【正文】 more or less confined to the beauty in appearance,or rather,the outward my opinion,we shouldn39。t only pay attention to beautiful appearance and neglect the beautification of the mind and what we are after should be the perfect unity of the outward beauty and the inner we all know,so far as objects and animals are concerned,there is only beautiful appearance to be mentioned, but to us humanbeings, although the outward beauty really matters, the inner beauty is much more was confirmed by a famous Russian writer in words much like this: “A person isnot lovely for being beautiful but beautiful for being lovely.”Here, I39。d like to quote two typical instances and I39。m sure, my dear friends,from them you39。ll find out what real beauty I learned from the radio an unpleasant incident about a well known is very charming with a sweet beautiful voice and very famous for singing the song.“Devotion of Love”.Not long ago,she was invited to Zhejiang province to give moment she was to appear on the stage,she suddenly asked for more still,after her request was satisfied, she didn39。t begin to sing at ,she took her time to count all the money piece by she kept the audience waiting for half an when she at last showed up and started to sing “Devotion of Love”,a man rose up from his seat and shouted at her,“You don39。t have any devotion of are not qualified to sing this song!”Hearing this, the singer stopped singing and began to shout abuses with her finger pointed at the this time the whole audience burst into an disappointed her keen listeners were when they learned this!It is the singer herself who spoiled her beautiful image in the eyes of , I39。m ing to another true 39。s about a poor, ordinary looking old was a widow without any children, living barely from hand to mouth by picking odds and ends from rubbish ,she took in more than ten homeless orphans successively and managed to bring them day she labored from morning till order to earn as much money as possible to raise the children and to keep them in school,she even went to a hospital regularly to sell her got so weak for the loss of blood that she sometimes fell in a faint on her way asked why she chose to burden herself with so many children,she smiled and simply answered,“Oh,I love children and I like to have their pany.”Though the old woman was poor materially, she was full of affection and rich in was loved dearly by her was also highly appreciated by the local government, and truly respected by people in her you can39。t help wondering, “What makes that ordinary woman so extraordinary?” It is nothing else but her inner beauty, her true devotion of love without any thought of a sharp contrast there is between the great woman and the selfish singer]So,to answer the question “What is real beauty?”, I declare definitely,it is the beauty lying in one39。s heart of hearts and embodied in his actions and deeds,that is,the inner heauty!Learn How to Say NoWe39。ve all been taught that we should help is the right thing to do and will make us popular with may even win us favors in , we must be can39。t say yes to every we did, we would fail or go crazy for we simply don39。t have the time to this case, we must know how to say no we need to say no, here is one method we can , we should tell the we really can39。t do something, we should just say , we should remember to refuse requests must municate clearly, but must also be sincere and true friend will , we must not feel guilty about saying refusing others is the right thing to can save ourselves, and them, a lot of short, we cannot please everyone all the favors is a part of 我們都被教導(dǎo)說，我們應(yīng)該要幫助別人。這是應(yīng)該做的事，而且這樣做會使我們受人歡迎。它甚至?xí)槲覀冓A得一些回報。但是，我們必須要實(shí)際一點(diǎn)。我們不能答應(yīng)每一個要求。如果我們這么做，我們就一定會失敗或發(fā)瘋。有時候我們確實(shí)沒有時間去幫忙。既然如此，我們就必須知道如何有禮貌地說不。當(dāng)我們需要說不的時候，有個辦法我們可以試試。首先，我們應(yīng)該要說實(shí)話。假如我們真的辦不到某件事，我們就應(yīng)該說不。第二，我們應(yīng)該記得要客氣地拒絕對方的要求。我們必須清楚地表達(dá)，但態(tài)度也必須真誠并且表示同情。一個真正的朋友會諒解的。最后，我們不必為了說不而覺得有罪惡感。有時候拒絕別人才是我們應(yīng)該做的事。它可以替我們自己和別人，都省下許多麻煩。總而言之，我們無法一直取悅每個人。拒絕請求是人生的一部分。I Regain ConfidenceBy Li Jun(李軍青島海洋大學(xué))(2001年11月下旬，在上海舉行的第七屆“21世紀(jì)愛立信杯”英語演講比賽華東地區(qū)比賽中獲得第一名)專家點(diǎn)評:本演講語言較流暢，從具體事件人手，將主題升華，催人奮進(jìn)。I received a devastating blow to my selfconfidence in the first interview of my college applied to be a host in our Student Acting Troupe and felt confident that I would be one of the panel members told me: “You seem inadequate and you are a little verticallychallenged.” My life has never been the same used bigger heels to plement my height and psychological maneuvers and tricks to hide my lack of no matter how hard I tried to look the part, there was still something president of English Club, I organized the rehearsal of Snow White for an English , we could not find an actor to be the last had to be someone who was humorous by nature and fluent in , all eyes turned to me, and I knew I would have to be the my great surprise and delight, once on stage, I was totally absorbed in the performance and my humorous nature was put to full the dwarf, I was a big , each of us is only one among millions of others, but each of us is an individual and each of us is our individuality will transform our lives, making of them a kaleidoscope of new colors and world deprived of diversity would be a bland and boring real tragedy is not being short or shy or ugly, but having your identity lost in a world in which everyone is a clone of a model cool boy or a flawless charming a choice, I would rather be ugly than live in such a 39。d rather be a genuine dwarf acpanying a Snow White than be a Snow White among nothing but Snow would rather be would contribute my individual and unique colors to create a more diverse , be :我重樹信心大學(xué)生活的幾年里，當(dāng)我參加第一次面試時，我的自信心受到了沉重的打擊。我向“學(xué)生劇團(tuán)”申請出演一個主角，而且我十分自信地認(rèn)為我會被錄用。但是,其中有個劇團(tuán)成員告訴我:“你似乎不太合適出演這個角色，因?yàn)槟愕纳砀哂悬c(diǎn)問題?！蔽覐奈从龅竭^這種情況。我穿著高跟鞋來彌補(bǔ)我的身高，采用心理策略和技巧來掩蓋自己信心的缺乏。但是，不論我怎樣努力進(jìn)入角色，感覺還是缺少些什么。作為英語俱樂部的主席，我為英語晚會組織排演了《白雪公主》短劇。不幸的是，我們找不到合適的人選出演最后一個小矮人。這個角色必須生性幽默，英語流利。突然，所有人的目光都轉(zhuǎn)向了我，我知道那個小矮人就是我了。讓我極度奇怪而又高興的是，一上臺，我完全投入到演出中，而且我那幽默的天性被發(fā)揮得淋漓盡致。作為一個‘’小矮人”，我取得了巨大的成功。的確，我們中的任何一個人都是千百萬中的一員，但我們中的每個人都是一個與眾不同的個體。發(fā)揮我們自己的個性會改變我們的生活，使它們成為美麗的萬花筒。失去了多樣性的世界是個冷漠、乏味的地方。真正的悲劇不是個矮、害羞或丑陋，而是將自己的個性迷失在一個克隆的世界里，那里到處都是典型的酷男孩或無