【正文】 他們說：“我的天 啊，那是Gayle King”。所以當(dāng)Hennessy校長(zhǎng)讓我來(lái)做演講時(shí)，我受寵若驚，因 為自從Kirby來(lái)這上學(xué)以來(lái)，這是我第一次被允許到斯坦福來(lái)。我始終熱愛自己的脫口秀節(jié)目，但真正令我感到幸福的，是我不只在電視機(jī)鏡頭前工作，還能夠借著節(jié)目行善。想要得到真正的快樂，除了活在當(dāng)下，你還得為一個(gè)比自己更大的意義而活。沒有任何人一生風(fēng)平浪靜，每一次危機(jī)、每一個(gè)困境、每一度失意，我都會(huì)問自己：“你學(xué)到什么?”只要你從摔跤中學(xué)到教訓(xùn)，就站起來(lái)，拍拍灰塵，繼續(xù)走下去。這不僅會(huì)改善你的生活，也會(huì)讓你的職場(chǎng)工作增加競(jìng)爭(zhēng)力。我發(fā)現(xiàn)電視不只是娛樂，也能幫助人。的確，我跟傳統(tǒng)的主播美女長(zhǎng)得真不像。我的秘訣是，毫不遲疑地打開試卷，用真正的我去面對(duì)，從中學(xué)到自我改進(jìn)，追求更深層次的理解、被理解與成長(zhǎng)。Eckhart Tolle的A New Earth流行書俱樂部的精選品。You know, I39。s 39。t have to know Einstein39。他們會(huì)對(duì)你說：“我的天啊，是你！你尿尿啦?！蔽也恢溃坪踅裉焖腥硕枷氤雒?。我知道你們?cè)谒固垢Ｋ诘囊磺芯褪菫榱顺鋈フ乙环莨ぷ?。這改變了我成功的軌跡。這不僅僅是某種軟技能的談話。如果你感到痛苦，幫助他人減輕痛苦。斯坦福夫婦的獨(dú)子在15歲時(shí)得了傷寒離開了他們。s a lesson that39。t live for yourself is what I know for sure: In order to be truly happy, you must live along with and you have to stand for something larger than life is a reciprocal move forward you have to give to me, that is the greatest lesson of be happy, you have to give something ，去參與一些事。s the simplest of Brooks wrote a poem for her 39。我從外向內(nèi)建造了那所學(xué)校，然而正真對(duì)我有意義的是從內(nèi)向外的去建造它。我派了一隊(duì)調(diào)查人員。s get to it。我花了5年時(shí)間來(lái)確保學(xué)校會(huì)像學(xué)生們一樣好。他寫了一本非常棒的書，名叫A New Earth。但是如果你不去想為什困難會(huì)發(fā)生，而是去反思困難會(huì)教給我什么時(shí)，你就會(huì)學(xué)到你需要的東西。如果你沒有吸取教訓(xùn)，它會(huì)以另外一種形式給出現(xiàn)在你面前并給你一些補(bǔ)救。s way of saying time to change , ask every failure—this is what I do with every failure, every crisis, every difficult time—I say, what is this here to teach me? And as soon as you get the lesson, you get to move you really get the lesson, you pass and you don39。你所希望得到的是被信任你珍視你的人包圍。But having a lot of money does not automatically make you a successful you want is money and want your work to be meaning is what brings the real richness to your you really want is to be surrounded by people you trust and treasure and by people who cherish 39。s pretty 39。re doing what we love, when we39。s no longer just the logical, linear, rulesbased thinking that matters, he 39。t know what to do, get still, get very still, until you do know what to ，就不要去做。我所做過的所有錯(cuò)誤選擇都是因?yàn)闆]有聽取來(lái)自我內(nèi)心的聲音。re supposed to do something or not supposed to do something, your emotional guidance system lets you trick is to learn to check your ego at the door and start checking your gut right decision I39。re doing the work you39。他們說我太情緒化了。自從15歲時(shí)我就開始記日記了，于是現(xiàn)在我已經(jīng)有了好幾卷日記?！盨o, I was juggling these messages of expectation and obligation and feeling really miserable with 39。我想這樣下去學(xué)Barbara可不大好。And sometimes I wouldn39。t read my copy and it would be, like, six people on a pileup on , my ，使我更像Barbara。So, as President Hennessy said, I39?？墒菐滋旌笪业念^發(fā)一團(tuán)糟。t like the way you look.” Which, in case some of you in the back, if you can39。t feel 39。re looking for your little name on the lunch boxes and the license plate tags, you39。首先，正如Hennessy校長(zhǎng)所說，當(dāng)他們?cè)噲D讓我改名字。想象一下吧，當(dāng)你40歲時(shí)你每年就會(huì)掙40,000美元”When I turned 40, I was so glad that didn39。re only when you39。clock news coanchor job at 22 was such a big felt like the biggest deal in the world at the ，在Baltimore我得到了一個(gè)共同主持6點(diǎn)新聞的機(jī)會(huì)。re like, “Listen, this is my is not about you.” So, it39。相信我，內(nèi)在的智慧比外在的財(cái)富更加珍貴。她對(duì)我說：“你知道嗎？你一點(diǎn)也沒有變。s really why we39。