. health benefits VIA(values in action)Identify 24 character strength(they have moral ponent)With these character strengths ,with value in action, our focus is on the journey(the process )Here are some questions to identify your own character strength:1. Is it the real me?(when you’re acting according to your character strengths,you feel energized and motivated)2. When is it the real me?an exercise:Cultivating our VIA directly affects our journey, we enjoy it more.First step: identify your own character strengthsThe second:identify problems you want to solve, and see if you can use these strengths3 perceptions of work jobmotivation: pay or breakperception:work is something I have to doexpectation: nothing careermotivation:money and advancement perceptation:it’s a race to the top expectation:more prestige, more power, more money calling(it depends mouch more on your perception of the work)motivation: the work itselfperception: it’s about a selfconcordant goal,it’s a mission, a privilegeexpectation: more work,a better worldyou will be more likely to find a sense of calling if you’re a leaderpeople who just look at money and power will not be happy, we have to see the value Any work can be perceived as a callingWhat is your calling? What is your destiny?the answer may change, but when we ask these questions, we open up possibilities, we see things we’ve never seen beforeA few basic tips about setting goals: them down(making a mitment) lifelines(days we hope to achieve these goals, not deadline,make them specific to the date)Stress45%college student feel depressed. Students today have too much to do.At least 80% diseases are caused by stress.There’re still some people who succeed as well as living a happy and healthy life.2 factors: for work for recoveryStress is in fact good for us, the problem is lack of recovery.An advice:have around 90 minute of sprint(shortdistance run), have 15 minutes of recovery.Sleep is important, even a dayoff matters a lot.2012/8/14 lesson14Focus on both work as well as recovery(not to mix them together).We have so many wonderful things in our life, but we just have too much of them.The key is not to do additional things, but to do less. Because quantity affects quality.And you need to reach optimum levels of simplicity(between procrastination and too much pressure ).Essentially, what we are about is sustainable growth.Procrastination(always delay)how to overe it?1. the 5 minutes takeoff: start acting,and it will then affect our attitude,start an upward spiral2. reward3. go public, tell people what you’re going to do4. do it with other people5. write it down6. permission to recreate(give yourself permission to recover)PerfectionRemember how we learned to walk? There’re no shortcuts, all begins with a failure.An research on effective groupsIf people in the group are put in an organization, they are more likely to perform well.Organizations with their own psychological safety, perform better. Their employees are not afraid of whistle blowing, falling down, or making mistakes.These are learning organizations with the employees constantly learn and grow.(IBM is such a pany)“if you want to increase your success rate, double your failure rate”Thomas Watson2012/8/15 lesson15“I failed my way to success.”Compare early 30s and older generation leaders(over70):Worklife balance is very important for the late 20s,early 30s,whereas for the 70 80 90 year olds, a foreign concept(wives does housework, they only need to work).Both groups regard failure as a pivotal(turning) point, they’re good at making use of what happens.Define what we mean by pertectionism:An incapacitating fea