【正文】 attention on the present moment, we push fear from our minds. Fear is the concern over events that might happen in the futurewe won39。t think I can say it any better. Practice keeping your attention on the here and now. Your effort will pay great dividends. 若要克服恐懼心理，最佳策略是學會將你的注意力拉回此時此刻．馬克．吐溫說過：＂我經(jīng)歷過生活 中一些可怕的事情，有些的確發(fā)生過．＂我想我說不出比這更具內(nèi)涵的話．經(jīng)常將注意力集中于此情此景，此時此刻，你的努力終會有豐厚的報償． 3\How High Can You Jump? Flea trainers have observed a strange habit of fleas while training them. Fleas are trained by putting them in a cardboard box with a top on it. The fleas will jump up and hit the top of the cardboard box over and over and over again. As you watch them jump and hit the lid, something very interesting bees obvious. The fleas continue to jump, but they are no longer jumping high enough to hit the top. When you take off the lid, the fleas continue to jump, but they will not jump out of the box. They won39。t jump out. Why? The reason is simple. They have conditioned themselves to jump just so high. Once they have conditioned themselves to jump just so high, that39。若把跳 蚤放在一個有頂蓋的盒子里，他們會不斷地跳起來，撞擊頂蓋。他們?nèi)詴饋?，但不會再撞到頂蓋。為什么呢？原因很簡單。 一旦它們習慣只跳這么高之后，它們就只能跳這么高了。他們自己限制了自己，從來不去發(fā)掘自己的潛力。 4\熱愛生活 （ Love Your Life ） Henry David Thoreau/享利 .大衛(wèi) .梭羅 However mean your life is,meet it and live it 。s abode。s poor seem to me often to live the most independent lives of be they are simply great enough to receive without think that they are above being supported by the town。we your clothes and keep your thoughts. 不論你的生活如何卑賤，你要面對它生活，不要躲避它，更別用惡言咒罵它。你最富有的時候，倒是看似最窮。你要愛你的生活，盡管它貧窮。夕陽反射在濟貧院的窗上，像身在富戶人家窗上一樣光亮；在那門前，積雪同在早春融化。城鎮(zhèn)中的窮人，我看，倒往往是過著最獨立不羈的生活。大多數(shù)人以為他們是超然的，不靠城鎮(zhèn)來 支援他們；可是事實上他們是往往利用了不正當?shù)氖侄蝸韺Ω渡睿麄兪呛敛怀摰?，毋寧是不體面的。找舊的，回到那里去。你的衣服可以賣掉，但要保留你的思想。the deepest longings, not only of the child, but of every human being。s merit, because one deserves it, always leaves doubt: maybe I did not please the person whom I want to love me, maybe this or thatthere is always a fear that love could disappear. Furthermore, deserved love easily leaves a bitter feeling that one is not loved for oneself, that one is loved only because one pleases, that one is, in the last analysis, not loved at all but used. No wonder that we all cling to the longing for motherly love, as children and also as adults. The relationship to father is quite different. Mother is the home we e from, she is nature, soil, the ocean。 the world of thought, of manmade things, of law and order, of discipline, of travel and adventure. Father is the one who teaches the child, who shows him the road into the world. Fatherly love is conditional love. Its principle is 1 love you because you fulfill my expectations, because you do your duty, because you are like me. In conditional fatherly love we find, as with unconditional motherly love, a negative and a positive aspect. The negative aspect is the very fact that fatherly love has to be deserved, that it can be lost if one does not do what is expected. The positive side is equally important. Since his love is conditional, I can do something to acquire it, I can work for it。母親愛她的新生嬰兒，因為那是她的孩子，而不是因為這個小孩符合了什么特別的條件，也不是因為孩子達到了她的某種特別的期望。另一方面，如果因為自己的優(yōu)點，因為自己值得愛而被別人愛，我們總會心存疑慮：可能我沒有使那個我希望他 (她 )愛我的人滿意吧 ?可能這個，可能那個 ——總是害怕那份愛會消失。無怪乎我們?nèi)家缿?、渴望著母愛，不論小孩還是成年人都如此。母親是我們的發(fā)源地，她是自然、是土壤、是海洋；父親不代表任何這些自然的歸宿。在此期間，對于孩子來說，父親的重要性遠遠比不上母親。教育孩子的人是父親，向孩子展示通向世界之路的人也是父親。它的原則是： ―因為你達到 了我的期望，因為你完成了你的職責，因為你像我，所以我愛你。消極的一面是父愛的給予只在你值得得到愛的條件下，而且如果你沒有做到他所期望的事，你可能會失去這份愛。既然他的愛是有條件的，我可以采取一些辦法去獲取它，我可以為之而努力；他的愛像母愛一樣，并沒有越出我的控制力 LOVE I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you. 我愛你，不是因為你是一個怎樣的人，而是因為我喜歡與你在一起時的感覺。 3) The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can‘t have them. 失去某人，最糟糕的莫過于，他近在身旁，卻猶如遠在天邊。 5) To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world. 對于世界而言，你是一個人；但是對于某個人，你是他的整個世界。 7) Just because someone doesn‘t love you the way you want them to, doesn‘t mean they don‘t love you with all they have. 愛你的人如果沒有按你所希望的方式來愛你，那并不代表他們沒有全心全意地愛你。 9) Maybe