【文章內(nèi)容簡(jiǎn)介】 what itamp。39。s like for me in a faculty meeting.
　　So when I became Vulnerability TED, like an action figure Like Ninja Barbie, but Iamp。39。m Vulnerability TED I thought, Iamp。39。m going to leave that shame stuff behind, because I spent six years studying shame before I started writing and talking about vulnerability. And I thought, thank God, because shame is this horrible topic, no one wants to talk about it. Itamp。39。s the best way to shut people down on an airplane.amp。quot。What do you do?amp。quot。 amp。quot。I study shame.amp。quot。 amp。quot。Oh.amp。quot。
　　And I see you.
　　But in surviving this last year, I was reminded of a cardinal rule not a research rule, but a moral imperative from my upbringing amp。quot。youamp。39。ve got to dance with the one who brung yaamp。quot。. And I did not learn about vulnerability and courage and creativity and innovation from studying vulnerability. I learned about these things from studying shame. And so I want to walk you in to shame. Jungian analysts call shame the swampland of the soul. And weamp。39。re going to walk in. And the purpose is not to walk in and construct a home and live there. It is to put on some galoshes and walk through and find our way around. Hereamp。39。s why.
　　We heard the most pelling call ever to have a conversation in this country, and I think globally, around race, right? Yes? We heard that. Yes? Cannot have that conversation without shame. Because you cannot talk about race without talking about privilege. And when people start talking about privilege, they get paralyzed by shame. We heard a brilliant simple solution to not killing people in surgery,which is, have a checklist. You canamp。39。t fix that problem without addressing shame, because when they teach those folks how to suture,they also teach them how to stitch their selfworth to being allpowerful. And allpowerful folks donamp。39。t need checklists.
　　And I had to write down the name of this TED Fellow so I didnamp。39。t mess it up here. Myshkin Ingawale, I hope I did right by you.
　　I saw the TED Fellows my first day here. And he got up and he explained how he was driven to create some technology to help test for anemia, because people were dying unnecessarily. And he said, amp。quot。I saw this need. So you know what I did? I made it.amp。quot。 And everybody just burst into applause, and they were like amp。quot。Yes!amp。quot。 And he said, amp。quot。And it didnamp。39。t work.
　　And then I made it 32 more times, and then it worked.amp。quot。
　　You know what the big secret about TED is? I canamp。39。t wait to tell people this. I guess Iamp。39。m doing it right now.
　　This is like the failure conference.
　　No, it is.
　　You know why this place is amazing? Because very few people here are afraid to fail. And no one who gets on the stage, so far that Iamp。39。ve seen, has not failed. Iamp。39。ve failed miserably, many times. I donamp。39。t think the world understands that, because of shame.
　　Thereamp。39。s a great quote that saved me this past year by Theodore Roosevelt. A lot of people refer to it as the amp。quot。Man in the Arenaamp。quot。 it goes like this: amp。quot。It is not the critic who counts. It is not the man who sits and points out how the doer of deeds could have done things better and how he falls and stumbles. The credit goes to the man in the arena whose face is marred with dust and blood and sweat. B