【正文】 ld her so, but Nancy changed the topic right away. When everyone else left， Nancy said to Zou Qing， “Please don?t mention my gray hair while there were men around.” Case 22 Unacceptable Curiosity Mr and Mrs Peterson came to China with a tour group. One evening, they decided to take a walk outside their hotel. They soon noticed that quite a few people stared at them. One man even quickly walked past them and then turned back to look at them several times. Both Mr and Mrs Peterson felt unfortable about the staring and went back to the hotel sooner than they had planned. Case 23 Confusion in Communicating Love Le, a Chinese woman, and Bill, an American man, were very much in love. Their relationship started with their shared interest in photography. As time went on, however, Le became dependent on Bill whenever she wanted to take a picture, because she felt that Bill was a much better photographer than she was. Whenever she noticed a scene that would make a good image, she would ask Bill to take the picture for her. Bill was not very pleased but did not say anything for a while. However, Le soon got to a point where she began to ask Bill to load and unload the film. Bill decided that it was too much for him to bear. He exploded, “What?s the matter with you? Don?t you know how to load and unload a film? Can?t you take a picture any more?” Le was so shocked that she burst into tears. “I ask you to do things only because you do it better than me. What?s wrong with that?” Case24 Unwanted Attention Teresa is a Chinese American teaching English temporarily at a Chinese university. She is very easy going, and soon the students got to know her well enough to invite her out regularly. Crossing the very busy and wide streets in the city was a scary experience for Teresa, and she plained of it repeatedly. As a result, the female students began to try to help her by taking her hand or grasping her arm while the male students seemed to be shy about protecting her. Teresa was unfortable with her female students touching her, and told the women they did not need to do it. Her female students thought she was being polite and continued to take care of her the same way. Teresa became so unfortable that she tried to move away from her female students whenever they had to cross the road. Case 25 Holding Hands Chris was a visiting professor in China. On one day, one of his students, Sun Hui, showed him around the city. Sun Hui soon noticed that Chris was interested in taking pictures of men that were walking arminarm or touching each other when they talked. “ I don?t see anything special about those men,” Sun Hui said curiously. “ Well, we don?t see much of that in men in the States,” Chris said, “ They?re gay, aren?t they?” Case 26 Friendship Misunderstood Yan Hong was a Chinese painter who immigrated to the United States. She met Jenny, an American physician in a club one day. They soon became friends, and sometimes went out for coffee and lunch together. One day, Jenny gave Yan Hong a very beautiful vase. Yan Hong loved the vase very much, and felt she should give Jenny something in return. So she gave Jenny a painting she brought from China. Jenny was very pleased. A few days later, Jenny invited Yan Hong to her home for the first time. They made dinner together and enjoyed the meal a lot. Then they sat down to watch TV. When Jenny tentatively held Yan Hong?s hand, Yan Hong was not aware of anything unusual. However, when Jenny sat closer to her and kissed her, Yan Hong was terrified. She pushed Jenny away and cried, “ I?m not a lesbian!” Jenny was in shock, and asked accusingly, “ Then why didn?t you tell me earlier?” Case 27 Learning about Flirting Chen Qing was a visiting scholar in an American university. He had made some friends with professors and students there. One day he went to a party where the atmosphere became less and less inhibited. Chen Qing noticed that men and women touched each other a lot more than he was used to. At the end of the party, most people hugged each other goodbye. One woman came to hug Chen Qing, but he stiffened as she attempted to give him a hug. He had never hugged any women except his wife in his life. Other women noticed this, and no one else tried to hug him. However, Chen Qing felt left out when people hugged each other but not him. He found himself in a very awkward situation: he didn?t want to be hugged, neither did he want to be left out. He did not know what he wanted or how to resolve his conflicting emotions. Case28 Lost in Love Li Ying fell in love with an American man in her second year in the United States. They spent a lot of time together. After they had been to all the places of interest in the city, they had to decide where to go or what to do for the next date. John typically would ask Li Ying, “ What do you want to do today?” , or “ Where shall we go?” Li Ying would sometimes tell what she wanted, but more often than not, she would say “It?s up to you”, or “ Whatever you want to do”, or “ Wherever you want to go.” John frowned at such responses several times until one day when Li Ying said “ up to you” again. “For God?s sake, tell me what you want to do!” He cried out loud. Li Ying was shocked at his reaction. “ Isn?t it clear to you? I?ll do what you want to do.” “ No, it isn?t clear at all. I want to know what you want to do!” John was almost angry. “ Don?t you realize that sometimes I want to do what you want to do, too?” Case 29 Lovers Bee Strangers Xiao Xin and Peter are newlyweds. Though they spent a lot of time with each other before getting married, they never