【正文】
cans table, for Chinese politeness calls for three refusals before one accepts an offer and the Americans hosts take ”no ” to mean “no ”, whether it is the first, second or third time. Still bigger differences exist in people’s attitude towards pliments, ., in the response to pliments. Chinese are tend to efface themselves in words or refuse it, although they do feel fortable about the pliments . So many westerners simply feel puzzled or even upset when their Chinese friends refused their pliments. The Chinese people are not intending to be modest with the sacrifice of friendship in so doing, but it is rather due to the traditional Chinese philosophy, that of modesty. The Chinese people regard modesty as a most valuable virtue, so they seldom agree to the pliment on their own.