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法。想要得到真正的快樂,除了活在當(dāng)下,你還得為一個比自己更大的意義而活。當(dāng)你陷入一團糟,惟一走出迷霧的辦法,就是帶別人走出迷霧。我始終熱愛自己的脫口秀節(jié)目,但真正令我感到幸福的,是我不只在電視機鏡頭前工作,還能夠借著節(jié)目行善。08, is my , I was thrilled when President Hennessy asked me to be your Commencement speaker, because this is the first time I39。所以當(dāng)Hennessy校長讓我來做演講時,我受寵若驚,因 為自從Kirby來這上學(xué)以來,這是我第一次被允許到斯坦福來。s Gayle King!” Because a lot of people know Gayle King as my BFF [best friend forever].正如你們知道的那樣Kirby是一個非常聰明的女孩。他們說:“我的天 啊,那是Gayle King”。s my mom.”And so the person says, “Ohmigod, does it mean, like, you know OprahWinfrey?”And Kirby says, “Sort of.” 有些人走到Kirby面前,對Kirby說:“我的天啊,那是Gayle King嗎?”Kirby說:“嗯,她 是我媽媽。m so happy to be here, just happy that I finally, after four years, get to see her 39。s how well I know can call her :“有一點。因此我不僅僅只是有點認(rèn)識Kirby Bumpus。我可以叫她Cakes。我對Kirby大學(xué)四 年真的沒有什么幫助。m just going to forget it, 39。clock curfew doing the 10 o39。但是我本來不會拿到我 的畢業(yè)證,因為我本應(yīng)該在1975 年畢業(yè),但是我少了一個學(xué)分。我在19 歲還是大學(xué)二 年級的時候就已經(jīng)上了電視。m going to let this college thing go and I only had one credit , my father, from that time on and for years after, was always on my case, because I did not 39。re gonna do without that degree.” And I39。我在走我自己的路?!比缓笪艺f:“但是,爸爸,我已經(jīng)有我自己的電視節(jié)目啦。re going to do without that degree.” And I39。t know how you39。” So, in 1987, Tennessee State University invited me back to speak at their then, I had my own show, was nationally 39。在那時,我已經(jīng)有了自 己的電視節(jié)目,并加入了國家聯(lián)合會。我的爸爸非常的驕傲。在很多情況下,這才是剛剛開使。有時這些課程會是彎路和障礙。s being able to walk through life eager and open to selfimprovement and that which is going to best help you evolve, 39。不斷自我提高,去追求人 生的更高境界,去追求更高級別的憐憫和自我提高。ve just bee more of yourself.“ 我記得我所受到的最大的贊揚就是當(dāng)我剛剛在芝加1 哥開始工作時,我采訪了一個記者?!?And that is really what we39。我堅信你們會從每一件做過的事上學(xué)到經(jīng)驗,這樣你們就會取得進步。So, today, I just want to share a few lessons—meaning three—that I39。m going to share a few,“ and it39。你們難道不覺得高興嗎?你們是否會反感,當(dāng)有人 對你說:“我想分享一些”但事實上卻是10 個經(jīng)驗。A year after I left college, I was given the opportunity to coanchor the 6 o39。它那時對我來說它仿佛是世界上最重要的事。t believe it!You39。s where I met my best friend, Gayle, who was an intern at the same TV once we became friends, we39。clock news coanchor job at 22 was such a big felt like the biggest deal in the world at the ,在Baltimore我得到了一個共同主持6 點新聞的機會。因此這里只有三個經(jīng)驗我想和大家分享。re like, ”Listen, this is my is not about you.“ So, it39。t you glad? Don39。相信我,內(nèi)在的智慧比外在的財富更加珍貴。s a lesson in almost everything that you do and every experience, and getting the lesson is how you move 39。她對我說:“你知道嗎?你一點也沒有變。ve ever received: I interviewed with a reporter when I was first starting out in then many years later, I saw the same she said to me, ”You know what? You really haven39。s really why we39。我所學(xué)的應(yīng)付這一切的秘密就是去勇于面 對,正如我們面對大學(xué)課程一樣。ve learned to getting ahead is being open to the lessons, lessons from the grandest university of all, that is, the universe 。t ending many ways, it39??晌腋嬖V他們,我不能去演講除非我得到那一個學(xué)分,因為我爸爸總 是說沒了那學(xué)位我將一事無成。s still saying I39?!蔽艺f:“但是,爸爸,現(xiàn)在我已經(jīng)是脫口秀的主持人了”。m a talk show host.“ He39。d say, “Well, I still don39。但是我的父親從那時起卻成了問題。11 點之前到家。