ve learned to getting ahead is being open to the lessons, lessons from the grandest university of all, that is, the universe ?？晌腋嬖V他們，我不能去演講除非我得到那一個(gè)學(xué)分，因?yàn)槲野职挚偸钦f沒了那學(xué)位我將一事無(wú)成。”我說：“但是，爸爸，現(xiàn)在我已經(jīng)是脫口秀的主持人了”。d say, “Well, I still don39。11點(diǎn)之前到家。Seriously, my dad was like, “Well, that news is over at 10: home by 11.” But that didn39。因?yàn)檫@是真的，我知道根本不會(huì)拿到我的學(xué)位，因?yàn)槲覜]有去斯坦福念書。cause I didn39。我為Kirby感到自豪，因?yàn)樗@得了人類生物學(xué)和心理學(xué)的雙學(xué)位。d rather be, because I39。And so somebody es up to Kirby, and they say, “Ohmigod, is that Gayle King?” And Kirby39。s a very smart wants people to get to know her on her own terms, she in terms of who she , she never wants anyone who39。感謝你們讓我和你們分享這美好的一天。這個(gè)秘密就是Kirby Bumpus，斯坦福2008年的畢業(yè)生，是我的義女。當(dāng)她和她媽媽第一次來(lái)到斯坦福參加開學(xué)典禮時(shí)，我聽說每個(gè)人都十分熱情。”I said, “Sort of? You sort of know me?” Well, I have photographic have pictures which I can to you all of Kirby riding horsey with me on all , I more than sortof know Kirby I39。我可以把Kirby 和我騎馬時(shí)的照片給你們。m getting ready to go to Stanford.” 我為她的父母感到驕傲，她的父母給了她很大幫助，還有她的哥哥Will。d been in television since I was 19 and a , I was the only television anchor person that had an 11 o39。因?yàn)槲乙呀?jīng)上了電視。t know what you39。由于我沒有畢業(yè)，他總是說：“Oprah Gail（我的中間名字），我不知道沒有學(xué)位你能做些什么。d say, “I don39。m not going to get anywhere without that ，Tennessee州立大學(xué)邀請(qǐng)我回去做他們的畢業(yè)典禮演講。s only just ，因?yàn)椋骸瓣P(guān)于學(xué)習(xí)的美好在于別人不會(huì)把知識(shí)從你身上拿走”學(xué)習(xí)正是我今天想說的，因?yàn)槟銈兊慕逃]有在這里結(jié)束。It39。t 39。s how you enrich your , trust me, I know that inner wisdom is more precious than more you spend it, the more you ，去做我們自己。t you hate it when somebody says, “I39。The three lessons that have had the greatest impact on my life have to do with feelings, with failure and with finding ，它們是關(guān)于感情，失敗和追求幸福。d say, “Ohmigod, I can39。我遇到了在電視臺(tái)做實(shí)習(xí)生的Gayle，我們立刻成了好朋友。s going to remember , we want to change your 39。t be angry with my name wasn39。你們可以看到，自小我就不怎么喜歡我的名字。And then they said they didn39。可是那時(shí)他們還是說：“我不喜歡你的造型。s tragedies as a part of my daily duty, knowing that I was just expected to observe, when everything in my instinct told me that I should be doing something, I should be lending a 。由于白天播報(bào)的那些新聞導(dǎo)致我晚上難以入睡。所以我想為大家播報(bào)一些我想要的新聞。s not going too should try being ，我不會(huì)去播報(bào)一些新聞?！蔽业睦习逡舱f：“這是晚間新聞。d eat my 39。t want to pay out the contract, they put me on a talk show in the moment I sat down on that show, the moment I did, I felt like I39。感覺好極啦。It39。當(dāng)你應(yīng)該或者不應(yīng)該改做某事時(shí)，你的內(nèi)心會(huì)告訴你怎樣去做。 is what I39。有很多次當(dāng)你不知道如何去做時(shí)，什么也不要做，直到你知道怎么做為止。他說，重要的不僅僅是邏輯上的，線性的，直尺式的思維方式。每一個(gè)人都會(huì)有的。我不會(huì)告訴你們成功與錢無(wú)關(guān)，因?yàn)殄X是好東東。你想要的是錢和意義。Now I want to talk a little bit about failings, because nobody39。如果事情出錯(cuò)了，你進(jìn)入了死胡同，這正是生活在告訴你是時(shí)候改變了。ll get a you resist , if you ask the right question—not why is this happening, but what is this here to teach me?—it puts you in the place and space to get the lesson you ，困難就會(huì)出現(xiàn)。merge with that situation the solution will arise from the surrendering yourself doesn39。Many of you know that, as President Hennessy said, I started this school in I founded the school, where I39。然而，去年的秋天我卻遇到了一個(gè)我從未預(yù)料的危機(jī)。一個(gè)半小時(shí)，這就是你全部所能得到的。s a lesson that applies to all of our lives as a matters most is what39。And their resilience and spirit have given me more than I could ever give