【正文】 23 the same college as me. But we did not know each other till he became my colleague and his office desk was just in front of me. There was only a glass between us. So actually we could see each other when we both look up. But it is not the main reason that really draws us close. How we bee close to each other was something seems quite natural. We went out to play badminton with other colleagues and we sometimes chatted for a while. He is a man of few words but somehow sometimes will say something really humorous. Then one day, to my great surprise, I found a pot of beautiful flower on my desk. It was just the flower I had talked about with my colleague the other day, and I thought it was her who put the flower there. But the truth is not. It was the humble guy sitting in front of me. He just simply said ,”well, I caught sight of this flower and thought that it’s beautiful and you may like it”. I wonder why I was moved because of these simple words and present. Maybe it is the sincerity and the true self that impress me. I thanked him and some colleagues walked past my desk would appreciate the beautiful flower and they noticed that something romance happened there. Then later on, there were some little surprises once in a while. Once, there was something wrong with my drawer and I had plained about it unconsciously. And he fixed it for me. Then the other day, he placed several pink diamond roses beside the flower with a piece of paper saying” I love you more than I can say! Diamond stands for marriage, rose stand for love. I hope you are mine, bee my wife. You are the only girl who I really want to spend the rest of my life to stand by.” Although there were some grammar errors but I got what he meant. He meant so clear and so direct. And actually, I accepted him some days earlier. I was just waiting for him to break the ice. So finally, the mon interests and the mon understanding brought us together. Some people say the relationship and the feeling will change after getting hitched. You will find that love is no longer strong and there is always lack of passion and what’s worse you may find out many bad habits of your partner, which never appear when you are first in love before the marriage. It seems that many faults turn up after you truly living together and see each other’s face the moment you open your eyes in the early morning. But after almost 4 years from now, I do not feel any negative change in our relationship. During all these years, we know each other better and we bee more tolerant about each other and I realize that if you really love a person you will accept his imperfect. And what is the qualification of a good husband? Once I was chatting with my colleague about this issue. And one of the qualifications I thought was that he must be a good cook. But to my surprise, my colleague said that a good husband must be someone who makes big money. What made her think so was quite beyond me. Maybe I am not sophisticated enough and what I want is just simple life style. The most enjoyable thing is that we go to the market to buy vegetables and other daily stuffs if we both have time. Maybe he is a housebound husband and I love housebound man. And there is another reason why We love going to the market. That is because we sometimes will get some surprises. The surprise is saving little fish which are disserted by the fish mongers. Because these fish are swellfish. Then we will collect them and set them free into the river. Swellfish are lovely creature. When they look like a little submarine when they are swimming in the water and look like a meat ball when you hold them in your hand. And if they are scared, they will swell and look like a little ball. Every time we see them swim away and we feel their happiness of returning home and this also make us cherish life. Maybe some will consider these behavior as something childish. Well, that is fine with us. We love doing these together and feel happy that is what it is all about. My dear hubby is a kind hearted man and he love animals just as I do. I am lucky to have someone who can be both my intimated soul mate and my forever friend. 24 ① 《塵埃落定》的內容說明和洪水發(fā)于《讀書小報》 1998 年 6 月 3 日第四版的 文章《以詩為史》 ② 嚴家炎頒獎辭成都商報， 20221025 ③ 阿來，《塵埃落定》人民文學出版社 1999， 256 ④ 李康平，王開志：阿來其人及《 塵埃落定》樂山師范學院報， 2022，（ 1） 參考資料： ［ 1］ 阿來：《塵埃落定》人民文學出版社， 1998 年 3 月第一版 ［ 2］ 楊玉梅，來春剛：《論傻子形象的審美價值》中央民族大學學報 2022 年第 6 期第28 卷 ［ 3］ 朱晶，陳代兵：《穿透塵埃的真實》婁底師專學報 2022 年 7 月第 3 期 ［ 4］ 鄧金洲：《在歷史中拷問人性》湘潭師范學院學報（社會科學版） 2022 年 7 月第29 卷第 4 期 ［ 5］ 陳利，戴曉：《如“塵埃”般飛揚》科教文匯 2022， 2（上半月刊） ［ 6］ 高衛(wèi)紅：《塵埃迷不住的眼睛》內江師范學院學報 2022 第 16 卷第 5 期 ［ 7］ 孫立華：《試論小說塵埃落定的預言性》文藝評論 ［ 8］ 才旦：《塵埃落定：一幅濃郁的土 司生活畫卷》青海民族師專學報 2022 年第 1 期， ［ 9］ 鄭婷娟：《徘徊于神圣與世俗之間》作家雜志 2022 年第 8 期 謝 辭 走的最快的總是時間，來不及感嘆，大學生活已近尾聲。 四年多的努力與付出，隨著本次論文的完成，將要劃下完美的句號。 25 本論文的寫作在馬永利老師的悉心指導和嚴格要求下已完成。 從題目選擇到具體的寫作過程，論文初稿與定稿無不凝聚著馬老師的心血和汗 水。在我的畢業(yè)論文寫作期間，馬老師為我提供了種種專業(yè)知識上的指導和一些富于 創(chuàng)造性的建議，馬老師一絲不茍的作風，嚴 謹求實的態(tài)度使我深受感動。沒有這樣的幫助、關懷和熏陶，我不會這么順利的完成畢業(yè)論文。在此向馬永利 老師表示深深的感謝和崇高的敬意！ 在臨近畢業(yè)之際，我還要借此機會向在這四年中給予我諸多教誨和幫助的各位老師表示由衷的謝意，感謝他們四年來的辛勤栽培。不積跬步何以至千里，各位任課老師認真負責，在他們的悉心幫助和支持下，我能夠很好的掌握和運用專業(yè)知識，并在論文寫作中得以體現(xiàn)，順利完成畢業(yè)論文。 還要感謝自己身邊的朋友以及我的各位室友，在畢業(yè)論文寫作的這段時間里，你們給了我很多的啟發(fā)，提出了很多寶貴的意 見，對于你們幫助和支持，在此我表示深深地感謝！ 同時，在論文寫作過程中，我還參考了有關的書籍和論文，在這里一并向有關的作者表示謝意。