【正文】 ut then he got back up, got back on the stool, and reached out for a box of BandAids to put one on his cut. 他哭了一下然后就爬起來，站回小凳子上，拿了一個創(chuàng)可貼貼在他的傷口上，Now, this kid could barely tie his shoelaces, but he knew you have to cover a cut, so it doesn39。But what do we know about maintaining our psychological health? Well, nothing. 但是我們知道怎樣保持精神上的健康嗎？完全不知道。t. 我們卻沒有采取行動?！癘h, you39。s all in your leg.”你能想象對一個骨折了的人說這樣的話嗎？“走走就好了，都在你腿上呢。Speaking of which, my brother is also a psychologist. 說到雙胞胎，我弟弟也是個心理醫(yī)生。t study together, though.我們不是在一起上的學。and the separation was brutal for both of us.這個分離對我倆來說都很殘酷。t be spending together. 當我們的生日到來的時候，那是第一個我們沒能在一起過的生日。Given the time difference, I assumed, ”O(jiān)k, he39。t. 但他始終沒有打來。I stumbled out off the bed, 我從床上跳了起來。Now I tried to explain what happened, but he said, ”I don39。t I call him? 他說的對，我為什么不打給他呢？I didn39。Loneliness creates a deep psychological wound, one that distorts our perceptions and scrambles our thinking.孤獨導致深重的心理創(chuàng)傷，扭曲我們的感知能力，剝奪我們的思考能力。And I did.我當時是這樣的。m not kidding.孤獨不僅讓你覺得凄慘，還可能致死。It even suppress the functioning of your immune system, making you vulnerable to all kinds of illnesses and diseases.它甚至會影響你的免疫系統(tǒng)，使你容易患上各種疾病。t.可孤獨沒有。Because you can39。Loneliness isn39。You had to slide the red button, and a cute doggier would pop out. 你得把一個紅色的鈕滑開，然后一個可愛的小狗就會跳出來。So three toddlers with identical plastic toys, but with very different reactions to failure.同樣的塑料玩具給了這三個幼兒，但他們對失敗的反應截然不同。In fact, we all have a default set of feelings and beliefs that gets triggered whenever we encounter frustrations and setbacks. 事實上，我們都有一個固定的思維感知模式，每當我們感到沮喪，受到挫折，我們便會進入這個模式。ll begin to feel helpless and you39。ll be even more convinced you can39。Because some where along the way, sometimes a single failure convinced them that they couldn39。I learned that lesson the hard way when I was a teenager with my brother.我十幾歲的時候，和我哥哥一起，吃了點苦頭才明白這道理。 And his eyes opened wide and he said,”where have I seen your face before?”And I said,”In the front seat.”他瞪大了眼睛說得，“我在哪兒見過你？”我說，“副駕駛座上。t have a police record, could I show him I had a twin in the front seat.于是他把我拖出車子，有搜了我的身，他把我押到警車那兒，直到他驗證了我并沒有犯罪記錄，我才有機會解釋我和副駕駛座位上的是 雙胞胎。(Demoralize,美 [d?39。You have to gain control over the situation.你要重新控制局面。(Trustworthy,美 [39。She had met this guy online, and he seemed nice and he seemed successful, and most importantly, he seemed really into her.她在網上認識了這個男的，他看上去人很好，也很成功，最重要的是，他似乎對她非常感興趣。Rejection is extremely painful.被拒絕是極其痛苦的。Here39。s what the woman said to herself.這其實是那位女士對她自己說的。t, we call ourselves names.我們開始去想我們犯的錯，我們的缺點，我們要是這樣就好了，我們要是不那樣就好了，我們給自己起外號。Why would we want to go and damage it even further?為什么我們要進一步傷害它呢？We wouldn39。m going to take a knife and see how much deeper I can make it.”你要是胳膊上有個傷口，你不會說，“啊，我知道！我要拿刀看我到底能捅多深。t prioritize our psychological health.因為我們不重視心理健康。re in emotional pain, treat yourself with the same passion you would expect from a truly good friend.當你經歷感情上痛苦，像一個真正的好朋友那樣同情你自己。It39。s a very costly one.反復回味不愉快的事很容易變成習慣而這個習慣代價很大。I know this for a fact, because a little over year ago, I developed the habit myself.我知道事實如此，因為就在一年多以前，我自己就經歷了這個習慣。He had visible tumors all over his body.全身都有看到的腫瘤。t stop thinking about how much he was suffering, even though he never plained, not once.情不自禁去想他受的這些罪，盡情他從抱怨過，一次都沒有。But I knew what to do.但我知道該怎么做。Nine weeks after he started chemotherapy, my brother had a CAT scan, and I was by his side when he got the results.做了化療九周之后，我哥哥做了電腦斷層掃描，出結果的時候，我就在他身邊。By taking action when you39。I believe our quality of life could rise just as dramatically if we all began practicing emotional hygiene.我相信，我們的生活質量也會有同樣程度的提高，如果我們開始關注情緒上的保健。s the world I want to live in, and tha