【正文】 ding of how precious every single day would be. How precious every day actually is.A few years ago, my mom had to have her hip replaced. When she was younger, she always walked without pain. But as her hip disintegrated, each step became painful. Now, even years after her operation, she is grateful for every step she takes without pain—something that never would have occurred to her before.As I stand here today, a year after the worst day of my life, two things are true. I have a huge reservoir of sadness that is with me always—right here where I can touch it. I never knew I could cry so often—or so much.But I am also aware that I am walking without pain. For the first time, I am grateful for each breath in and out—grateful for the gift of life itself. I used to celebrate my every five years and friends’ birthdays sometimes. Now I celebrate always. I used to go to sleep worrying about all the things I messed up that day—and trust me that list was often quite long. Now I try really hard to focus on each day’s moments of joy.It is the greatest irony of my life that losing my husban d helped me find deeper gratitude—gratitude for the kindness of my friends, the love of my family, the laughter of my children. My hope for you is that you can find that gratitude—not just on the good days, like today, but on the hard ones, when you will really need it.There are so many moments of joy ahead of you. That trip you always wanted to take. A first kiss with someone youreally like. The day you get a job doing something you truly believe in. Beating Stanford. (Go Bears!) All of these things will happen to you. Enjoy each and every one.I hope that you live your life—each precious day of it—with joy and meaning. I hope that you walk without pain—and that you are grateful for each step.And when the challenges e, I hope you remember that anchored deep within you is the ability to learn and grow. You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. Like a muscle, you can build it up, draw on it when you need it. In that process you will figure out who you really are—and you just might bee the very best version of yourself.Class of 2016, as you leave Berkeley, build resilience.Build resilience in yourselves. When tragedy or disappointment strike, know that you have the ability to get through absolutely anything. I promise you do. As the saying goes, we are more vulnerable than we ever thought, but we are stronger than we ever imagined.Build resilient organizations. If anyone can do it, you can, because Berkeley is filled with people who want to make the world a better place. Never stop working to do so—whether it’s a boardroom that is not representative or a campus that’s not safe. Speak up, especially at institutions like this one, which you hold so dear. My favorite poster at work reads, “Nothing at Facebook is someone else’s problem.” When you see something that’s broken, go fix it.Build resilient munities. We find our humanity—our will to live and our ability to love—in our connections to one another. Be there for your family and friends. And I mean in person. Not just in a message with a heart emoji.Lift each other up, help each other kick the shit out of option B—and celebrate each and every moment of joy.You have the whole world in front of you. I can’t wait to see what you do with it.Congratulations, and Go Bears!桑德伯格在加州大學(xué)伯克利分校2016畢業(yè)典禮上的演講謝謝瑪麗。桑德伯格在加州大學(xué)伯克利分校2016畢業(yè)典禮上的演講 5月14日，F(xiàn)acebook 首席運(yùn)營(yíng)官、《向前一步》作者雪莉?桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg）在加州大學(xué)伯克利分校（UC Berkeley）2016畢業(yè)典禮上發(fā)表演講。上世紀(jì)60年代，你們的前輩們倡導(dǎo)了言論自由運(yùn)動(dòng)。1937年，她從伯克利畢業(yè)了，就坐在你們現(xiàn)在的位置。今天應(yīng)該沉思。但我今天不想傳授生活方面的經(jīng)驗(yàn)，而是想講講從親人離世后的領(lǐng)悟。他去世后好幾個(gè)月里，我經(jīng)常悲傷得無(wú)法自已，內(nèi)心只覺(jué)得一片無(wú)盡的空虛四處蔓延，占據(jù)了五臟六腑，我無(wú)力思考，甚至感覺(jué)像要窒息。你申請(qǐng)到Facebook實(shí)習(xí)，結(jié)果只能去谷歌。問(wèn)題不是這些事情會(huì)不會(huì)發(fā)生，它們遲早都會(huì)來(lái)的。”我們總會(huì)碰到不盡如人意只能用B計(jì)劃的時(shí)候，問(wèn)題是：該怎么面對(duì)？可能有點(diǎn)硅谷的職業(yè)病吧，我想說(shuō)走出挫折也要科學(xué)對(duì)待。明白這三條原則之后，我才慢慢接受不管怎樣都救不了他這個(gè)事實(shí)。我跟兒童心理學(xué)家聊了之后，他讓我盡快恢復(fù)孩子們的日常習(xí)慣。跟他們比我不用擔(dān)心經(jīng)濟(jì)來(lái)源，能抽出時(shí)間照顧孩子，而且我有一份很好的工作。這是個(gè)好建議，不過(guò)我寫(xiě)書(shū)時(shí)說(shuō)的“向前一步”其實(shí)不完全是這個(gè)意思。如果我當(dāng)時(shí)就能明白不要過(guò)分解讀，沒(méi)必要一時(shí)難過(guò)就否定一切，當(dāng)時(shí)就不會(huì)那么焦慮。這三條原則針對(duì)的是我們遇到許多事情后常見(jiàn)的反應(yīng)，不管是事業(yè)上，個(gè)人生活里，還是人際關(guān)系中。”我說(shuō)。做起來(lái)其實(shí)不難，但已經(jīng)改變了我的生活。你們畢業(yè)了，以后能像生命只剩下11天一樣去生活嗎？我的意思不是讓你們拋下一切，每天都去聚會(huì)狂歡，當(dāng)然今晚例外。還有就是以前我從來(lái)沒(méi)想過(guò)我能天天哭，淚水能那么多。我希望你們也能學(xué)會(huì)感激，不僅是在好日子里感激，比方說(shuō)今天，在艱難的日子里更要感激，到那時(shí)感激之情對(duì)你們的幫助更大。成長(zhǎng)過(guò)程中你會(huì)慢慢了解自我，而且可能已經(jīng)變成最好的自己。董事會(huì)或許不太完善，校園也可能不太安全，但永遠(yuǎn)不要放棄努力。我真的很期待你們的成就！恭喜畢業(yè)，加油金熊隊(duì)！