【文章內(nèi)容簡介】 解“失敗并不一定是災難”） ? Healthy: ? 精力充沛，對能力有充足的信心；他們相信自己，了解自己的價值所在； Selfassured, energetic, and petent with high selfesteem: they believe in themselves and their own value. ? 適應的、有魅力的 Adaptable, charming, ? 雄心勃勃，總是盡己所能成為最好，通常表現(xiàn)突出，受到廣泛贊譽； Ambitious to to be the best they can be — often bee outstanding, embodying widely admired ? 高效，成為他人效仿的榜樣； Highly effective: others are motivated to be like them in some positive way. ? At Their Best: ? 自我接納，可信賴；謙卑仁慈； ? 自嘲式幽默、坦誠待人，利他； ? Unhealthy: ? 害怕失敗和蒙羞，為了保持成功者的形象，他們可能會不擇手段，表現(xiàn)出功利傾向，甚至剽竊他人的成功果實。 Fearing failure and humiliation, they can be exploitative and opportunistic, covetous of the success of others, and willing to do whatever it takes to preserve the illusion of their superiority. ? 掩蓋錯誤，不可信，嫉妒可能超越你的人，惡意背叛或拖別人后腿。Devious and deceptive so that their mistakes and wrongdoings will not be exposed. Untrustworthy, maliciously betraying or sabotaging people to triumph over them. Delusionally jealous of others ? 報復心理，試圖令人不快，討厭別人提及自己的弱點； / Bee vindictive, attempting to ruin others39。 happiness. Relentless, obsessive about destroying whatever reminds them of their own shortings and failures. ? 精神錯亂、謀殺者，與自戀式病態(tài)人格有高度關(guān)聯(lián)。 Psychopathic, murder. Generally corresponds to the Narcissistic Personality Disorder. . Presidents, leaders, diplomats Artists, entertainers, humanitarians Intellectual/Scientific leaders Other Cultural auras 1 3w2： Arnold Schwarzenegger, Madonna Britney Spears, Micheal Jordan 3w4: Tom Cruise Barbra Streisand Sharon Stone Sting Whitney Houston Bill Clinton（ 3w2 ） Jimmy Carter（ 3w4 ） Tony Blair Regis Philbin, Joe Montana, Christopher Reeves, America Linus Pauling 第四型 浪漫主義者 /個別型 /藝術(shù)型 ? 具有藝術(shù)氣質(zhì)、多情，他們尋求理想的伴侶和一生的志業(yè)，活在失落的生命中某項重要事物的感覺中； ? 他們覺得必須找到真實的伙伴關(guān)系，自己才完整，他們傾向于把疏離理想化，并找出現(xiàn)行事物和世俗的錯誤； ? 他們受到高深的情緒性經(jīng)驗的吸引，表達出與眾不同的一面，無論在任何領(lǐng)域他們的生命反映出對重要性和意義的追求； ? 雖然很容易陷入自己的情緒，他們具能表現(xiàn)出最高度的同理心，去支持處在情緒痛苦中的人； 第四型 個別型（ The INDIVIDUALIST ） ? The withdrawn idealseeker . ? ? The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Expressive, Dramatic, SelfAbsorbed, and Temperamental（敏感、內(nèi)傾的、有表現(xiàn)力的、生動的、自我陶醉的、情緒化的） ? Basic Fear: That they have no identity or personal significance（害怕不特別、沒有個性） Basic Desire: To find themselves and their significance (to create an identity)（發(fā)現(xiàn)自我，塑造個性） Enneagram Four with a ThreeWing: “ The Aristocrat“（貴族） Enneagram Four with a FiveWing: ” The Bohemian“（波西米亞 /吉普賽） Individualist特征 ? 基本缺失： An experience of the ORIGINAL DEEP AND COMPLETE CONNECTION to everything. 與世界原初的、深切的、完整的聯(lián)系 ? 補償觀念： A painful loss of original connection leaves a terrible feeling of deficiency and a sense that something vitally important is missing which must be regained. 生命中一些重要的缺失必須得到恢復； ? 