【正文】 線 就是 path this is the cognitive and emotional schema that the perfectionist 這條路線 這就是完美主義者在面對 has when he or she looks at the journey. How they want to get 旅途的時候抱有的認知與感情的基膜 from where they are now to where they want to get to. A person 怎么從起點到終點 mitted to , to excellence as ambitious as the person, 一個追求卓越的人 和完美主義者一樣雄心勃勃 perfectionist, wants to get from point A to point B. no different 也想從 A 點到 B點去 沒什么不一樣 here. What is different. The cognitive schema that relates to the 不同之處在哪里？ 對于這段路途認知基膜上的不同 journey. The person mitted to excellence understands that 追求卓越的人明白 當他進步的時候 不可避免 while he improves, inevitably at some point , he would fail. A 地會遭遇失敗 perfectionist understands that sometimes she may not get the 一個完美主義者明白 有時候她不一定能拿到她想要的 grade that she expected, but she would learn from it. A 分數(shù) 但她會吸取教訓 perfectionist understands that in relationships there is no shuch 一個也明白在戀愛關(guān)系中 根本就沒有完美的戀愛關(guān)系 thing as a perfect relationship and then therefore, he sometimes 所以 他也會犯錯 makes a mistake, so she sometimes makes a mistakes, but they 她也會犯錯 continue and they learn from it. And the relationship bees, 但他們會不斷吸取教訓 然后她們的感情不斷地 gets stronger, and a perfectionist understands that he needs to 變得更加堅固 完美主義者明白 他需要不斷的失敗 fail time and again 5 times, 10 times , sometimes 10 thousand 五次 十次 有時候一萬次 就如同我們了解 times as we saw with Edison until the get to point B. As 的愛迪生的故事那樣 ambitious, but the schema is very different. I have to draw many 一樣的野心勃勃 但是基膜有所不同 我必須畫出許多 failed circles before you get to that ideal circle that Vincent draw 不好的圓圈 在你們畫出 Vincent 上次畫出的那個園以前 last time. And the question now bees “so which is realistic?” 現(xiàn)在的問題是 哪個才更現(xiàn)實 Is it realistic to have that schma or is this one more realistic? 擁有這樣的基膜是否現(xiàn)實 或者說這個才比較現(xiàn)實 Well, I think it’s pretty obvious. There is no straight line toward 我想這是很明顯的 要達到成功可沒有直線的捷徑 success. There is no straight line toward a happy relationship. 要達成一段快樂的戀情也沒有捷徑 There is no straight line toward being inventing the light bulb, or 要發(fā)明電燈泡也沒有捷徑 being good at psychology, or being a good parent or a good 學好心理學也沒有 想成為好的父母或者朋友也沒有 friend. We make mistakes. And “nature to be manded must 我們會犯錯 而且 自然的規(guī)律我們必須遵守 be obeyed.” Pursuing excellence is about a constraint view of 追求卓越就是要客服困難 nature. Yes, I wish that I could get from point A to point B in 是啊 我也希望我能直接從 A 點到 B點 this way. I wish I were so, I didn’t enjoy failing my generals。 it’s embarrassing often. However, people who 經(jīng)常使人尷尬 但是 那些 ultimately succeed recognize that value of failure and learning 最為成功的人都會認識到失敗并從失敗中學習價值 from it. There’s a wonderful book that came out recently by one 有一本很有趣的書是由我的一位導師最近完成的 of my mentors he taught at the business school for a few years。lesson 15 Student: Hello. Last lecture we learned about recovery. 大家好 上節(jié)課我們學到了休整 At time, away from work really relax, I’ d like to invite you to join a 時不時地工作 放松一下自己 我想邀請你們參加一項 traditional and timetested recovery period, Shiva, the Jewish Sabbath. 傳統(tǒng)并且 有歷史淵源的休整節(jié)日 猶太安息日 This Friday night, Howard Hill and Hervat at Harvard invite you and your 這周星期五 哈佛的 Howard Hill 和 Hervat 將邀請 大家 friends to Shiva dinner at the Mac for Shiva 1000. Come for free dinner 來 Mac 中心享用猶太安息日大餐 at the deck down Mac with all of your friends, where our very 歡迎來到 Mac 中心的露天平臺和你的朋友一起 own professor Tal Benshaher will b