【正文】 t see the value in had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn39。 來源： 蔣文軒的日志39。ll find two of my favorite Tolle39。t have to know the second theory of thermodynamics in physics to only need a heart full of grace and a soul generated by love.” In a few moments, you39。s peed.” That39。re an anatomist, you look at your gift as knowledge and service to you39。re in pain, help somebody else39。t live for yourself is what I know for sure: In order to be truly happy, you must live along with and you have to stand for something larger than life is a reciprocal move forward you have to give to me, that is the greatest lesson of be happy, you have to give something know you know that, because that39。s all you get, a half an need to focus on the now, what you need to do , I contacted a child trauma put together a team of made sure the girls had counseling and Gayle and I got on a plane and flew to South the whole time I kept asking that question: What is this here to teach me? And, as difficult as that experience has been, I got a lot of understand now the mistakes I made, because I had been paying attention to all of the wrong 39。s all about letting the awareness of who you are stimulate everything that you do, he puts it like this: He says, don39。s way of saying time to change , ask every failure—this is what I do with every failure, every crisis, every difficult time—I say, what is this here to teach me? And as soon as you get the lesson, you get to move you really get the lesson, you pass and you don39。cause money is very like 39。re entering a whole new he calls it the Conceptual Age, where traits that set people apart today are going to e from our hearts—right brain—as well as our 39。ve ever made was a result of me not listening to the greater voice of it doesn39。re doing the work you39。cause I39。t read my copy and it would be, like, six people on a pileup on , my sometimes I wouldn39。t tell, is nothing like Barbara , they sent me to a salon where they gave me a perm, and after a few days all my hair fell out and I had to shave my then they really didn39。re looking for your little name on the lunch boxes and the license plate tags, you39。t feel didn39。s where I met my best friend, Gayle, who was an intern at the same TV once we became friends, we39。t you glad? Don39。re here, to evolve as human grow into more of ourselves, always moving to the next level of understanding, the next level of passion and think about one of the greatest pliments I39。s still saying I39。t know what you39。t matter to me, because I was earning a was on my , I thought, I39。cause I didn39。s my mom.” And so the person says, “Ohmigod, does it mean, like, you know Oprah Winfrey?” And Kirby says, “Sort of.” I said, “Sort of? You sort of know me?” Well, I have photographic have pictures which I can to you all of Kirby riding horsey with me on all , I more than sortof know Kirby I39。