【正文】 oral science at the University of Chicago Booth School of if you reach out, he continued, “almost everybody reaches back.”“人們很容易去想像各種尷尬場(chǎng)面，或者認(rèn)為對(duì)方不想交談，”芝加哥大學(xué)布思商學(xué)院的行為科學(xué)教授尼古拉斯第一篇：美聯(lián)英語：?jiǎn)紊砺眯薪挥选賽壑改?美聯(lián)英語提供：美聯(lián)英語：?jiǎn)紊砺眯薪挥?、戀愛指南！小編給你一個(gè)美聯(lián)英語官方試聽課申請(qǐng)鏈接：’s Guide to Meeting People 如何在獨(dú)身旅行時(shí)交朋友、談戀愛When you are traveling solo, it’s not always a breeze to strike up a conversation with a ，與陌生人攀談并不總是那么容易。In fact, how do you meet other single travelers or locals in the first place? And if you’re looking for friendship — or even something more — how do you ensure that amid all the fun you don’t neglect to take safety precautions?實(shí)際上，第一個(gè)問題是：你如何遇到其他單身旅行者或當(dāng)?shù)厝?如果你想交個(gè)朋友——甚至談場(chǎng)戀愛——你怎么確保在享樂的同時(shí)沒有忽視安全防范? Before we get to tactics, it’s helpful to know that you are likely to be rewarded for overing apprehensions about approaching someone new when you’re on the ，知道下面這一點(diǎn)可能會(huì)對(duì)你有所幫助：在旅途中克服接近陌生人的恐懼很可能會(huì)給你帶來回報(bào)。埃普利(Nicholas Epley)說。Social scientists have found that making such connections, whether traveling or not, boosts happiness, and yet strangers in proximity “routinely ignore each other,” as and his colleague Juliana Schroeder put it in the Journal of Experimental Psychology last a series of nine experiments, they saw again and again that we underestimate other people’s interest in ，不管在旅行中還是平時(shí)，進(jìn)行這樣的交往能增加幸福感，不過就像埃普利博士和同事朱莉安娜在一系列九個(gè)實(shí)驗(yàn)中，他們一再發(fā)現(xiàn)，我們低估了其他人的交往興趣。你能告訴我城里有哪些地方一定得去看看嗎?” “Everybody loves to brag about their city,” he said.“誰都喜歡吹捧自己所在的城市，”他說?！拔矣X得，只要你真誠(chéng)待人，就一定會(huì)在人際交往中如魚得水。不過我們一會(huì)兒再討論那些問題。但是如果這些都沒給你帶來機(jī)會(huì)，那么科技似乎能給你提供無數(shù)交往機(jī)會(huì)。但是旅游業(yè)也有自己的工具，不是專為戀愛設(shè)計(jì)的，而是為友誼設(shè)計(jì)的。應(yīng)用程序Skout能讓旅行者與當(dāng)?shù)厝嘶蚱渌慰拖嗑邸还苁窃趥惗氐囊粓?chǎng)音樂會(huì)上，還是巴塞羅那的一場(chǎng)足球賽上。但是如果你想尋找志同道合的旅伴，有幾個(gè)老網(wǎng)站值得你再去看看。你可能以為它只是給窮游者用的，他們通過在陌生人家的沙發(fā)或充氣床墊上過夜來游覽世界，但實(shí)際上它也是結(jié)識(shí)其他單身旅行者和當(dāng)?shù)厝说暮棉k法——即便你不在他們的沙發(fā)上睡覺。In addition to joining events, you can also reach out to other members who have set their “hosting availability” status to “wants to meet up,” meaning that while their couch is unavailable, they’re happy to meet for coffee or be a resource while you’re visiting their ，你還可以聯(lián)系那些把“招待”狀態(tài)設(shè)定為“想會(huì)面”的會(huì)員，意思是雖然他們不提供沙發(fā)，但他們很樂意跟你一起喝個(gè)咖啡，或者在你去他們所在的城市旅行時(shí)為你指點(diǎn)一二。那意味著你將找到一個(gè)真正的在線社區(qū)，遇到一大群可以交流的人。每個(gè)會(huì)員的旅行貼士都是和他/她的檔案連在一起的。誰知道呢，你們也許甚至?xí)诰€下見面。While meeting someone new is exciting and can be deeply fulfilling, such overtures must be balanced with safety Couchsurfing, which refers to strangers as “friends you haven’t met yet,” has a page devoted to safety, warning members to trust their instincts(“If a person, situation or profile seems unsafe for any reason, move ’t worry about seeming rude”)and know their limits(“Partying like a rock star might be fun, but it puts your safety and wellbeing in the hands of others”).For women, especially, the site advises being educated about your destination’s cultural and religious norms and to “be clearabout your boundaries and don’t be shy about stating them.”雖然結(jié)識(shí)新朋友令人興奮，讓人很有成就感，但同時(shí)也要注意安全。不要擔(dān)心自己顯得很粗魯”)，知道自己的底線(“在派對(duì)上像搖滾明星那樣玩可能很有趣，但也會(huì)把你的安全和健康置于他人手中”)。At the same time, said most people are not interested in taking advantage of you.“The person who wants to take advantage of you wants to find you immediately,” he ’s different when you’re the one who decides to initiate a conversation.“When there’s random selection, you don’t have that risk of being targeted,” he ，埃普利博士說，大部分人沒興趣占你的便宜。而當(dāng)你是主動(dòng)攀談的那個(gè)人時(shí)，情況就不同了。Solo travelers are often told to keep friends and loved ones informed about where they’re going and when(including the time they expect to return), know which neighborhoods to avoid, and learn local emergency , consider registering with the nearest United States Embassy or consulate at (natural disaster, civil unrest)and family and friends to contact you if there’s an ，要讓朋友和愛人知道自己的目的地和到達(dá)時(shí)間(包括期望返回的時(shí)間)，要知道提防哪些鄰居，要知道當(dāng)?shù)氐膽?yīng)急號(hào)碼。這樣，大使館可以在緊急情況(自然災(zāi)害、社會(huì)**)下通知你，你的家人和朋友也可以通過大使館聯(lián)系你。如果你去的地方?jīng)]有公共交通工具，或者公共交通在晚上不安全，隨身帶上一家出租車公司的電話號(hào)碼。Uber應(yīng)用程序也有“分享我的預(yù)計(jì)到達(dá)時(shí)間”這個(gè)選項(xiàng)，你可以把你的行蹤和預(yù)計(jì)到達(dá)時(shí)間發(fā)給某個(gè)朋友(我甚至在上車前就把司機(jī)姓名、車的品牌和目的地發(fā)給一個(gè)朋友或家人)。s a pleasure to meet was your flight? B:是的，很高興遇見你，旅程如何？A: Everything was fine and the plane arrived on :一路上都很順利，飛機(jī)也是準(zhǔn)點(diǎn)到達(dá)。ve got a car waiting outside to take us to your :我們可以走了嗎?外面已經(jīng)有輛車等著接我們回旅館了。d be for taking the time to meet me :太好了。B: No pany wants to make sure you have a pleasant :別擔(dān)心，我們公司希望確保您旅途愉快!A: I really appreciate :我真的表示感激。A: Does the conference begin tomorrow?A:會(huì)議明天