s my middle name—“I don39。Seriously, my dad was like, “Well, that news is over at 10: home by 11.” But that didn39。你們知道,我不會比得上我的同班同學(xué)。因為這是真的,我知道根本不會拿到我 的學(xué)位,因為我沒有去斯坦福念書。m not going to march with my by that point, I was already on 39。cause I didn39。s asked me in the past couple of weeks what I was doing, I would say, “I39。我為Kirby感到自豪,因為她獲得了人類生物學(xué)和心理學(xué)的雙學(xué) 位。我還有照片為證。d rather be, because I39?!盞irby說:“有點吧。And so somebody es up to Kirby, and they say, “Ohmigod, is that Gayle King?” And Kirby39。因此她從來不希望每一個第一次見到她的人知道她認(rèn)識我。s a very smart wants people to get to know her on her own terms, she in terms of who she , she never wants anyone who39。s been 。感謝你們讓我 和你們分享這美好的一天。因此,不論你在哪個領(lǐng)域,就讓你的工作成為一種回饋吧。當(dāng)你受傷,就去撫慰受傷的人。”你得活在當(dāng)下,因為不論過去有多少歡樂,現(xiàn)在都用不上。大家知道我在非洲為一貧如洗的女孩們辦學(xué)校。當(dāng)你的身邊充滿了你信任、珍惜的人,而他們也同樣珍惜你,這才是真正的財富。另外,我必須重新定義“成功”。我做的每個對的決定,都來自內(nèi)心的感覺。做你覺得有意義的事,不論領(lǐng)多少錢,每天的工作都像是一種賞賜。8個月后,我被新聞臺開除了,但受制于我們簽的合約,他們把我轉(zhuǎn)去主持一個談話節(jié)目。但讓我更難捱的,是成天播報那些意外事件的悲慘新聞。我越想越不對,心想,不管好記不好記,那終究是我的名字。很高興美夢沒成真大學(xué)退學(xué)一年后,巴爾的摩(美國大西洋沿岸重要的海港城市)地方電視臺讓我播報晨間新聞,對當(dāng)時22歲的我來說,得意極了,心想終于可以照著自己的夢想,成為一個知名的美女主播。事實上,我連田納西州立大學(xué)都沒有畢業(yè)。s A Whole New Mind: Why RightBrainers Will Rule the Future has reassured me I39。cause I know great things are sure to know, I39。s 39。t have to know Einstein39。t know if you want , said, “Not everybody can be everybody can be great, because greatness is determined by service.” Those of you who are history scholars may know the rest of that said, “You don39。s just—try to pee doesn39。t spent all this time at Stanford just to go out and get a 39。t describe to you or measure when I stopped just being on TV and looking at TV as a job and decided to use television, to use it and not have it use me, to use it as a platform to serve my alone changed the trajectory of my , I know this—that whether you39。re in a mess, you get yourself out of the mess helping somebody out of in the process, you get to bee a member of what I call the greatest fellowship of all, the sorority of passion and the fraternity of Stanfords had suffered the worst thing any mom and dad can ever endure, yet they understood that helping others is the way we help this wisdom is increasingly supported by scientific and sociological 39。s children what they were not able to do for their own lesson here is clear, and that is, if you39。s woven into the very fabric of this 39。s saying, like Eckhart Tolle, that you have to live for the have to be in the has happened to you in your past has no power over this present moment, because life is I think she39。s a lesson that applies to all of our lives as a matters most is what39。s get to it。merge with that situation the solution will arise from the surrendering yourself doesn39。ll get a you resist , if you ask the right question—not why is this happening, but what is this here to teach me?—it puts you in the place and space to get the lesson you friend Eckhart Tolle, who39。t get the lesson, it shows up wearing another pair of pants—or skirt—to give you some remedial what I39。s journey is seamless or all all have things go wrong, you hit a dead end—as you will—it39。s when you39。m not going to stand u