第二篇：奧普拉在斯坦福大學演講文本Thank you, President Hennessy, and to the trustees and the faculty, to all of the parents and grandparents, to you, the Stanford you for letting me share this amazing day with need to begin by letting everyone in on a little secret is that Kirby Bumpus, Stanford Class of 39。你將從錯誤中緩過來，而且，正是因為這些錯誤，你更好地認識你自己。我在敦促你們的，是認識到你的道德自由（moral freedom）并熱情擁抱它。這是永不停息的過程（a neverending process）。這是什么道理？進入證券咨詢業(yè)是不 是自我放任？進入金融業(yè)是不是自我放任？像許多人那樣進入律師界發(fā)財是不是自我放任？搞音樂，寫文章就不行，因為它不能給人帶來利益（what good does that really do anyone）。好像自己已經(jīng)走火入魔了似的：拋棄確定無疑的東西是瘋了，認為思想生活可行是瘋了，想象你有權(quán)嘗試是瘋了。在《青年藝術(shù)家的肖像》（A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man）中，詹姆斯?喬伊斯（James Joyce）讓主人公斯蒂芬?迪達勒斯（Stephen Dedalus）就19世紀末期的愛爾蘭的成長環(huán)境說出了如下名言“當一個人的靈魂誕生在這個國家時，有一張大網(wǎng)把它罩住，防止它飛翔。道德想象力是困 難的，這種困難與你已經(jīng)習慣的困難完全不同。“為美國而教”的問題或者“為美國而教”已經(jīng)成為體系一部分的問題，是它已經(jīng)成為另外一個需要“進入”的門檻。但你可以做出另外的選擇，你可以轉(zhuǎn)身走出去。（Not following a path, but making your own path.）我談?wù)摰南胂罅κ堑赖孪胂罅Γ╩oral imagination；眠按：這個是心理學專業(yè)名詞）。真正的自尊意味著對此問題的足夠認識：盡管你在成長過程中的一切都在教導你要相信自己，但你所達到的登記，還有那些獎勵、成績、獎品、錄取通知書等所有這一切，都不能來定義你是誰（defines who you are）。幾年前，我在哈佛參加了一次小組討論會，談到這些問題。你在上學期間全身心都在朝著這個目標前進。從你上高中開始，甚至初中開始，你的唯一目標就是進入最好的大學，所以現(xiàn)在你會很自然地從“進入下個階段”的角度看待 人生（you naturally think about your life in terms of “getting into” whatever39。（It39。那個活潑能干的19歲年輕人已經(jīng)變成了只想一 件事的40歲中年人。在你走向所 渴望的成功之路的過程中，進入斯坦福是你踏上的眾多階梯中的一個。掌握 這些技能當然沒有錯，全力以赴成為最優(yōu)秀的人也沒有錯。我們不妨先來討論你是如何考入斯坦福的吧。]我們不僅僅是我們的工作，教育 的全部也不僅僅是一門主修專業(yè)。你用幾個暑假在本地大學里預習大學課 程，或參加專門技能的夏令營或訓練營。真的，你能知道的一切就只是你的專業(yè)了。再次，做這些事沒有任何錯。s a smart guy, but all he talks about is money and livers.”）還有另外一個問題。你考入醫(yī)學院是因為它的地位高，人人都羨慕。你邁出了這一步，下一步似乎就必然在等著你。這聽起來像老生常談，但這個被稱為中年危機（midlife crisis）的“有一天醒來”（“waking up one day”）一直就發(fā)生在每個人身上?！痹俅?，認為得了優(yōu)秀是因為自己聰明的想法并沒有任何錯，不過，哈佛學生沒有認識到的是他們沒有第三種選擇（a third alternative）。真 正的創(chuàng)新意味著運用你的想象力，發(fā)揮你的潛力，創(chuàng)造新的可能性。即確認你自己的價值 觀（own values），思考邁向自己所定義的成功的道路，而不僅僅是接受別人給你的生活(simply accepting the life that you39。我得到的最常見的批評是：教育項目“為美國而教”（Teach for America）如何？從名校出來的很多學生畢業(yè)后很多參與這個教育項目，因此我的觀點是錯誤的。你根本不用自己創(chuàng)造，什么都不用做，只需申請然后按要求做就行了，就像上大學或法學院或麥肯錫公司或別的什么。他們和其他人對世界的看法格格不入，更糟糕的是，讓別人對自己已經(jīng)做出的選擇感到不安全或無法做出選擇?！霸诠プx學位過程中有這么多事要做的時候（so many other things），試圖按照自己的感覺生活難道不是自我放任嗎？”“畢業(yè)后不去找個真正的工作（getting a real job）而去畫畫難道不是自我放任嗎？”這些是年輕人只要思考一下稍稍出格（a little bit different）的事就不由自主地質(zhì)問自己的問題。這是美國社會的貧困——思想、道德和精神貧困的最明顯癥狀，美國最聰明的年輕人竟然認為聽從自己的好奇心行動就是自我放任。s selfish to pursue your passion, unless it39。成為醫(yī)生、律師、科學家、工程師或者經(jīng)濟學家沒有什么不好，這些都是可靠的、可敬的選擇（valid and admirable choices）。最重要 的是，去拒否失敗的恐懼感。打開自己，直面各種可能性吧。s first meeting her to know that I know her and she knows , when she first came to Stanford for new student orientation with her mom, I hear that they arrived and everybody was so weling, and somebody came up to Kirby and they said, “Ohmigod, that39。s how well I know can call her so proud of her mother and father, who helped her get through this time, and her brother, really had nothing to do with her graduating fr