應對策略： Searching for the ideal love or circumstances that will make you feel loved, whole, and plete again. Putting attention onto intense feelings concerning that which is judged important and missing. 找尋理想的愛，使自己感受被愛、整合和完成。關(guān)注重要的缺失。 ? 陷阱 : Trying to obtain the special, ultimate love or situation that will make you plete. ——總是試圖追尋特別的、最終的愛或境遇以使自己完整； Individualist特征 ? 心理動力源（ Driving Energy ） : Want to express their individuality, to create and surround themselves with beauty, to maintain certain moods and feelings, to attract a “ rescuer” .—— 展示個性自我，塑造和保持美好的氣質(zhì)，沉浸于屬于自己的獨特的情緒情感世界中，更關(guān)注情緒性需要 ；尋找“救贖者” ； ENVY AND LONGING ； ? 心理逃避（ Avoidance ） : Being ordinary, deficient, lacking. ——變得普通平凡、不完整、有缺失； ? 優(yōu)勢（ strengths)： Creative disposition（創(chuàng)造性潛質(zhì)） , passion（有激情） , empathy（易移情） , emotional depth（情感體驗深刻） ? 悖論（ Paradox） :Wanting what is missing perpetuates dissatisfaction with what already is present. （總是追尋缺少的，而不滿足于已經(jīng)擁有的。） Individualist個性完善的鑰匙 （ Keys to Path of Development） ? Be consistent in action despite fluctuating and intense feelings. （控制強烈的情感波動對行動的影響，堅持做該做的） ? Appreciate the ordinary. （學會欣賞平凡） ? appreciating what is here and now and accepting yourself as you are, without needing to be special and unique.（自然地接受此時此地的自己，不追求特別和唯一） ? practicing selfappreciation based on what is present and not what is absent and what is, not what isn‘ t。 （依擁有的而非缺少的來賞析自我，關(guān)注什么是，而非什么不是） ? Healthy: ? 追尋自我，好內(nèi)省，了解自己的情感和內(nèi)心沖動， Selfaware, introspective, on the search for self, aware of feelings and inner impulses. ? 對自己和他人都憑借感覺和直覺進行判斷。溫和、富于同情心、機智； Sensitive and intuitive both to self and others: gentle, tactful, passionate. ? 高度個性化，忠實于自己，情緒呈現(xiàn)直接；易受刺激的、情緒化傾向明顯。 / Highly personal, individualistic, true to self. emotionally honest, humane. vulnerable and emotionally strong. ? At Their Best: ? 高度創(chuàng)造性的、很可能從事藝術(shù)類工作，依靠靈感，能夠進行自我更新和再生。 Profoundly creative, possibly in a work of art. Inspired, selfrenewing and regenerating ? Unhealthy: ? 當夢想失敗時，會產(chǎn)生對自己的憤怒和壓抑，產(chǎn)生疏離、自我封閉和情感麻痹。以自己為恥，疲乏以及喪失動機； When dreams fail, bee selfinhibiting and angry at self, depressed and alienated from self and others, blocked and emotionally paralyzed. Ashamed of self, fatigued and unable to function. / ? 被自恥、自責和自厭等情緒折磨，產(chǎn)生病態(tài)觀念：任何事都是痛苦的來源；推開所有想要幫助他的人； Tormented by delusional selfcontempt, selfreproaches, selfhatred, and morbid thoughts: everything is a source of torment. Blaming others, they drive away anyone who tries to help them. / ? 感到絕望、無助，有自毀傾向，可能濫用酒精及藥物以逃避現(xiàn)實；情緒失控崩潰或自殺都有可能發(fā)生。通常與回避反應，抑郁癥以及自戀式人格障礙有關(guān)。 Despairing, feel hopeless and bee selfdestructive, possibly abusing alcohol or drugs to escape. In the extreme: emotional breakdown or suicide is likely. Generally corresponds to the Avoidant, Depressive, and Narcissistic personality disorders. . Presidents, leaders, diplomats Artists, entertainers, humanitar