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So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, “You have 10 extra years to start your life”? Nothing have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing 作為一種文化,我們的忽視的正是對成年起到?jīng)Q定性作用的十年(從20歲到30歲)。記者就引用傻傻的外號稱呼20多歲的人,比如“twixters”(twentymixters)和“kidults”(kidadults)。Researchers call the 20s an extended coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like “twixters” and “kidults.” It39。t what twentysomethings are talk about the changing timetable of ,而我們的20多歲正是成年發(fā)展期的關(guān)鍵。But what we hear less about is that there39。當(dāng)我們想到孩童的成長時,我們都知道15歲是大腦學(xué)習(xí)語言和感知的重要時期。So your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the 39。我們知道在20多歲的時候,性格的改變多于生命中任何時期。We know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age ,以適應(yīng)成年世界的快速發(fā)育階段。我們知道職業(yè)生涯的前10年對你將來的收入有重大影響。t crowd is going to be fine, I know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money you39。這就意味著你生活的重要決定、經(jīng)歷和突然的領(lǐng)悟,有八成是在你30多歲之前發(fā)生的。這些是事實。This is not my are the know that 80 percent of life39。So I specialize in twentysomethings because I believe that every single one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists already know: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for the ,因為我堅信這五千萬的20多歲的人,每一個人都應(yīng)該去了解那些心理學(xué)家、社會學(xué)家、神經(jīng)學(xué)家和生育專家已經(jīng)知道的事實:你的20多歲是極簡單卻極具變化的時期之一。如果你和20多歲的人一起工作,你喜歡20多歲的人,你因為20多歲的人輾轉(zhuǎn)難眠,我想看到你們。我很想看到有20多歲的人在這里。s you work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, you39。re in your really want to see some twentysomethings , yay!Y39。s getting through adulthood without going through their 20s ,20多歲的人有五千萬,也就是15%的人口,或者可以說所有人口,因為所有成年人都要經(jīng)歷他們的20多歲。There are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States right 39。s 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings ,應(yīng)該使Alex的20多歲成為發(fā)展的黃金時段,而我們卻坐在那里忽視這個發(fā)展的時機(jī)。的確,和以前的人相比,現(xiàn)在人們更晚才安定下來,但是這不代表Alex就能長期處于20多歲的狀態(tài)。s 20s a developmental “頓悟時刻”。s what psychologists call an “Aha!” was the moment I realized, 30 is not the new , people settle down later than they used to, but that didn39。但修復(fù)Alex婚姻的最好時期是她還沒擁有婚姻的時期。我反駁說:“當(dāng)然她現(xiàn)在正在和別人交往,她現(xiàn)在和一個傻瓜男生睡覺,但看樣子她不會和他結(jié)婚的。s going to marry the guy.” And then my supervisor said, “Not yet, but she might marry the next , the best time to work on Alex39。s sleeping with a knucklehead, but it39。But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her love pushed said, “Sure, she39。工作還早,結(jié)婚還早,生孩子還早,甚至死亡也早著呢。s the new 20,” Alex would say, and as far as I could tell, she was happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened like Alex and I had nothing but :“30歲是一個新的20歲”。Alex不斷地講有趣的事情,而我只能簡單地點(diǎn)頭認(rèn)同她所說的,很自然地就陷入了附和的狀態(tài)。But I didn39。因為我同學(xué)的第一個顧客是縱火犯,而我的顧客卻是一個20出頭想談?wù)勀猩呐?。Now Alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy when I heard this, I was so classmate got an arsonist for her first client.(Laughter)And I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about I thought I could ,她一下子栽進(jìn)我辦公室的沙發(fā)上,踢掉腳上的平底鞋,跟我說她想談?wù)勀猩膯栴}。當(dāng)時我是Berkeley臨床心理學(xué)在讀博士生。不要等到失去時才知道珍惜,不要在擁有它的時候彷徨。此時的你,是最有青春活力的時候了。三十年的寶貴青春,就這樣白白浪費(fèi)掉了,換了誰,會不痛心呢?《滿江紅》不是閑適之作,而是對青春白白流失的血與淚的控訴!說青春寶貴,不單單是易逝去的緣故。我曾經(jīng)讀過《滿江紅》卻不懂其中的奧義?!澳乳e,白了少年頭,空悲切。美麗小鳥一去無影蹤,我的青春小鳥一樣不回來?!肚啻何枨肥谴蠹叶炷茉?shù)母枇恕G啻阂资?,何不珍惜幾乎每個人都曾度過青春。年輕的朋友們!今天雖平凡,可它卻是一塊塊金磚,墊高了你的明天;今天雖普通,可它卻是一條條小溪,可聚滿了你的明天;在我們每一個人的生命長河里,都泛著分分秒秒光陰的波浪,他們稍縱即逝,卻又“法力無邊”,她能把你推向成功的彼岸,也會引你觸礁而覆沒在險灘。他們有著一種使命感,鞭策著他們得珍惜每一個“今天”。因此,只有那些懂得如何利用“今天”和那些對 “今天”付出的努力的人,才會在 “今天”創(chuàng)造出成功事業(yè)的奠基石,孕育明天的成就。時間中唯有“今天”是最寶貴的,抓住了“今天”,亦即抓住了時間,成功就會向你招手。從這則故事,大家不難明白,“今天”,對于我們每一個人,特別對我們年輕這一代是多么的重要。當(dāng)?shù)诙焯柹饋頃r候,他又忘記了昨天歷史對他得教訓(xùn),而繼續(xù)虛度“今天”。在我們小學(xué)的課本上,有一則大家非常熟悉的故事“寒號鳥”,美麗的寒號鳥就是不將每一天的時間當(dāng)回事,不聽其他鳥兒的勸告,整天游蕩買弄自己地羽毛和嗓子。人,只有抓住現(xiàn)在,才能有輝煌和燦爛的未來。抓住了“今天”就能望到美好的明天,浪費(fèi)了“今天”,就無法征服誘人的明天。大家都知道,“昨天是歷史,今天是創(chuàng)造,明天是謎,是希望”。所以我們應(yīng)該珍惜青春,乘著自己還年輕,盡自己所能,在青春的舞臺上展現(xiàn)自己亮麗而獨(dú)特的風(fēng)采,讓青春飛揚(yáng)!就像無數(shù)的星星在我們的星空中發(fā)出自己耀眼的光芒。用我們的青春年華握緊時間的手,讓我們一起此生不再虛度!保爾柯察金說過:“人最寶貴的是生命,生命每人只有一次,人的一生應(yīng)當(dāng)這樣度過:當(dāng)他回憶往事的時候,他不會因為虛度年華而悔恨。不要在日落時悔恨,做到始終問心無愧,不讓人生最美好的時光隨風(fēng)飄走。你的父母這樣含辛茹苦地養(yǎng)育你,你有什么理由不珍惜時間,你有什么理由不好好利用青春年華來發(fā)奮圖強(qiáng)呢?春去春會來,花謝花會開。當(dāng)然,我們也會因一道