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　　And I said, amp。 And he said, amp。 I said, amp。 amp。d rather me die on top of my white horse than watch me fall down. When we reach out and be vulnerable, we get the shit beat out of us. And donamp。s from the guys and the coaches and the dads. Because the women in my life are harder on me than anyone else.amp。ll show you a woman whoamp。s just had it, she canamp。I unloaded the dishwasher!amp。s all we need Iamp。s done a lot of work.
　　Shame is an epidemic in our culture. And to get out from underneath it to find our way back to each other, we have to understand how it affects us and how it affects the way weamp。re working, the way weamp。re going to find our way back to each other, we have to understand and know empathy, because empathyamp。t survive. The two most powerful words when weamp。ll leave you with this thought. If weamp。s seductive to stand outside the arena, because I think I did it my whole life, and think to myself, Iamp。m bulletproof and when Iamp。s not what we want to see. We want you to go in. We want to be with you and across from you. And we just want, for ourselves and the people we care about and the people we work with, to dare greatly.
　　So thank you all very much. I really appreciate
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。m perfect. And that is seductive. But the truth is, that never happens. And even if you got as perfect as you could and as bulletproof as you could possibly muster when you got in there, thatamp。m going to go in there and kick some ass when Iamp。re going to find our way back to each other, vulnerability is going to be that path. And I know itamp。re in struggle: me too.
　　And so Iamp。s the antidote to you put shame in a Petri dish, it needs three things to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence and judgment. If you put the same amount in a Petri dish and douse it with empathy, it canamp。re looking at each other. Very quickly, some research by Mahalik at Boston College. He asked, what do women need to do to conform to female norms? The top answers in this country: nice, thin, modest and use all available resources for appearance.
　　When he asked about men, what do men in this country need to do to conform with male norms, the answers were: always show emotional control, work is first, pursue status and violence.
　　If weamp。re parenting, the way weamp。ll show you a guy whoamp。
　　But he really listens because thatamp。t do it all anymore, and his first response is not, amp。s done incredible work. You show me a man who can sit with a woman whoamp。
　　So I started interviewing